Host Dave Harris shares a major personal breakthrough that has been a week in the making. What started as a return to therapy to tackle a food addiction turned into a life-altering revelation about how his brain actually works.

Dave leans into his expertise in Artificial Intelligence to navigate this new territory, using AI to bridge the gap between a professional observation and a deeply personal understanding of neurodivergence.

Inside the Breakthrough:

• The Reveal: After a three-year hiatus, Dave’s therapist drops a "lightbulb" observation: he likely fits the profile for AuDHD—a combination of ADHD and autism.

• AI as a Mirror: As an AI professional, Dave uses Gemini to decode the tug-of-war between his ADHD’s craving for novelty and his autistic need for routine.

• The Project Graveyard: A look at why Dave is "Mr. 80%," from unfinished sweaters and oil paintings to a double bass that’s currently more of a bedroom ornament than an instrument.

• A New Map: Understanding the analogy of using a map of London while in Tokyo—realizing he isn't a failed version of a "normal" person, but a perfectly functional version of a different kind of person.

"I spent years trying to use a map for London while I was trying to drive in Tokyo. Both are great cities, but the directions just don't work if you've got a map for the wrong city."

Connect with Dave:

• Website: navigatingabrokenvessel.com

• Facebook/Instagram: @navigatingabrokenvessel

• Email: dave@navigatingabrokenvessel.com

If this episode resonated with you, check out the previous episode, "The Lazy Perfectionist," for more context on the "80%" struggle.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and personal storytelling purposes only. Dave is not a medical professional. If you are exploring neurodivergence or mental health concerns, please consult with a qualified professional.

What happens to a marriage when the foundational beliefs of one spouse begin to shift?

Following our conversation with Tifani Holt, we sit down with her husband, Kody Holt, to hear the other side of the story. In this episode of Navigating a Broken Vessel, host Dave Harris explores the emotional and spiritual journey of a husband navigating his wife’s faith crisis within the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Kody opens up about the moment he realized Tifani’s questions were moving beyond simple curiosity into a deep-seated crisis of faith. He shares the struggle of fighting his natural "fixer" instinct and how he learned to replace judgment with unconditional love.

• The "Toolbox" vs. the "Trash Can": Why Kody had to stop trying to "fix" Tifani’s doubts and start simply listening.

• A Stake President’s Profound Advice: The specific counsel Kody received during a temple recommend interview that sustained him through the darkest months.

• Parenting Through Transition: How the Holts navigated church attendance and spiritual education for their three children while holding different beliefs.

• Setting Boundaries with Love: The difficult conversations regarding lifestyle changes, new social circles, and maintaining the sanctity of their home.

• The Turning Point of Counseling: Why taking divorce "off the table" was the most critical step in their healing process.

"If I would have tried to control that situation, we would not be together today. She needed to go through this... and if I would have tried to control the situation, it would have pushed her away 100%." — Kody Holt

Kody’s story is a testament to the idea that a marriage can not only survive a faith transition but emerge stronger, more honest, and more deeply rooted in love than ever before.

Our web site: https://www.navigatingabrokenvessel.com

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Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional, and this should not be taken as any kind of medical advice. If you need assistance, I highly recommend working with mental health professionals. I use many myself.

Dave Harris sits down with Tifani Holt for an intimate look at her deeply personal journey through a faith crisis.

Growing up in a strict religious household in Southern Utah, Tifani eventually found herself at a crossroads, questioning the very foundations of her beliefs. She shares the raw reality of going down the rabbit hole, the social isolation that followed, and the strain it placed on her marriage and family life.

Tifani’s story is not just about deconstruction, but about finding a personal connection with God that transcends organizational rules. Whether you are currently in the midst of your own faith transition, supporting a loved one, or simply looking for insight into the refiner's fire of spiritual growth, this conversation offers a grounded, empathetic perspective on:

• The Weight of Expectations: Navigating the shift from checking boxes to authentic belief.

• Marriage & Mixed Faith: How therapy and communication helped save a relationship on the brink of divorce.

• Finding Grace in the Grey: Learning to prioritize a personal relationship with Jesus Christ over cultural pressures.

• The Power of Empathy: Why being kind to those who are struggling is the most Christ-like response.

Connect with the Show:

• Website: navigatingabrokenvessel.com

• Email: dave@navigatingabrokenvessel.com

• Socials: @navigatingabrokenvessel