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In this conversation, I'm joined by Samantha Thomas, founder of MyndGym, to talk about mental fitness and why it matters so much during divorce and separation.

When you're navigating a major life change, your nervous system narrows. Your window of tolerance shrinks. Everything feels heavier. More urgent. Harder than it "should".

Sam explains the difference between mental health and mental fitness and why small, repeatable daily practices build real capacity when you're overwhelmed.

We cover:

• Why rest is productive

• What's happening in your nervous system during separation

• How to regulate before making big decisions

• Why journaling helps (and why you can throw the paper away)

• Simple tools beyond meditation

• Anchoring into your values when identity feels shaky

• The "Ta-Da List" for when you feel behind

• A powerful 3-minute reset

• Why gratitude might be the smallest habit that changes everything

If you're functioning but exhausted this episode is for you.

You can find MyndGym at: myndgym.life (Mind is spelled with a "y").

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Samantha Thomas, Founder of MyndGym.

Meet Sam - She is a a life coach, certified youth mentor, and founder of MyndGym - a mental fitness gym with classes every day in journaling, coaching, meditation and breathwork. She believes that for people to be truly well, they need to prioritise and nurture the relationship they have with themselves and practice the little things that help their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. MyndGym is her chance to help people exercise their mental fitness on a regular basis, so they can feel better and supported in their lives.

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This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

What does it actually mean when someone says, "I just want to be heard" and why does it matter so much in mediation? In this episode, I'm joined by Gerard Rees, Senior Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner at Simple Separation, to unpack what mediators listen for, how power imbalances show up, and why superannuation is often the most underestimated asset in family property settlements.

We talk through full and frank disclosure, why you shouldn't mediate "blind," and the very real house vs super trade-offs that can shape your life not just now but in 10, 15, 30 years.

In this episode we cover:

• Why "I want to be heard" can signal a power imbalance (especially financially);

• The non-negotiables before mediation: an agreed balance sheet + values + disclosure;

• Why legal advice before mediation changes everything (confidence, clarity, reality testing);

• How the law recognises non-financial contributions (parenting + domestic work);

• Why super feels "personal" (and why people get emotionally attached to it);

• The most common house vs super trade-off and how to think it through;

• Gerard's best "pause before you agree" tip: today's needs vs future security.

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Gerard Rees, Senior Mediator, Simple Separation

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This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

If you're separated (or separating) and you keep replaying the past, rewriting conversations, and wondering "Maybe I'm the one who's wrong…" this episode is for you.

One of the most common (and most unsettling) things I see after a breakup isn't confusion about money, logistics, or parenting schedules. It's people quietly doubting their own reality. There's a name for it: self-gaslighting and it can keep you stuck long after the relationship ends.

In this short solo episode, I explain what self-gaslighting is, why separation turns up the volume, and how to rebuild trust in yourself safely and slowly.

• What self-gaslighting is (and how it differs from everyday self-doubt).

• Why divorce/separation can make your inner critic louder even if leaving was the right call.

• The "quiet, reasonable" thoughts that slowly erode self-trust.

• Two real-world examples (Sarah + Tom) and how self-gaslighting shows up differently.

• Practical ways to start coming back to your reality, your instincts, and your steadiness.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going:
Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE.

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This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

Some of the hardest days after separation aren't the days where everything falls apart.

They're the days that look "fine" on paper — birthdays, Christmas morning, school milestones, first days back — and yet I still feel that sting afterwards.

In this episode, I'm talking about why milestone days can hurt more than you expect, especially when social media tells the story first. Not because a photo is "wrong"… but because the timing, the caption, and the implied narrative can leave you feeling edited out of your child's life.

This isn't petty. It's grief meeting visibility. And it's more common than people admit.

• Why special occasions after separation can feel heavier than ordinary days;

• The difference between missing a moment and being missing from the story;

• How "posting" becomes a proxy fight for identity, belonging, and being seen as a parent;

• What kids absorb from adult emotion around photos, captions, and visibility;

• Practical social media boundaries that reduce conflict and protect children.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going:
Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE.

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This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.

Disclaimer

I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

Dr Gina Cleo joins me for a powerful conversation about the tiny habits that help you steady yourself after separation especially when identity, routine and confidence feel completely shaken.

Gina shares openly about her three divorces and the very human process of rebuilding from the inside out. We explore how separation disrupts the "micro-moments" of your day, why habits shape identity, and the difference between having a habit problem versus simply having no capacity left.

We also talk about:

• Small actions that rebuild confidence and clarity

• Breaking patterns like people-pleasing and overexplaining

• Co-parenting systems that create emotional safety

• Why motivation can't be relied on during grief or overwhelm

• The one habit she recommends for anyone drowning in stress

This episode is gentle, practical and full of hope. If you're trying to find your feet again, start here — with habits that heal.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going:
Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Dr Gina Cleo, PhD . Habit Researcher . Speaker . Author . Dietitian

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This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.

Disclaimer

I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.