In this episode, Verity Jo Coonan explores a powerful reframe in healing and Breathwork: intensity does not equal transformation, safety does.

In a wellness world that often glorifies peak experiences, emotional release, and catharsis, Verity invites a slower, more honest conversation about what actually creates lasting change in the nervous system.

Drawing on trauma-informed principles and real-world facilitation experience, this episode unpacks why regulation matters more than how “deep” a session feels and how integration, consistency, and daily practices are where healing is truly embodied.

Inside this conversation:

• Why safety must come before intensity in breathwork and healing

• How a regulated nervous system creates sustainable transformation

• The difference between catharsis and integration

• Why grounding after intense experiences is essential

• How daily practices build resilience, capacity, and self-trust

• When intensity becomes escapism rather than healing

This episode is for anyone navigating healing, breathwork, or personal growth, especially those who feel drawn to “more” but are craving stability, safety, and integration instead.

Because your body already knows what safety feels like.
Healing begins when you listen.

🎧 Listen now and be sure to share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it.

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● @verityjocoonan @vidya_certification

● Join Breathwork & healing ⁠APP @vidya.app

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In this episode, Verity Jo Coonan speaks openly about one of the most important and often avoided conversations in the breathwork space: safety.

- Not safety as a checkbox.
- Not safety as a certification.
But safety as something that is lived, embodied, and practiced.

Drawing from personal experience, facilitation work, and years of holding people through deep emotional states, Verity explores why being “trauma-informed” isn’t something you learn once, it’s something you become.

This conversation challenges the belief that technique equals readiness, and instead invites facilitators, coaches, and space-holders to reflect on their own nervous system, self-awareness, and capacity to truly meet another human.

Inside this episode:

• Why certification alone doesn’t make you a safe facilitator

• What trauma-informed facilitation actually requires

• Why technique should never come before nervous-system safety

• How lived experience shapes real leadership and presence

• The human element that can’t be taught only embodied

This is an honest, grounded conversation for anyone working in healing, coaching, or Breathwork and for anyone who has ever trusted another person with their vulnerability.

Because transformation doesn’t happen through methods alone.
It happens through presence, humility, and safety.

🎧 Listen now and be sure to share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it.

Connect & Train with Verity

● @verityjocoonan @vidya_certification

● Join Breathwork & healing ⁠APP @vidya.app

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In this threshold episode of The Dark Side of Verity, Verity Jo Coonan invites you to slow down, breathe, and meet yourself in stillness.

Inspired by the Lighthouse Principle, this is not a “how-to” conversation it’s an embodied reflection on leadership, boundaries, nervous system authority, and what happens when you stop chasing connection and start anchoring into yourself.

Verity explores how over-explaining, over-giving, and over-availability often stem from people-pleasing and trauma responses and how self-abandonment can quietly lead to resentment, burnout, and disconnection from your own body. Through breath, lived experience, and grounded insight, she shares why safety comes from consistency, not urgency, and why the most magnetic leaders don’t move, they hold.

This episode is for you if:

• You feel exhausted from always being available to others

• You’re learning to set boundaries without guilt or aggression

• You’re stepping into leadership, in life, relationships, or facilitation

• You’re ready to lead from regulation, not rescue

If something softened in your body while listening, that’s your nervous system recognising safety.

You don’t need to chase.
You don’t need to explain.
You don’t need to abandon yourself.

You just need to decide if you’re ready to be the lighthouse.

Ready to lead with breath? Apply for VIDYA Breathwork™ Facilitator Training (100% online) or book a 1:1 with Verity. Share this episode with a friend who needs Nervous System safety and hope.

🎧 Listen now and be sure to share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it.

Connect & Train with Verity

● @verityjocoonan @vidya_certification

● Join Breathwork & healing ⁠APP @thevidyawellnessclub.app

● Follow us on @thedarksidewithverity