• EPS 106 Thriving Despite Narcissism
    Jan 22 2026
    Are you feeling trapped in a marriage that feels more like a battlefield than a partnership? In this eye-opening video, relationship coach Connie Durham dives deep into the complexities of narcissism in marriage, revealing how it can erode trust and intimacy, leading to emotional exhaustion and isolation. You’ll discover the hidden reasons behind narcissistic behaviors and learn practical strategies for survival and empowerment. Don’t let fear and frustration dictate your life—watch now and reclaim your peace and happiness! Breakthrough the pain, schedule an hour with Connie. Go to www.TheExtraordinaryMarriage.com and scroll down to Fresh Insights Understanding Narcissism in Marriage - The Core Problem: Narcissism can turn a marriage into a one-sided battlefield characterized by control, manipulation, criticism, belittling, emotional abuse, and a lack of empathy. This erodes trust, intimacy, and joy, leading to fear, frustration, and hopelessness. - Victims' Experience: Individuals married to narcissists often experience anxiety, depression, feelings of isolation, loss of identity, and chronic stress due to tactics like gaslighting and blame-shifting. - Dual Personalities: Narcissists may present a different persona in public compared to their behavior at home, where they let their guard down and reveal their true selves. Reasons for Narcissistic Behavior The video explores several potential reasons behind narcissistic traits: - Genetics and Personality Styles: Inherited traits can play a role. - Learned Behavior: Witnessing or experiencing similar dynamics in childhood, such as growing up in a dysfunctional home. - Childhood Trauma: Experiences like abuse, rejection, emotional trauma, bullying, or neglect can lead to the development of defensive walls and coping mechanisms, with narcissism sometimes being a manifestation of these. - Environmental Factors: Dysfunctional parenting, excessive praise with no boundaries, overprotectiveness, neglect, criticism, inconsistent upbringing, unstable home life, poverty, violence, narcissistic parents, or a dysfunctional society. - Chemical Imbalances and Stress: These can also contribute to a reduced capacity for empathy. Devastating Outcomes for the Spouse Living with a narcissist can lead to: - Emotional Exhaustion: Constant manipulation and emotional drain. - Isolation: Narcissists often try to cut off their partners from friends and family, creating secrecy and dependency. - Control and Gaslighting: Narcissists manipulate reality by making their partners doubt their own perceptions, memory, and sanity. This erodes self-worth and leads to the feeling that "I must be the problem." - Anxiety and Depression: The constant stress and emotional turmoil can lead to significant mental health challenges. - Loss of Trust and Support: The relationship dynamics make it impossible to feel supported or trust one's partner. Strategies for Survival and Empowerment - Set Firm Boundaries: Clearly communicate limits and refuse to engage in disrespectful behavior. - Disengage from Arguments: Recognize that arguing with a narcissist is often futile, like talking to a brick wall. It may be necessary to leave the room or conversation. - Gray Rock Method: Respond minimally and neutrally to de-escalate situations and avoid providing emotional reactions that narcissists often feed on. - Build a Support Circle: Connect with trusted friends, family, support groups, coaches, or counselors. Seek out others who exhibit the qualities you desire in a marriage. - Prioritize Self-Care: Engage in activities that fill your cup, such as hobbies, reading, exercise, prayer, and spending time with supportive people. - Discipline Your Mind: Combat negative self-talk and focus on positive affirmations. Remind yourself that you are not the cause of the problem and that you are worthy of peace and happiness. - Understand, Don't Excuse: While understanding the potential roots of narcissistic behavior can offer perspective, it does not excuse the harmful actions. The video emphasizes that individuals deserve peace, strength, and a loving marriage, encouraging viewers to seek help and reclaim their well-being. Connie Durham, speaker and relationship coach The Extraordinary Marriage Breakthrough the pain, schedule an hour with Connie. Go to www.TheExtraordinaryMarriage.com and scroll down to Fresh Insights #theextraordinarymarriage #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #positivevibes #marriagepodcast #marriedlife #marriagevideo #podcast #consciousmarriage #couple #family #familydynamics #familydrama #familylove #fearlessmindset
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    18 Min.
  • Eps 105 The Importance of Vision & Second Chances in Marriage
    Jan 8 2026

    Ready to be Empowered? 🌟We are delving into the transformative power of vision in our marriage. Join us as we explore how having a shared vision can guide couples through challenges, reignite passion, and foster deeper connections.

    We’ll focus on practical steps to create a compelling vision, emphasizing the importance of aligning individual goals with a shared future.

    Whether you're facing a crossroads in your relationship or simply seeking to strengthen your bond, this episode offers🌈 valuable insights and five actionable steps to help you create the🌞 extraordinary marriage you desire.

    In this episode I use Valorie Burton's Book... "Rules of Resilience."

