I woke up as a ticking clock, not a ticking bomb"I couldn't even say I'm sorry for my behaviour."
"I'm a ticking time bomb, pretty much."
Joe Henderson lives with a mechanical heart valve — every beat an audible reminder of the surgeries that saved him. Add a heart attack at 37, the loss of his best mate, PTSD from police work, and 15 years as a single dad, and you have a man with every reason to break. Instead, he faced the mirror — literally — and changed.
What we explore:
- Rebuilding life after multiple heart surgeries and a stress-driven heart attack at 37
- The weight of grief — losing his best mate — and what it did to his mental health and family
- The mirror exercise: brutal daily self-honesty as the engine of change
- Talking to your children about mental health, and why honesty beats pretending
- Breaking the cycle of toxic masculinity and what fathers model for the next generation
Chapters
00:56 Introduction to Joe Henderson's Journey
01:20 Facing Life-Changing Health Challenges
03:33 The Impact of Loss and Grief
10:40 Navigating Personal and Professional Struggles
17:19 The Turning Point: Realisations and Changes
22:19 Rebuilding Life and Identity
28:30 The Mirror Exercise: Self-Reflection and Growth
35:45 The Journey of Self-Pride
38:13 The Role of Children in Recovery
41:13 Honesty and Vulnerability in Parenting
44:45 Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Masculinity
50:27 The Importance of Male Role Models
55:02 Asking for Help: A Sign of Strength
59:53 Creating Connections in a Disconnected World
Connect with Joe:
Website: joe-betterdad.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/leaddontblame
Facebook: facebook.com/leaddontblame
Instagram: @leaddontblame
A little about HamishI spent 25 years building a life that looked successful from the outside, but within, it was the opposite. Everything was falling apart, and I was throwing fuel on that fire. The joy of life had fallen away. Late November 2018, I had to make a choice: live or die. I chose to live, and everything changed. I had to confront the pain I was carrying, look at the stories, and change. I built The Brave Man Project because there was nothing like this when I needed it.
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