WHO this podcast is for and HOW it can help you in your Relationships.

When a brave couple enters my office, after pleasantries, often the first thing that I ask is:

“How do you folks feel about being here?”

A common response I get is: “I can’t believe we are here..”

There is a sense of shame and failure - “what’s wrong with us??”

And I totally get it.

But the truth is: Nothing is wrong with you, in fact, it’s to be expected.

In this episdoe we begin to learn why.

Are you too close? Too Distant? What is THE mark of a healthy couple?

Learning how to maintain my own identity while co-creating a shared space in which we connect is what healthy couples do. It the ongoing dance of INTERdependence. Learn more about moving toward it in this episode.

Leave your parents out of your marriage.

Is it even possible?

To have a conscious relationship, it helps to become aware of the default LENS you bring to relating. WE ALL HAVE ONE! Understanding the relational templates that we formed as a children (in our first relationships with caregivers) is a bold step in creating a healthy interdependent dynamic with our spouse.

The entrance fee of a loving relationship is.....PAIN

Part of needing someone is the implicit fear that comes right alongside that need. The fear of our need not being responded to, of rejection and the pain it leads to. This fear generally shows up in 2 ways:

• Fear of abandonment

• Fear of failure

Learn more about how these fears can affect your relationship so you can do something about it.

What we can learn about infant attachment from sheep!

Know what you do when you are scared/confused/frustrated in your relationship? After this episode, you will. And even better: WHY.

What opened a childless couple to R' Shimon's blessing is the same thing that opens us up to each other.