Work from home is a career killer for women? I disagree a thousand percent. In this episode, I’m challenging the idea that ambition has to come at the expense of your mental health, your time, or your identity. I’m talking about my experience in corporate America as a Black woman, the invisible labor that comes with being in office, what the research actually says about remote work and productivity, and who the “three hour mom” narrative really applies to. Because not all advice is universal, and success should not require you to lose yourself in the process.

Stats mentioned:

• Code switching can cost Black professionals 2–3 hours of mental energy daily (Harvard Business Review, 2019)
• 64% of Black employees experience at least one racial microaggression per week (McKinsey & Company, 2023)
• Black women reported a 31% improvement in psychological well-being when working remotely (American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 2022)
• Remote and hybrid work reduced racial microaggressions by 42% for Black women (SHRM, 2023)
• Remote workers show a 13% increase in productivity (Stanford Business, 2020)
• 87% of employees report being equally or more productive working from home (Microsoft WorkLab)
• Remote and hybrid workers report higher engagement than fully in-office employees (Gallup, 2023)

In this episode, we cover:

• Why the “work from home is a career killer” narrative ignores what Black women actually experience
• The real cost of code switching, and why the office is not a neutral space
• Why being seen at work still doesn’t guarantee being considered
• How communication bias shows up in emails and perception
• The truth about the “three hour mom” – and what it actually requires
• What the data really says about productivity at home
• Why you need to be selective about whose advice you follow

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

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This episode contains graphic depictions of domestic violence. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or text “START” to 88788.

Kiana built her platform on transparency, but this conversation makes it clear just how much she was holding at the same time. What looked like a happy, growing relationship online was layered with control, instability, and survival behind the scenes – and she was navigating all of it while pregnant, postpartum, and still showing up publicly. We talk about what it actually means to live through something in real time without the luxury of stepping away, how content creation became both an outlet and a lifeline, and why the version of a relationship you see online can be completely real and still not be the full truth. This episode isn’t about exposing social media – it’s about understanding why women stay, why they leave, and what it costs to delay your own healing.

Kiana Leroux is a content creator known for her honest, lived-experience advice and transparent storytelling around relationships, motherhood, and personal growth.

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Stats mentioned:

• 62% of creators report burnout (Forbes Healthy Study, 2025)
• 65% of content creators experience anxiety and depression (Fast Company & Creator Studies, 2025)

In this episode I cover:

• What’s actually happening behind “happy” relationship content
• Why leaving isn’t always a clean or immediate decision
• How abuse can exist alongside love, success, and visibility
• The role content creation can play when you’re trying to survive something
• Why “ride or die” culture sets women up to lose
• The difference between real connection and emotional intensity
• What it looks like to rebuild while still being watched

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

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This episode is me saying the quiet part out loud: you are not struggling because you’re doing motherhood wrong. You’re struggling because there is no real support system built for you. I’m introducing Empower Her Village, but this isn’t just an announcement, it’s a response to something I’ve seen over and over again, in my own life and in yours. Mothers who are doing everything “right,” working, showing up, holding it all together, and still can’t afford childcare, therapy, or even basic help at home. Not because they’re irresponsible, but because they fall into a gap no one is talking about. The government has the data. They know mothers are leaving the workforce, they know most can’t access mental health care, and they’ve chosen to do nothing. So instead of continuing to tell you to “prioritize yourself” without giving you the tools to do it, I decided to build something that actually supports you. Because the truth is, it still takes a village… but now that village costs money. And if you don’t have access to it, no amount of advice is going to fix that.

Connect with Empower Her Village:

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• info@empowerhervillage.org

Resources mentioned:

• 2025 U.S. Maternal Mental Health Risk and Resources by County
• Women say caregiving and child care costs are the No. 1 reason they quit the workforce last year, according to new data

Some key takeaways from this episode are:

• The “missing middle” is real! Mothers earning too much to qualify for assistance but not enough to afford childcare, therapy, or household help are being left to figure it out alone, and it’s why so many are silently struggling.
• “Prioritize yourself” is not useful advice if you don’t have the resources to do it. The issue is clearly not that mothers don’t want to take care of themselves. But that they don’t have access to the support that makes it possible.
• The village still exists, it’s just no longer free. What used to be family and community support now shows up as paid services like childcare, therapy, and household help, and every mother deserves access to that level of support.

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

Connect with Me:

• Instagram
• Shop My
• LTK
• YouTube - Chancè
• YouTube - Selfish Parenting
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