How to Make and Keep Friends as an Adult

Why does making friends as an adult feel so much harder than it did in college or your early 20s, and what actually helps?

In Part 2 of our Friendship in America series, Maria Eliades talks with Alexandra Friedman, founder of Connection Feast, about adult friendship, loneliness, making new friends, keeping old ones, and what healthy friendships actually look and feel like.

After moving back to Seattle and struggling to build meaningful friendships, Alex started hosting structured dinners for strangers. Those gatherings eventually grew into Connection Feast, a company focused on helping adults build deeper connections and stronger social skills.

In this episode, Maria and Alexandra talk about why just meeting more people doesn’t always lead to the friendships we want, why friendships aren't convenient, and why finding the right people may mean leaning harder into the things that make you just a bit weird.

They also discuss:

• Why people can feel lonely even when they have friends or romantic partners
• How to make friends as an adult when you’re starting over in a new city
• Why the places we choose to meet people matter
• How many times to initiate activities before giving up
• Why “Hey, how are you?” can sometimes make reconnecting harder
• Why friendship breakups can hurt as much as romantic breakups
• How friendships change through marriage, parenthood, moves, and other life transitions

Plus, Alex answers a listener question about how to tell if a friendship has red flags, especially when disagreements happen.

If you’ve ever wondered how to make friends as an adult, how to keep friendships alive through life changes, or how to know if a friendship is worth repairing, this episode is for you.

About Alexandra Friedman

Alexandra Friedman is a Friendship and Connection Coach, community builder, and founder of Connection Feast, a social wellness company helping adults and people-focused companies build deeper friendships and strong social skills. Since 2018 she has guided close to 3,000 people through workshops, events, and coaching experiences that teach adults how to move past small talk, create meaningful relationships, and build a more connected life.

Our Pandora’s Box is a podcast for women in their late 20s (and late 20s at heart) who want to live life on their own terms.

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Our Pandora’s Box is taking a short mid-season break.

We’re six episodes into Season 1, with four more conversations still to come on friendship, sex and eroticism, dating and relationships, and reproductive health and self-advocacy.

The podcast returns Thursday, October 1 with Part 2 of our Friendship in America series, featuring Alexandra Friedman, founder of Connection Feast and a Seattle-based friendship coach. Maria and Alexandra talk about adult friendship, building deeper connection, and some of the practical skills that can help us become better friends.

The final stretch of Season 1 will also include conversations about sex, eroticism, modern dating, relationships, and how women can better understand and advocate for their reproductive health.

If you’re attending Podcast Movement in New York City on September 17 or 18, Maria will be there and would love to meet listeners and fellow podcasters.

Follow Our Pandora’s Box so you don’t miss the return on October 1.

In the meantime, remember to stay hopeful and stay curious.

Are we actually in a friendship crisis—or is something more complicated happening?

Americans have been hearing about a “loneliness epidemic” for years. But research from The American Friendship Project suggests that most Americans do have friends. So what's happening in this mismatch of data and perceptions?

To find out, in this episode Maria talks with Dr. Natalie Pennington, Associate Professor of Communication Studies at Colorado State University and co-lead of the American Friendship Project, about what the research actually tells us about friendship in the U.S., and how to make and maintain meaningful friendships as an adult.

They explore why adult friendships take time to build, how vulnerability creates closeness, and why the pandemic, moving, and the decline of third places can make maintaining a social life harder. They also tackle how technology has changed friendship: when it’s okay to let an old friendship go, whether texting is actually good for connection, where voice notes fit, and what AI can—and can’t—offer as a substitute for human friendship.

This is Part 1 of Our Pandora’s Box’s two-part exploration of friendship and loneliness in America. Join us for Part 2 in two weeks as Maria talks with friendship coach and Connection Feast creator Alexandra Friedman about the practical work of making friends and building community.

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Can you be a liberal or progressive woman and still be religious in the United States today?

As conservative, tradition-seeking men increasingly turn to Orthodox Christianity and Catholicism—and a hypermasculine online religious culture grows alongside them—women who grew up in these traditions can find themselves asking a very different question: Is there still a place here for us?

