Mini AJ Soapbox Moment

This goes out to survivors and to those going through an abusive situation. Experiencing the disbelief, dismissal, and witnessing the ignorant support a sinister being who abused you and/or still continues to do so.

After the humiliation, the confusion, and self-doubt, you find the courage to voice the truth. AND you get told it isn't possible because that sinister person who abused you was nice to them and has never been mean to them. I know many have experience that example.

That being said,

it's for the ignorant who are in disbelief that a person who is nice and helpful toward them cannot be abusive. Congratulations...you are just as cruel as the offender a.k.a. the abuser.

Everyone experiences jealousy and envy at times in their lives.

Abusive narcissists take jealousy to a whole 'nother level.

Through manipulation, ridicule, criticism, gaslighting, and their other calculated tactics to maintain control over you, abusers will go as far as sabotage...even if they are still in a relationship.

They will attempt to destroy you.

-AJ

Introducing the social saints, martyrs, selfless, helpful beings of friend groups, communities, family gatherings and work...

Well, they pretend to be all that and 12 bags of chips.

It's about the rep, praise and admiration for the acts of moral good deeds and kindness.

The portrayal of being the martyr without wanting anything in return.

The saint who goes above and beyond to help his fellow man.

Sounds like a superhero, a righteous and just human committing selfless acts for all of humanity.

Not to say that there are not people who go above and beyond to commit selfless acts for others...

BUT

In the case of abusive narcissists, sorry to break it to everyone,

it's all smoke and mirrors...

illusions...

delusions...

it leaves the victims of narcissistic abuse in a state of confusion, self-doubt, and codependency

the communal narcissist builds his/her status to being a great human being so when the victims and survivors call them out on it or speak up about the abuse no one believes them, no one will question them about what happened to them, and they defend (hello flying monkeys) the narcissist because they are always kind, helpful, and portray themselves as the perfect spouse and/or parent.

It happened to me, is still happening as far as my kid situation. Please take a listen. It is obvious this is not AI.

Thanks for listening and may this reach those who need and want to hear it.

-AJ