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    Connie Durham... Atlanta Suburbs... Providing Resources, Encouragement, and Education for Couples

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    37 Min.
  • EPS 104 Reflecting on the Year Together
    Dec 25 2025

    Connie discusses the importance of proactively addressing issues before they escalate, emphasizing the need to understand love languages, communication styles, and personality differences.

    She introduces seven questions to help couples assess their relationship strengths and areas for improvement, sharing personal experiences that highlight the value of intentionality in marriage.

    Are you ready to strengthen your marriage and deepen your connection? In this episode of The Extraordinary Marriage Podcast, Connie explores the power of regular reflection and assessment in relationships.

    Turn your relationship around by purchasing the "Rediscover Your Spouse" program and using what you learn every day, fostering understanding and connection.

    Tune in for valuable insights that can enhance your marriage and create lasting bonds!

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    30 Min.
  • EPS 103 Creating Family Unity amongst Holiday Stress
    Dec 11 2025

    Create positive mental energy every day. Change your mind and change your thoughts. Enjoy your next family get togethers, after all, we LOVE each other, we're family!

    In this episode of The Extraordinary Marriage Podcast, we explore the often-overlooked dynamics of family gatherings during the holiday season. As we come together to celebrate, it’s easy to forget that everyone carries their own unseen burdens.

    We’ll explore how different personalities react to the hustle and bustle of the season, and how we can each take responsibility for our mindset and actions.

    Join us to learn how to bring your best self to family gatherings, encourage one another, and make the most of this special time together!

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    Find ways to overcome adversity and frustration and enjoy your marriage again!

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    22 Min.
  • Eps 102 THANKFUL Together: 10 Reasons to Celebrate Your Marriage
    Nov 27 2025

    Family is the center of a HAPPY LIFE!! We focus on our Irritations when we should be focused on everything we LOVE!! It's Thanksgiving 2025!

    Take action and count your Blessings Today. You will GET MORE of what you FOCUS on!! Everyone wants The Extraordinary Marriage.

    I help couples shift from Ho-hum or Strained Marriages to Better Communication, Mutual Respect, More Trust & Romance.

    How would YOU like to have ALL that? It takes action and one step at a time.

    Anyone can eat an elephant... One bit at a time!

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    Episode show Notes

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    1. Emotional Support: - The importance of having a partner to lean on during challenging times, such as dealing with illness or feeling overwhelmed.

    2. Celebrating Different Talents: - Acknowledging and appreciating the unique skills each partner brings to the marriage.

    3. Wisdom and Different Outlooks: - The value of diverse perspectives in a marriage, enhancing mutual understanding and wisdom.

    4. Laughter: - Emphasizing the role of humor in overcoming challenges and strengthening the marital bond.

    5. Intimacy: - The necessity of spending quality time together to maintain a close and intimate relationship.

    6. Communication: - The significance of having someone to share thoughts, ideas, and feelings with.

    7. Adventure: - Engaging in new experiences together, such as participating in a choir or planning trips.

    8. Shared Responsibilities: - The importance of teamwork in managing household and parenting duties.

    9. Parenting Together: - Collaborating on parenting strategies and supporting each other in raising children.

    10. Celebrating Successes: - Recognizing and enjoying each other's achievements and milestones.

    Hi, I'm Connie Durham and I help couples shift from Ho-hum or Strained Marriages to better communication, mutual respect, more trust and romance. FIND me at - https://www.TheExtraordinaryMarriage.com

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    14 Min.
  • EPS 101 - How to Build Your Best Marriage: What Holds you back and 12 Core Values for Success
    Nov 13 2025

    Today you'll find what's holding you back and what to focus on in order to build that romantic long lasting love life you dream of!

    Connie, a 46-year-married mother of three and grandmother of 15, shares insights on building a successful marriage.

    She identifies three key reasons for relationship challenges: lack of exposure to successful relationships, self-absorption, and the inherent practice nature of marriage.

    Connie emphasizes the importance of learning from successful relationships and re-evaluating one's approach to marriage, comparing it to the learning process of parenting.

    She concludes by highlighting the need to focus on building a strong marriage, referencing 1 Peter 4:8, which states, "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins."

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    Aligning Marriage Values for Strength Connie discussed the importance of aligning personal core values with those of a spouse to strengthen a marriage. She emphasized the need for open communication, which she identified as a key factor in both troubled and successful marriages. Connie suggested that by incorporating her 12 shared values, couples could significantly improve their relationships.

    Building Strong Marital Foundations Connie discussed the importance of communication, trust, respect, loyalty, and commitment in marriage. She emphasized that open and honest communication helps resolve conflicts and keeps couples connected. Trust and respect are essential for a strong foundation in a marriage, and loyalty and commitment mean prioritizing the spouse over others.

    Honesty was also highlighted as a crucial aspect of a healthy marriage. Honesty in Relationships: Key Insights Connie discussed the importance of honesty in relationships, emphasizing the need for transparency and open communication.

