Hallie guides David in welcoming what is alive in him, which organically leads to the witnessing, redoing, retrieving and offering of secure attachment to a young, vulnerable part.

This is a masterclass in how honoring every part naturally leads to parts relaxing and allowing Self to attune lovingly to whatever arises.

If you have parts who feel embarrassed to cry in front of others, parts who have theories that want to be heard, or parts who take you out completely when approaching something vulnerable, they will feel seen and less alone watching this episode.

I loved this session so much and think you will, too.

-Christine

00:00 – Introduction to David’s live IFS session
03:21 – Meeting the protective parts that monitor what is shared
10:35 – Exploring the belief that nobody can see us cry
15:08 – Making space for grief and the fear of tears
20:56 – Staying with blankness and difficult feelings
25:27 – Exploring grief and the loss of David’s Mum
30:53 – Revisiting childhood experiences of being teased for crying
35:00 – Meeting anger, shame and childhood struggles with belonging
44:47 – The fear of being noticed and not being good enough
49:00 – Imagining a different experience of childhood
53:39 – Reflecting on the adults who could have offered support
59:55 – Discovering what the younger part needs
1:09:37 – Offering reassurance, connection and permission to cry
1:14:00 – Reflecting on the session and the experience
1:20:00 – Final reflections and podcast sign-off

The Besties are back!!!

It's Season 2 of the Self Led Besties Podcast, and in this first episode, Christine, Hallie, and David have a playful conversation about both the art and science of Internal Family Systems. They laugh, get deep and personal, and mix a lot of great metaphors.

And, stay tuned for the lightning round in which Hallie reads many of her inspired sticky notes and everyone responds with one sentence! Please share in the comments the ways in which you experience IFS as both an art and a science, or what your desk notes might say. :) We'd love to hear from you!

00:00 Welcome Back & Halle's Notes
02:40 Is IFS More Art Than Science?
07:00 The Myofascial Release Metaphor
09:20 The Map Is Not the Territory
13:20 Performing IFS & the Pressure of Evaluation
16:25 Learning the Principles & Improvising
19:55 IFS as Painting, Play & Creativity
24:05 The Art AND Science of IFS
28:40 The Quick-Fire Notes 31:45 Resistance Is Valuable
33:30 Closing & Reflections

As a special treat for the Season One Finale of The Self Led Besties Podcast...we decided to be on camera (on the YouTube version at least)!!!

Whenever Hallie and Christine would have "babbling parts," David would graciously call them "babbling brooks," so we decided to call this episode "Three Babbling Brooks."

David begins by telling about what has been alive in him lately - pondering the nature of vulnerable, wounded parts and the various layers around them. From there, we talk about how wounding happens from the inside out and healing occurs as Self brings loving attention to all the layers from the outside in.

As Hallie says, "We've been on the Needs Bus lately," so of course we also bring in how unmet needs relate to wounds and burdened parts. Join us in this silly and serious discussion, and as always, please share any questions or resonance in the comments section below.

0:02 Introduction and Season Finale Announcement
0:42 Theme Song and Lip Sync
2:51 Discussion on Authenticity and Voice Messages
4:10 David's Introduction to Wounding and Healing
5:20 Emotional Beliefs and Protective Parts
7:44 Healing Process and Self-Energy
10:26 Visual and Somatic Components in Healing
13:41 Christine and Hallie's Observations on Protective Parts
16:32 Self-Energy and Integration
34:38 Exploring Needs and Burdening
39:18 Healing and Meeting Needs
54:28 Personal Reflections on the Season
61:29 Upcoming Projects and Workshops

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• the pod: @selfledbestiespod
• Christine: @the_ordinary_sacred
• David: @ifs_awakening
• Hallie: @wiseinside.coaching