In this episode of Split: A Podcast on Modern Divorce, host and New York family law attorney Gus Dimopoulos is joined by Heidi Davidson for a fast-paced game of “Red Flag / Green Flag.” Using real questions from listeners, Gus breaks down common divorce scenarios—from quitting a job before filing to consulting an attorney early—and explains which moves help protect you and which can seriously hurt your case. It’s a practical look at the decisions that can shape the financial and custody outcomes of a divorce.

Gus Dimopoulos dives into a surprisingly complicated issue: 50/50 custody. A lot of people hear “equal time” and assume it’s automatically fair. But what if the system is treating 50/50 like the default solution even when it doesn’t fit the family? Gus discusses when 50/50 works, when it doesn’t, and why conflict, safety, and the child’s best interests have to come first.

This episode is about what people get wrong – and right – when it comes to private investigators in divorce cases. Despite what TV and movies suggest, this isn’t about drama or catching someone in the act. It’s about timing, legality, strategy, and protecting yourself. Jessica Zannetti, a Principal and Head of Research and Investigations at Sound Waters Intelligence, has extensive experience working alongside divorce attorneys on cases involving infidelity, hidden assets, custody concerns, and high-conflict situations. She brings a unique perspective on investigations, and how being a woman in this field can change what information people share, what gets noticed, and ultimately, what holds up legally. If you’ve ever had a gut feeling you weren’t sure what to do with or wondered when to ask questions versus when to stay quiet, this episode is for you.