How does an American-Born Chinese (ABC) become fluent in Mandarin, Cantonese, Spanish, and English? Jasper (Jun-Hao / 君浩) grew up between New York, Shanghai, Hong Kong, and Taipei, in a family that made space for every one of those languages.

Jasper is an American-born multilingual Chinese Puerto Rican whose mom is an ABC and whose dad is Puerto Rican. Between the languages spoken at home and the places he grew up, he has been speaking English, Mandarin, Cantonese, and Spanish for as long as he can remember.

We talk about the family rule that helped make that possible: whatever language was spoken outside the home was the one they were not allowed to speak at home. We also get into how growing up in different Chinese-speaking communities shaped his relationship to Mandarin and Cantonese, and why his experience is very different from the one a lot of us grew up with.

We talk about the assumptions people make when someone looks mixed but speaks fluent Mandarin, and the pressure many immigrant families have felt to prioritize English so their kids can fit in.

Later, Jasper shares how these questions about language, culture, and belonging have come up in his own dating life when his counterparts are gay ABCs, especially when thinking about what parts of culture he wants to pass down to future children. It is such an honest conversation about the ways language is tied to identity, pride, assimilation, and so many other aspects of our lives.

In this episode, you'll learn vocab like:

家規 / 家规 / jiā guī ("house rules")

有意見不合 / 有意见不合 / yǒu yì jiàn bù hé ("to have a difference of opinion")

無言以對 / 无言以对 / wú yán yǐ duì ("to be at a loss for words")

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Is Tsukimi (月見) Japan's version of Mid-Autumn Festival (中秋節)? Now that fall has rolled around here in Japan, I've started to notice a ton of "Tsukimi"-related ads full of imagery of the moon, rabbits, and autumn harvest, and I can't help but wonder.

In this a solo episode, I learn about the influence China had on Japan during the Tang Dynasty that originally brought the Chinese version of this holiday that has evolved into its own related but slightly different thing in Japan.

I explore the fun, more modern-day random traditions Taiwan vs. Japan has around this holiday (BBQ vs. McDonald's themed burger!), and ponder whether I'm really missing Mid-Autumn Festival from the traditional sense, or if I'm really missing the way I used to celebrate it as a Taiwanese-American in the U.S.

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In this episode, learn vocab like:

• 似曾相識 / 似曾相识 / sì céng xiāng shí ("strangely familiar / feels familar")
• 秋季豐收 / 秋季丰收 / qiū jì fēng shōu ("abundant autumn harvest")
• 廣告口號 / 广告口号 / guǎng gào kǒu hào ("advertising slogan")

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Usually we talk about it the other way around: you learn the language, and you end up feeling more connected to who you are. Jeanne Chang's story runs in reverse. She decided she was Taiwanese first — and the Mandarin came after.

This is Part 2 of our conversation with Jeanne, creator of the bilingual parenting blog Mama & Baby Learn Mandarin and @mamababymandarin on Instagram. Supported in the conversation by Real You Mandarin: Self-Expression partner teacher Crystal Hsia, we explore how Jeanne's immense effort to learn Mandarin alongside her children has a lot to do with her identifying as being Taiwanese, despite being born in the U.S.

She credits this self-identification to having grown up from shortly after birth through age 5 in Taiwan, surrounded by family immersing her in the culture and the Taiwanese language. Her only regret is not having learned Mandarin alongside Taiwanese when she was a child, which is why she now spends so much of her time, money, and energy on helping her kids learn Mandarin properly.

Along the way, we also discuss the peer pressure her own kids run into at school in California, her own single day of Chinese School, and what happened when she spoke Taiwanese to an auntie at a market back in Taiwan.

In this episode you'll learn vocab like:

• 同儕壓力 / 同侪压力 / tóng chái yā lì — peer pressure
• 企圖心 / 企图心 / qì tú xīn — ambition / ambitious
• 試聽課 / 试听课 / shì tīng kè — trial class

…and more.

You can find Jeanne on Instagram at @mamababymandarin and all the resources she's put together on her blog at https://www.mamababymandarin.com

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