Teaching kids about healthy sexuality requires a thoughtful approach that prepares them for marriage, much like teaching them to drive requires instruction before handing over the keys.

• The DRIVE framework provides a comprehensive approach to sex education within families
• D for Dialogue: Keep conversations open, ongoing, and age-appropriate
• R for Respect: Teach children to view their bodies and sexuality as sacred
• I for Instruction: Provide education that matches developmental stages
• V for Values: Ground all conversations in family values about marriage and commitment
• E for Expectation: Build positive anticipation for intimacy within marriage
• Common myths about sex education can undermine effective teaching
• Fear-based messaging creates the problematic "no-no-no, go-go-go" dynamic
• Children need consistent, positive messaging about sexuality as God's gift for marriage
• Parents should model appropriate affection and open communication

If you have questions or need additional resources to talk to your children about sex and sexuality, please email me at moni@monicatanner.com, and check out my upcoming book "Bad Marriage Advice."

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Hanna Kok shares her expertise on the surprising link between forgiveness and physical health, revealing why holding onto grudges causes hormonal imbalances and weakens the immune system. We explore the scientific evidence behind this connection and discuss a practical method for making forgiveness easier.

• When we hold grudges, our muscles tighten, restricting blood flow and nutrient delivery throughout the body
• Brain function decreases dramatically during conflict—the prefrontal cortex (responsible for wisdom and problem-solving) can switch off up to 85%
• Stress emotions attach to cell receptors, triggering responses that put cells in overdrive and eventually lead to health problems
• Different organs are sensitive to specific emotions—the liver responds to anger, lungs to grief, and the gut to feelings of abuse
• Unforgiveness reduces energy available for immune function, making us more susceptible to illness
• The forgiveness method includes identifying what triggered you, recognizing what it reveals about your own healing needs, and seeing the situation as an opportunity for growth
• Practical techniques for releasing unforgiveness include journaling, mirror work, and meditation

For more information on improving health through forgiveness, download Hannah's app at hannahcook.com or visit ithrive.zone

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You deserve a fulfilling sex life without settling or compromising. The FIRE method provides a framework for creating a deeply connected and satisfying intimate relationship that works for both partners.

• Higher desire partners often feel they must settle in their marriages, leading to resentment and diminished intimacy
• Emotional connection alone doesn't guarantee a satisfying sex life – sexual dynamics require specific attention
• F – Face your beliefs about sex that were planted in your "garden" growing up
• I – Initiate honest conversations about desires, boundaries, and preferences
• R – Rewrite the rules together as a couple, free from cultural expectations and shame
• E – Engage consistently through different life stages, creating rituals and "bridges to desire"
• Sexuality should be approached playfully, like recess for adults
• Regular "Sex Talk Tuesdays" can help normalize ongoing conversations about intimacy

For additional resources, download the FIRE worksheet at monicatanner.com/fire or schedule a complimentary 30-minute relationship breakthrough session at monicatanner.com/call.

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