In this episode of Respectfu11y, Jamie Tompkins sits down with Benny Hart for a raw, unfiltered conversation about modern dating, control, and what really changes when you start dating after divorce. This isn’t a tidy, feel-good talk about finding love. It’s a real discussion about fear, power, expectations, and why so many people feel stuck even when they’re doing “all the right things.”

Jamie opens up about dating in her 40s, coming out of a marriage that didn’t turn out the way she hoped, and trying to figure out what commitment even means now. Benny brings his signature straight-shooting perspective, shaped by years of talking to people about relationships, attraction, and accountability. Together, they unpack why dating can feel confusing, exhausting, and strangely performative, especially in the age of apps and constant advice.

They talk openly about situationships, the pressure to stay casual, and the fear that often hides behind the need for control. Benny challenges the idea that everyone should be juggling multiple people or building a “roster,” while Jamie questions whether independence and self-protection can quietly turn into emotional walls. The result is a conversation that feels honest, sometimes uncomfortable, and very familiar to anyone trying to connect without losing themselves.

A big part of the episode focuses on dating apps and the expectations people load onto them. Benny explains why apps aren’t broken, but how the way we use them often is. Jamie reflects on how visibility, public personas, and past careers can complicate dating, especially when people project who they think you are instead of meeting who you actually are. There’s humor here, but also a lot of truth about loneliness, vulnerability, and the effort it takes to stay open.

Throughout the episode, they explore questions many people are quietly asking:

• Why does dating feel harder now than it used to?

• How much control is too much control?

• Are we avoiding commitment, or are we just afraid of getting hurt again?

• What does self-accountability actually look like in relationships?

• How do you meet people in real life without forcing it or performing?

Benny also breaks down the difference between early-stage dating and emotional confusion, explaining why clarity matters more than labels. Jamie shares what it’s like to navigate attraction while protecting her peace, and why letting go of control can feel risky after disappointment. Neither of them pretends to have perfect answers, but they’re honest about the trade-offs.

This episode is for anyone who feels torn between wanting connection and wanting safety. It’s for people who are tired of buzzwords and ready for a grounded conversation about real connection, personal responsibility, and the courage it takes to show up honestly.

To stay connected with Respectfu11y, make sure to subscribe, follow, and leave a review wherever you listen. Share this episode with someone who’s navigating dating, divorce, or a fresh chapter in their life. You can follow Jamie Tompkins on social media for behind-the-scenes moments, upcoming episodes, and continued conversations sparked by the show. If this episode resonated, send a message, start a discussion, or drop a comment. The conversation doesn’t end when the episode does.

What happens when the influencer life isn’t enough? In this deeply personal episode, Zack Barbour—viral content creator, actor, and former OnlyFans performer—joins us for his first-ever podcast appearance. Known for his car-rant videos and intense takes on modern dating, Zack has captured the attention of millions on TikTok and Instagram. But behind the 3.6M followers and high-energy clips is a guy wrestling with much bigger questions.

We dive into the real story behind Zack’s rise to internet fame, the darker moments that followed, and how his growing relationship with faith is reshaping his content—and his life.

Zack opens up about what it felt like to blow up overnight, how he built a following by posting daily for a year straight, and what ultimately led him to quit his day job to pursue content full time. But success came with consequences—from burnout to depression, addiction, and the intense pressure to monetize every moment.

In this raw, unfiltered conversation, we explore:

• The exact moment Zack knew he “made it” online—and what changed after that

• Why he chose to destroy not one, but two cars on camera

• How dating followers turned into long-term relationships… and heartbreak

• What it really took to walk away from OnlyFans, despite making thousands a week

• His time in acting school, landing a film role, and the tradeoffs between art and faith

• The pivotal spiritual awakening sparked by the death of Christian influencer Charlie Kirk

Zack doesn’t shy away from his past. In fact, he lays it all out—the jail time, the struggles with drinking, the failed relationships, and the moments he almost gave up. But this episode isn’t just about what’s behind him—it’s about what’s next.

