Dr. Eddie Capparucci and Tami answer participant questions about sex, love, and addiction. They cover the importance of honoring boundaries, effective check-ins, managing anger, and finding hope when it feels like your addiction has taken over your life.

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:40] How do I process multiple inner children in me?

[5:07] Why has the language around betrayal become sanatized?

[11:06] What can I do to finally overcome repeated slips?

[17:08] My partner broke my boundary. Now what?

[22:55] Should I prioritize finding my why or my sobriety work?

[28:09] My spouse refuses to seek help. How can I help?

[31:08] I have too many buckets and I'm constantly disregulated. Help!

[34:25] How can my betraying partner understand the damage of trickled out disclosures?

[38:17] Can check-ins be triggering to the point that they're useful?

[45:10] How can a betraying partner rebuild trust?

[50:18] Why am I afraid of my husband's anger?

[54:46] Is there any hope for an addict like me?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• "If your relationships are hurting, why would you want to delay getting the help?"

• "Do you understand what drives you toward a slip?"

• "The most important thing you can do to rebuild trust is engage with your partner."

• "Your behaviors don't define who you are – if you are willing to change them."

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about boundaries, chronic betrayal, and recovery timelines. They address the pregnant partner, the betrayed spouse with an STD, and the mother of teens who wants to keep her children from following down the path of addiction and betrayal.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:30] Can ketamine EMDR help my betrayed wife?

[7:10] I'm pregnant. Should I stop checking in on his recovery?

[14:35] Boundaries are set to keep you safe.

[16:58] Why should he stop acting out when it has increased the intensity of our sex life?

[24:09] Can an addict like me actually come out of this on the other side?

[34:10] Am I really the victim?

[36:52] How can I build trust after chronic betrayal?

[40:26] He acted out in my one deal-breaker way. Now what?

[47:30] How do couples recovery from sexual betrayal and compromised health?

[50:48] How can I talk to my boys so they don't go down the same path as their father?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• "He should be showing you with his actions when his recovery is solid."

• "He's going to do what he's going to do whether you ask or you don't."

• "You have to do what you need to do to take care of you regardless of what he does."

• "Addicts are always either moving forward in recovery or sliding back."

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about how to reintegrate sex, self-pleasure for partners, the pain of a sexless relationship and the role of "hopium". They offer perspective on demanding repair, seeking connection and the power of taking care of yourself no matter what your partner is or isn't doing.

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] What can I do to reclaim my sexuality?

[11:02] Should I insist on my partner moving out or do an in-house separation?

[16:42] When sex addiction isn't the only problem.

[19:32] How can I get my intimate needs met?

[29:05] Questions you really don't want the answers to.

[34:02] How can I build shame resiliency?

[39:56] Where do we start with sexual reconnection?

[42:51] Moving beyond objectification.

[48:03] I feel he broke it, and he needs to fix it.

[54:41] The power of community and connection.

[58:20] Is masturbation sexual betrayal?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• "Your courage and willingness to talk about these issues will get you halfway there."

• "Do not threaten something that you're not willing to follow through on."

• "You have zero control over him. The only thing you can take care of is you."