What if battling porn urges is actually keeping you stuck?

What if the urge isn't your enemy, but a part of you actually just trying to help?

What if freedom isn't won through fighting, but through befriending?

In this episode, I sit down with Jenna Riemersma, bestselling author, licensed therapist, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) expert.

I was so excited to have Jenna on the podcast, as her work has had a huge impact on me and my life. Her book, Altogether You was life-changing for me, and we also discuss her new book, Move Toward, which takes revolutionary IFS principles and distills them into a simple, but radical 3-step tool anyone can use to completely change the way we approach our urges.

What you'll learn:

• Why the parts inside you that drive porn use are actually good (even though the behavior isn't)
• The difference between being the "conductor" vs. letting parts "drive the bus"
• How to turn toward the urge with curiosity and compassion instead of battling and judgment
• The 3-step practice begin befriending your urges instead of battling them
• Why the next time you feel the urge, you should hold it in your hand

If you're tired of fighting and ready for a different approach, this episode is for you.

Order Jenna's new book, Move Toward

Jenna's website:

https://jennariemersma.com/

Jenna's free guided exercises

https://insighttimer.com/jennariemersma

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

Ever wish you could feel more in control when the temptation hits you to view porn?

Do you ever wonder if you could get to a place where you have mastery over your urges?

What if there were a few practical steps you could take starting today, that would begin training you to handle your urges like a Jedi Master?

In this episode, I'm breaking down 3 Jedi-like skills to handle intense porn urges without giving in—skills you can start practicing today.

What you'll learn:

• Why taking a deep breath is the most powerful first step when urges hit
• How to "turn inward" and process feelings before they drive your actions
• The practice of "calmly feeling" urges without letting them sit in the driver's seat
• Why a Jedi Master feels just as intensely as anyone else (but responds differently)
• How to stay grounded when cravings spike instead of spiraling

This is a fun episode with serious, practical tools you can use immediately.

No, you don't need to be a Star Wars fan to benefit. But if you are, you may enjoy the references!

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

You slipped. You watched porn again.

Now you're stuck in shame and guilt, wondering: What's wrong with me? Why can't I stop?

Here's the truth: The freedom journey isn't perfect. You will slip.

And that's okay.

But what you do after a slip determines whether you spiral down or bounce back stronger.

In this episode, I'm giving you The Three Checkpoints—a simple, shame-free way to analyze every slip, figure out what was missing, and get back up more prepared than before.

What you'll learn:

• What to do immediately after watching porn (no shame, just next steps)
• The 3 questions to ask after every relapse that turn slips into growth
• How to know exactly what needs to be reinforced for next time
• Why slips are actually part of learning the skill of handling urges
• How to show yourself compassion instead of beating yourself up

This is a practical tool you can use every time you slip to get back on track faster and stronger.

Never again let a slip become wasted. Begin using each slip as an opportunity to learn!

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.