As he enters a new chapter, Zack talks about his desire to be a husband and father, his commitment to growing as a Seventh Day Adventist Christian, and how he hopes to use his platform to inspire—not just entertain. He also shares how he’s navigating the creative tension between staying consistent in his niche and expanding into new territory—from fitness and acting to more faith-centered content.

Other highlights include:

• What happens to your DMs when you have millions of followers

• The hardest parts of being a full-time creator while living at home

• Why your “niche” might be the thing holding you back

• The business side of influencing—and why Zack still doesn’t see himself as a businessman

• The line between performing and being yourself on social media

Throughout the episode, Zack’s mom joins the conversation with heartfelt commentary, offering her take on his growth, challenges, and what it’s like to watch your son become a public figure in real time. Their bond brings levity, warmth, and some seriously relatable family dynamics into the mix.

Whether you’re a content creator, a fan of Zack’s, someone navigating singleness and faith, or just curious about what really happens after you go viral—this episode hits all the notes. It’s vulnerable, hilarious, eye-opening, and refreshingly human.

Want to connect or keep up with the show?

Follow the Respectfully podcast on your favorite streaming platform and leave us a review to help more listeners find the show. You can also follow host Jamie Hess on Instagram at @JamieHessOfficial for behind-the-scenes content, upcoming guest updates, and exclusive clips from each episode.

To learn more about our guest, find Zack on:

• TikTok: @ZackBarbour

• Instagram: @Zack_Barbour

Thanks for listening. Let’s keep the conversation going.

From Broadway to the big screen, Renée Marino’s story is anything but ordinary. In this episode of Respectfu11y, host Jamie Tompkins sits down with her longtime friend and powerhouse performer to talk about the journey from chasing roles to finding her true voice—and helping others do the same.

You might recognize Renée Marino as Mary Delgado from Clint Eastwood’s Jersey Boys film. But before the Hollywood debut and standing ovations, there were years of hustle: swinging six roles in Cats, turning down dream shows to get her Equity card, touring the country, and surviving the emotional rollercoaster of callbacks and casting rooms. At every step, Renee kept betting on herself—even when the industry told her she was too much, too polished, or not enough of what they thought they wanted.

In this conversation, Renee opens up about:

• The moment she found out Clint Eastwood cast her—after almost being denied an audition

• The mental and physical grit it takes to be a Broadway swing covering multiple roles

• How asking one bold question in an audition room changed her life

• Why communication with yourself is the foundation of showing up confidently in the world

• The pressures of being told to change your look, sound, or presence—and how she stayed grounded

Now a keynote speaker and communication coach, Renee brings the same fire from her performances into boardrooms, stages, and leadership events across the world. She shares how she’s blending her background in performance with a deep purpose—helping others connect more authentically in a digital-first world. From journaling practices to vocal confidence techniques, her tools are as real as her story.

This episode dives into themes like:

• Owning your voice in spaces that want to silence or reshape it

• The power of imperfect action, even when you’re afraid

• Navigating transitions from creative work to entrepreneurship

• Building connection in a world of constant digital distraction

• Redefining what it means to be “too much” as a woman in the spotlight

Respectfu11y isn’t just about the highlight reel. It’s about the real stories behind the women who’ve had to push against the grain, rewrite the rules, and find power in their own narrative. This episode is one of those stories—told with humor, heart, and total honesty.

Whether you're a performer, entrepreneur, recovering perfectionist, or just someone figuring it out one brave step at a time, this conversation offers a mix of inspiration and grounded takeaways you’ll want to come back to.

Want to connect deeper?

• Find Renee Marino online at reneemarino.com

• Follow her journey on social media or check out her courses on camera confidence and communication

• Read her book Becoming a Master Communicator to dive into her full CONNECT method

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Thanks for listening. Stay grounded. Stay bold. And as always, do it respectfully.