Host Maria Eliades talks with Orthodox theologian Rachel Contos about feminism, faith, the rise of the “Orthobro,” and what happens when women refuse to let conservative religious movements define what their faith is allowed to look like.

Rachel shares her own complicated journey from nearly leaving the Orthodox Church to pursuing a PhD in theology and becoming an outspoken advocate for women and queer people in the Church. Together, Maria and Rachel explore why some disaffected men are drawn to a vision of Christianity built around masculinity and tradition, how churches respond to social change, the fight over women’s roles in Orthodox Christianity, and why remaining inside an imperfect institution can itself become an act of resistance.

And ultimately, Rachel offers a different way to think about faith: you can question your religious tradition, argue with it, take a break from it—and still refuse to let someone else take away something that sustains you.

What does it actually take to build both a meaningful career and a family?

This isn't an episode to convince you whether to have children or not. It's about understanding what's actually required to build both a meaningful career and a family in today's world.

Our Pandora's Box host, Maria Eliades, speaks with humanitarian and development expert Merit Hietanen, author of The Humanitarian Parent, about the realities of pursuing a meaningful career while raising children—and why the conversation is bigger than individual choices.

Drawing on years of humanitarian work and extensive research, Merit explains why balancing work and family depends less on personal sacrifice than on workplace culture, labor rights, supportive partners, community, and public policy.

Together, they discuss:

• Why "having it all" may be the wrong question.
• The hidden support systems behind successful careers.
• Motherhood in demanding professions.
• Caregiving, labor rights, and workplace culture.
• What women in their 20s and 30s should consider as they think about family and career.

Whether you're planning to become a parent, have decided not to, or are still figuring it out, this episode offers a thoughtful perspective on one of the defining questions of modern adulthood.

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Why are women still paid less than men? Award-winning financial journalist and The Ambition Penalty author Stefanie O'Connell joins Maria Eliades to unpack the hidden systems behind the gender pay gap, burnout, and women's financial inequality. Together, they explore why working harder isn't always enough—and what women can do individually and collectively to build greater financial freedom and lasting change.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why the gender pay gap is about more than salary
• The hidden barriers that continue to hold women back at work
• What the girlboss and the tradwife have in common
• Why burnout is often a problem with the environment—not the individual
• Practical ways to build financial security, community, and systemic change

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Fashion educator and marketing expert Catherine Trotin explores how fashion history, social media, and culture shape what we wear—and how you can develop a personal style that feels truly yours.

In Episode 2 of Our Pandora's Box, your elder millennial sister host, Maria Eliades, sits down with My Fashion Stories Box host Catherine Trotin to unpack why even what we wear is not outside of the influence of politics.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Whether personal style can still be original in the age of TikTok and social media
• The connection between history, politics, and what we wear
• Their own stories about navigating fashion in Moscow, Istanbul, France, and the U.S.
• How to develop a personal style that reflects who you are instead of simply following trends

Whether you're passionate about fashion, curious about history, or trying to build a wardrobe that feels more like you, this conversation offers a thoughtful look at how style becomes part of the stories we tell about ourselves.

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Feeling burned out at work? Wondering if you're on the right career path? Career coach Maria Giarmeniti shares how to identify your values, find meaningful work, and build a career that's true to who you are.

In the first episode of Our Pandora's Box, host Maria Eliades explores what it means to create a life on your own terms in the face of burnout, political upheaval, and major career change.

Maria is joined by Athens-based career coach Maria Giarmeniti, who left an 18-year career in corporate finance to help others build careers aligned with their values. Together, they discuss how to recognize when you're in the wrong career, navigate family expectations, identify the values that guide your decisions, and create a life purpose that can serve as your compass through work and life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to recognize the signs that you're in the wrong career
• Why burnout can be a sign that your work no longer aligns with your values
• How to identify your personal values and use them to make career decisions
• How to navigate family expectations while changing careers
• A practical exercise to help you discover your life purpose

Whether you're considering a career change, feeling stuck at work, or searching for more meaning in your life, this episode offers practical guidance for building a career and a life that reflects who you truly are.

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