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  • Ep236: Are rope tops less empowered to stop a scene? Checking your SPEEDometer dashboard (listener mail)

    Ep236: Are rope tops less empowered to stop a scene? Checking your SPEEDometer dashboard (listener mail)
    Oct 5 2026
    Can it be harder for a rope top to stop a scene than for the bottom? Listener writes in to ask why calling a halt can sometimes feel particularly difficult or risky for the person tying. We often talk about bottoms having permission to stop, slow down or change a scene, but tops can face their own pressures: expectations around performance, responsibility for the experience, and the feeling that once a scene has started they should be able to see it through. In this episode, Fox and Mya explore: • The unspoken expectations that can make stopping difficult for a rope top • Whether tops should have a safeword - and what the benefits might be • Situations in which it may be appropriate for a top to stop a scene • The different cognitive, emotional, physical, safety and risk-management demands placed on a rope top • How self-concept and external pressures can make it harder to call a halt • The SPEEDometer model and how it can help both tops and bottoms check whether they still have the capacity to continue • Practical tools for recognizing when you are approaching your limits and making it easier to stop before you exceed them Anyone can stop a scene. But all of us can make this easier for those in the scene to do so.
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    33 Min.
  • Ep235: Decorative Rope in Motion - Risks, Parties & Rainbow Weaves with Roper_Ducky

    Ep235: Decorative Rope in Motion - Risks, Parties & Rainbow Weaves with Roper_Ducky
    Sep 21 2026
    Decorative rope can look intricate and intimidating - but what happens when the person wearing it starts moving, or you take it out of a controlled environment and into a busy party? Fox and Mya continue their conversation with Roper_Ducky, a husband-and-wife Rigger/Bunny couple from Jacksonville, Florida, known for their colorful, playful decorative and wearable rope. This time, the conversation gets into the practical side of decorative rope, including: • The risks that can come with decorative ties • How movement can change the rope once it is on the body • The bottom’s role and responsibilities when wearing decorative rope • What changes when you tie at a party rather than at home • The particular challenges of creating decorative rope in a busy social environment • Why decorative rope doesn’t need to be as daunting as it looks • Advice for people who want to start experimenting with it • Roper_Ducky’s cross-legged/agura rainbow weave tie • The community that can grow from sharing ties online and seeing other people recreate them Along the way, they explore the balance between aesthetics and practicality, what both partners can contribute to making decorative rope work, and why you don’t need to start with something enormously complicated to create something beautiful. You can see more of Roper_Ducky’s work on Fet/Instagram at @roper_ducky.
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    17 Min.
  • Ep234: Decorative Rope at Parties, Swinging & Dyeing Your Own Rope - An Interview with Roper_Ducky

    Ep234: Decorative Rope at Parties, Swinging & Dyeing Your Own Rope - An Interview with Roper_Ducky
    Sep 7 2026
    This week, Fox and Mya are joined by Roper_Ducky, a husband-and-wife Rigger/Bunny couple based in Jacksonville, Florida. They’ve been tying together since November 2025, developing a distinctive style centred on decorative and wearable rope, bright colours and playful themes. For them, rope is at once a way to connect through touch, a creative outlet and a collaborative art form - with plenty of experimentation along the way. In this episode, we talk about: • How they got started tying together • The value of rope mentors • Learning to dye their own rope • Why decorative rope can offer more egalitarian opportunities to tie • Using decorative rope as an icebreaker at parties • Swinging, creativity, connection and finding your own way into rope • And plenty more When they’re not tying at home, you can find Roper_Ducky at local rope and kink events around Jacksonville — and you can see more of their colourful work on FetLife at @roper_ducky.
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    20 Min.
  • Ep233: ‘Stipulations’ in Rope

    Ep233: ‘Stipulations’ in Rope
    Aug 24 2026
    What happens when you add one extra rule to a rope scene? In this episode, Fox and Mya discuss a type of rope game they call stipulations: additional restrictions or conditions that change how a scene works. A top might be forbidden from using their left hand, for example, or the partners might agree on another rule that disrupts their usual way of tying. The fun comes from discovering what that restriction changes. A familiar tie may suddenly require more communication. The top may need to abandon their usual sequence and improvise, while the bottom may become more actively involved through balance, movement, problem-solving or verbal guidance. Fox and Mya explore: • Different kinds of stipulations you could add to a rope scene—including one particularly spicy option • How restrictions can encourage creativity, communication and collaboration • The unexpected ways a familiar tie can change • How stipulations may alter the bottom’s role in the scene • Risks and safety considerations to think about before beginning • When a restriction should be changed or abandoned • The difference between collaborative and competitive rope games • How to keep competition playful without allowing it to override consent or safety Stipulations can turn even simple rope into an experiment, a puzzle or a shared challenge. The point is not necessarily to succeed perfectly, but to enjoy finding out what happens when your usual options are taken away.
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    20 Min.
  • Ep232: Cognitive Biases in Rope

