In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine through a beautiful exercise piggy backing off of the needs exercise from last episode (though this can also be used as a stand alone exercise).

Hallie explains why it so important to connect to our needs and how the world might be a more supportive place to live if we all valued needs.

Then, after a short "coming into presence" moment, Hallie guides us (and you) through rating each of the needs based first on our body compass then letting parts express whatever comes up for them.

After getting an overall rating for how well our nine universal needs are met in this chapter of our lives, Hallie guides us in exploring how our highest and lowest rated needs could be met by Self, Support (from another person), and the Strategies our parts use to get Supply.

This exercise has the potential to bring so much clarity, compassion, and creativity into our systems. Please feel free to follow along or just listen, and we'd love to hear how the exercise was for you in the comment section below.

0:00 Intro
0:10 Theme Song
0:36 Exercise Introduction
1:48 Exercise Overview
3:58 Coming Into Presence
7:28 The 9 Universal Human Needs
15:35 The Wheel Of Needs
20:11 Rating Our Needs
22:02 The Need for Safety
24:59 The Need for Sustenance
26:50 The Need For Rest
29:22 The Need For Love
30:49 The Need For Understanding
32:32 The Need For Belonging
35:03 The Need For Purpose
36:46 The Need For Creativity
39:19 The Need For Freedom
41:36 Calculating Our Needs Percentage
44:00 Percentage Indicators
46:38 Strategy Overview
52:40 The Importance Of Authenticity
57:24 Lowest & Highest Scores
58:41 Highest Scoring Need
59:53 Highest Score Strategies
1:01:31 Lowest Scoring Need
1:02:16 Lowest Score Strategies
1:04:21 New Strategies For Lowest Score?
1:08:13 Invitation To Further Exploration
1:11:02 Christine's Experience
1:23:52 David's Experience
1:30:21 Closing & Goodbyes
1:32:00 Theme Song
1:33:03 Like & Subscribe

In this episode, Christine shares a Needs-Based Protocol she's been working on. David and Hallie experiment with what emotions feel like in their bodies and how their emotions can be valuable messengers pointing to unmet needs.

Then, Christine leads Hallie and David in an exercise to assess a relationship, environment, or activity by scoring how well they support each of the 9 Universal Human Needs. Then we discuss brainstorming creative strategies to meet those needs ourselves as well as specific requests to make of others.

We welcome you to follow along in these experiments and offer feedback or questions in the comments. As we develop this protocol, your input is highly valuable.

0:00 Intro
0:10 Theme Song
0:37 Exercise Overview
4:45 Noticing Emotions
9:06 The Level Of Suffering
12:30 David's Emotions
15:21 Hallie's Emotions
18:47 The Nine Human Needs
23:29 David's Unmet Needs
25:04 Hallie's Unmet Needs
26:30 Meeting Our Needs
30:29 How Emotions Relate To Needs
35:34 Partner, Place Or Profession?
40:40 Rating Needs Being Met
44:50 High, Medium & Low Scores
50:05 Personally Meeting Our Needs
50:45 Specific Request Of Another Person
52:08 Creating Distance
53:30 Strategy Examples
1:02:34 Outro & Goodbyes
1:04:12 Theme Song
1:05:16 Like & Subscribe

In this episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Christine, Hallie and David speak for their active parts around the exclusion of non therapists from the IFSI training (yes, we still have parts processing the decision made 2 1/2 years ago!). We reference an article entitled "The Ethics of Using IFS in Coaching." Here is the link, if you'd like to read the article yourself: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching

A main point in the article is that IFS is unique in its understanding that it is NOT the practitioner but the client's Self who is the healing agent in their system. So the question is NOT "Who is allowed to facilitate IFS?", but "Who does IFS assert is the healer?"

We discuss our distress over the conflict between therapists and non-therapists created by the exclusion and our desire to be united in the unique hope of IFS. We also discuss how much of mainstream therapy can end up reinforcing client's core wounds such as, "I am helpless," "something is wrong with me," etc. and how anyone with Self energy - a coach, friend, family member - can be supportive of our own Self tending to our parts, and that, ultimately, it is always Love that heals.

0:00 Intro
0:12 Theme Song
0:38 Discussion Intoduction
2:33 How Christine's Parts Responded
4:28 How David's Parts Responded
5:46 How Hallie's Parts Responded
10:42 Article Introduction
12:46 Article Reading
23:21 How Therapy Can Reinforce Wounds
29:59 The Importance Of Self-Energy
36:58 The Importance of Relationship
40:50 The Importance of Inner Work
43:26 The Importance Of Self-Led Friends
52:16 IFSI & Christianity
55:09 How Love Heals
59:53 A Beautiful Poem By Hallie
1:00:48 Closing & Goodbyes
1:01:34 Theme Song
1:02:35 Like & Subscribe!