    She shared personal examples, such as compromising on dining choices with her spouse and observing her granddaughter's preferences during a shopping trip. Connie highlighted that honesty involves being considerate of others' feelings and preferences, without necessarily prioritizing one's own desires.

    Strengthening Marriage Through Loyalty Connie discussed the importance of fidelity and loyalty in marriage, emphasizing that a lack of faithfulness can dissolve the relationship. She also highlighted the value of appreciation in a marriage, comparing it to making deposits in a relationship bank account. Connie encouraged focusing on the positive aspects of a spouse's actions and expressing gratitude to strengthen the marriage.

    Appreciation and Forgiveness as Values Connie discussed the importance of appreciation and forgiveness as core values. She emphasized that focusing on what we appreciate in others brings more of it, and forgiveness is essential for maintaining positive relationships. Connie noted that holding onto grudges is detrimental to one's well-being, comparing it to drinking poison. Building Compassionate and Equal Relationships Connie discussed the importance of forgiveness, openness, compassion, and equality in relationships, emphasizing the need for vulnerability, empathy, and shared responsibilities.

    She highlighted that a lack of compassion can indicate selfishness and suggested that couples showing mutual support is crucial.

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    26 Min.
  • EPS 100 Relationship Reset: Desire-Commitment-Determination
    Oct 30 2025

    "Ever feel like your marriage is a rollercoaster ride with more downs than ups?

    Join us on Episode 100 of Relationship Reset: Desire-Commitment-Determination, where we unveil the secrets to transforming your relationship into an exciting journey brimming with passion and intention!

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    In this milestone episode, we celebrate the journey of love and partnership with insights that will reignite your desire, strengthen your commitment, and bolster your determination. Discover actionable strategies to enhance intimacy, communication, and connection, ensuring your marriage thrives amidst life’s challenges.

    Here are five fascinating insights from "The Extraordinary Marriage" podcast this week, that can help you RESET your marriage.

    The Chemistry of Lasting Love: Discover a formula for success called the "Chemistry of Lasting Love," offering quick wins for couples eager to improve their relationship. Identifying the Need for a Reset: Learn how to recognize when your marriage needs a reset, especially if you find yourselves constantly arguing, withdrawing from each other, or lacking romance. (On my gift page)

    Addressing Obstacles: Understand the importance of identifying and addressing obstacles causing conflict, such as disagreements about parenting, finances, or household responsibilities. Making

    More Deposits than Withdrawals: The podcast emphasizes the significance of making more positive contributions (deposits) to your marriage than negative ones (withdrawals), like complaining or not unforgiving.

    Planning Your Marriage: Many people invest more time planning their wedding than their marriage. This episode encourages couples to focus on planning their life together and discussing what truly matters to each other.

    These insights can serve as a foundation for couples to begin resetting and revitalizing their marriage. Tune in and take the first step toward a more extraordinary marriage!

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    32 Min.
  • EPS 99 Why In-Law Conflict Happens
    Oct 16 2025

    Are you navigating the tricky waters of in-law relationships? You're not alone! In this episode of The Extraordinary Marriage Podcast, Connie dives deep into the challenges of managing in-law dynamics after marriage, emphasizing the critical need to prioritize your spouse over parents while setting healthy boundaries.

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    Connie shares her insights on how to reflect on your family dynamics and discuss them with your spouse to understand the origins of advice and behaviors. She encourages listeners to use a guide she provides to navigate in-law relationships, focusing on mutual interests instead of personal grievances. As she discusses in-law relationships in marriage,

    Connie highlights the importance of setting boundaries and communicating respectfully. She explains how in-laws' behavior can affect marital unity and suggests couples work together to define their family dynamics. With an emphasis on forgiveness and kindness,

    Connie references a biblical verse and encourages listeners to consider the long-term implications of their current relationships with in-laws.

    Connie also touches on the challenges and values in inter-family relationships, stressing the importance of faith, truthfulness, and cultural differences. She addresses how financial habits and family expectations can impact relationships, suggesting that learning from each other and open communication can help bridge these differences.

    Throughout the episode, Connie delves into the challenges of managing different expectations between spouses and in-laws, highlighting the importance of proactive communication to avoid frustration. She identifies four personality styles that can drive conflicts, advising listeners to understand these styles to navigate tensions effectively.

    Connie shares her personal experience of having a positive relationship with her mother-in-law, despite occasional challenges, and introduces an acronym (LOVE) to guide healthy interactions: Listen Attentively, Offer Support, Value Each Other, and Engage in Fun. She encourages listeners to focus on their own behavior rather than trying to control others, and recommends her Rediscover Your Spouse Workshop as a resource for improving relationships. Tune in to this enlightening episode to gain valuable insights on navigating in-law relationships and building a stronger marriage!

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    Grow Together, Laugh Together, Love Forever

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    29 Min.