    Ep232: Cognitive Biases in Rope
    Aug 10 2026
    How reliable is your judgement in rope? Cognitive biases are mental shortcuts that help us process information quickly, but they can also lead to predictable errors in how we interpret situations and make decisions. In this episode, Fox and Mya explore how these biases can affect our rope practice, relationships, learning and assessment of risk. They discuss: • Anchoring bias and how first impressions can shape everything that follows • Overconfidence bias and its relationship with the Dunning–Kruger effect • Hindsight bias and the temptation to believe an outcome was obvious all along • The sunk cost fallacy and why previous investment can make it difficult to stop • Outcome bias and the danger of judging a decision only by how it turned out • Self-serving bias and how we explain our successes and failures • Why simply recognizing that these biases exist can help • Situations in which you may not want to rely entirely on your own judgement • A framework for considering whether the causes of an outcome are internal or external, stable or changeable, and within or outside your control Whether you are a top, bottom, switch, educator or organizer, understanding the limits of your own thinking can help you make more deliberate decisions and respond to mistakes with greater clarity.
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    29 Min.
  • Ep231: Face Rope and Human Gongs - An Interview with Marcos Mangani

    Ep231: Face Rope and Human Gongs - An Interview with Marcos Mangani
    Jul 27 2026
    Marcos Mangani has been practising rope bondage for more than seven years. During that time, he has developed a conscious, quiet approach to rope and a distinctive style of face bondage. By creating spaces in which people can trust and surrender, he invites them to explore their bodies, emotions and intentions in new ways. Marcos has taught in queer and rope spaces including Tension in Montreal, Temple in New York, Iridescent Studio in Amsterdam and Anatomie in London. He currently offers regular classes and private sessions at his studio, KOR Berlin. In this episode, Marcos discusses: • Why he loves rope and the depth of what it has helped him discover about himself • How his natural sensitivity supports his work as a rope top, particularly when creating safety and comfort for clients • The relationship between his background in visual art and his rope practice • Balancing rope with his art, avoiding burnout and seeking inspiration beyond the rope community • How- and why - he turns people into “human gongs” • Identity, microbondage and the origins of his interest in face rope • Why a photograph cannot show the skill required to create face bondage safely • The qualities that may make face rope suitable - or unsuitable - for particular bottoms and tops • Risks and safety considerations when working with the face • Practical advice for bottoms who are curious about trying face rope • The unexpected comparison bottoms often make after experiencing his face rope • His favourite face-rope creation: an intricate design resembling a horse
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    34 Min.
  • Ep230: Modeling for Rope Photos

    Ep230: Modeling for Rope Photos
    Jul 13 2026
    What does it take to be a great rope model? In this episode, Fox and Mya explore the practical and creative aspects of bottoming for rope photography. From planning the concept and preparing for the day to communication, safety, posing and aftercare, they discuss how to make a photoshoot enjoyable and successful for everyone involved. They cover different types of shoots, collaborating with photographers and riggers, using mood boards, deciding whether to show your face, preparing clothing and rope, sharing your needs while tied, and even why bringing an iron and lint roller is a surprisingly good idea. Whether you're stepping in front of the camera for the first time or looking to improve your next shoot, this episode is packed with practical advice.
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    40 Min.
  • Ep229: Self-care for rope people

    Ep229: Self-care for rope people
    Jun 29 2026
    Self-care is a topic Mya is particularly passionate about, and in this episode we take a deep dive into what self-care means for people who practice rope. Although many of our episodes touch on aspects of caring for ourselves and our partners, this conversation focuses specifically on building self-care practices that support a healthy and sustainable relationship with rope. Topics include: • What self-care is and what it isn't • Why self-care is important in rope practice • The foundations of effective self-care • How self-care can look different for tops and bottoms • Mya and Fox's personal self-care approaches • Why self-awareness is one of the most important self-care skills • The highly individual nature of self-care • Practical ideas to support your own wellbeing • Adapting self-care to different styles and intensities of rope • The relationship between self-care and aftercare • Simple ways to start developing your own rope self-care practices Whether you're a top, bottom, switch, beginner or experienced practitioner, understanding your own needs can help you create a safer, more enjoyable and more sustainable rope journey.
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    22 Min.