A lot of people treat marriage and motherhood like deadlines you’re supposed to hit. In this episode, I break down how I think about readiness, not as a timeline, but as an intentional choice that should add to your life, not shrink it. I share what actually mattered to me before getting married, from choosing an exceptional partner to knowing who I was outside of a relationship and being able to financially support myself. Then we get into what real readiness for kids looks like: the costs people don’t talk about, the emotional work that shows up in postpartum and parenting triggers, and the reality that choosing to have children is a lifelong commitment. If you’re going to choose marriage or motherhood, this episode is about choosing it on purpose… not out of pressure, fear, or expectation.

Resources mentioned:

• Rise of the SHEconomy - Morgan Stanley Research
• Health fertility and age-related pregnancy data - UCSF Facility Research

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Marriage or Motherhood:

• If your partner never changes, same job, same mindset, same habits, would you still want to be with them?
• Can you financially support yourself without relying on a partner?
• Do you know who you are outside of a relationship or motherhood?
• Have you lived independently enough to know what you actually want (living alone, traveling alone, dating different people)?
• What would you realistically have to sacrifice or give up if you had children?
• Have you addressed your own childhood trauma and personal triggers?
• Are you choosing marriage or kids because you truly want them? Or because of fear or societal pressure?

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

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A lot of couples talk about “building together.”Fewer talk about what happens when ambition, money, children, and the internet all enter the relationship at the same time. In this episode, I sit down with Colette Louis to talk about what it actually looks like to grow a marriage while growing businesses – without one partner quietly carrying the invisible weight of it all. We unpack how she and her husband made early decisions about money, labor, and priorities, why outsourcing became a necessity rather than a luxury, and how they protect their relationship in a culture that rewards oversharing. This conversation challenges the idea that doing everything alone is something to be proud of, and offers a more honest picture of partnership, boundaries, and shared responsibility.

Colette Louis is a lifestyle creator, wife, mom of two, and entrepreneur who shares honest conversations about motherhood, home, and building a life that feels as good as it looks. She’s the voice behind Simply Colette, where she blends everyday routines with intentional living and soft ambition. Known for turning real life into relatable storytelling, Colette encourages women to move beyond survival mode and step into thriving – at home and within themselves. Through her content and community, she reminds women that growth can be gentle, beautiful, and still powerful.

Connect with Colette:

• Website
• IG
• TikTok

Resources mentioned:

• Invisible Household Labor and Ramifications for Adjustment: Mothers as Captains of Households

In this episode, we cover:

• What it really means to build a business with your spouse
• Why “equal” doesn’t always mean “fair” when it comes to labor at home
• How invisible labor contributes to burnout and resentment
• Outsourcing as a strategic decision, not a moral failure
• Setting boundaries online to protect your marriage offline
• Why help isn’t optional if you want sustainability, not survival

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

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• LTK
• YouTube - Chancè
• YouTube - Selfish Parenting
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We keep hearing that the birth rate is falling, the economy is panicking, and somehow the solution lives in women’s bodies. In this episode, I’m saying the quiet part out loud: every reason to have children is selfish -- and that’s not a bad thing. As a mother of four, I unpack why choosing not to have children is not selfish at all, but often an act of self-preservation. Through my own birth stories, research on maternal health, and the realities no one puts on the baby shower invitation, this episode challenges the idea that women owe their bodies, or their lives, to society. Motherhood should always be a choice, never a moral obligation.

Resources mentioned:

• Diary of a CEO podcast episode featuring Dr. Erica Komisar (discussion on declining birth rates and women’s autonomy)

In this episode, I cover:

• Why women’s bodies are not economic policy or national resources
• The real, lifelong physical and mental costs of pregnancy and childbirth
• Why there is no truly “selfless” reason to have children, and why honesty matters
• How child-free women often help hold families and communities together
• A practical decision framework to help you decide if having (or having more) children is right for you

Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.

Connect with Me:

• Instagram
• Shop My
• LTK
• YouTube - Chancè
• YouTube - Selfish Parenting
• TikTok