Pastor Mike opens by tracing self-restraint back to his old career auditing client books as a CPA, long before recovery or ministry, and how quickly you learn that your reaction to people can't be your response if you want to keep the job. What surprises him now is how naturally that discipline has carried into the rest of his life. People tell him often how calm and patient he is, and he's honest that inside his own head he isn't nearly as composed as it looks from the outside. The difference is he's learned to withhold the reaction long enough for an actual response to form.

Corey brings the practical mechanics of watching for it in real time, likening it to a stakeout: not fighting what shows up, just watching it, staying alert to selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear until something calls for real action. He circles back to Bill's train metaphor from a few weeks earlier, that once the train leaves the station you don't get off until it stops, though you still get to choose whether you sit still or make a scene while you ride it. Both admit they've done plenty of getting up and acting the fool. The episode lands on Galatians 5 and the fruit of the Spirit, self-control among them, as something worked in a person rather than manufactured through willpower alone.

The stone for today: Strength is revealed not by how quickly I react, but how wisely I choose my response.

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Corey opens with a well-worn point about self-centeredness, that if trouble is everyone else's fault, he'll happily take other people down with him rather than carry the blame alone. He traces it back to a story he's told before about his father's cancer diagnosis and a girlfriend's Xanax prescription, and comes clean on a detail he'd gotten wrong in earlier tellings. It wasn't given to him. He took it from her purse without her knowing, and for years the softer version felt better because it meant he wasn't the only one responsible.

From there the two of them dig into the Fourth Step's fourth column as the real training ground for the Tenth Step's daily practice, and Corey describes watching a sponsee's whole outlook shift the moment he wrote his part down in black and white rather than hiding behind vague language like selfish or dishonest. Pastor Mike ties it to the difference between a reaction and a response, and to learning how to actually listen instead of just waiting for his turn to argue back. It closes with Psalm 51, David's prayer for a clean heart after being confronted by Nathan, and the shared conviction that neither of their hearts started out pure, but both are far purer now than they used to be.

The stone for today: Freedom begins when I stop trying to change others and instead allow God to change me.

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Steffani closes out the week solo with the most ordinary example yet, her company's return-to-office mandate after seven years of working from home. She's candid about how bitter and resentful she got over something she had zero control over, replaying the same grievances on a loop until she noticed what it was actually doing to her, and to everyone around her who had to hear it.

The turn comes when she realizes the only thing she could actually manage in the situation was herself, her own thinking, her own words, her own attitude, and takes it to Philippians 4:6-7's instruction to be anxious for nothing and let requests be made known to God instead. Three weeks back in the office later, what looked like pure loss turned into something she didn't expect: real conversations with people she hadn't seen in years, including one with a coworker of a different faith entirely. She closes the week on Jeremiah 29:11 and a line that ties the whole series together, that she's not a piddly human doing, carrying the world on her own shoulders, but a piddly human being who gets to hand the outcome over and actually rest in that.

The stone for today: My reactions often reveal more about the condition of my heart than about the circumstances around me.

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