100 episodes! Built in stolen moments while juggling motherhood, career, and life going completely sideways.

What you'll hear:

→ Why we started recording in dressing gowns with no idea what we were doing (and why waiting for "ready" means never starting)

→ How the podcast became a catalyst for everything else - weight training, travelling, self care.

→ Why marriage and children aren't the summit - and what happens when you realise those are roles, not your identity

→ "Ageing out of a lifetime of social choreography: stopping performing, setting boundaries, protecting peace unapologetically

→ Making peace with looking like a beginner publicly - that's the price of entry

The truth: Small projects don't stay small. They become the foundation for everything else you build.

Starting 2026 with proof: you're capable of more than you think. You just have to show up.

My 3-year-old daughter turns every nurse appointment into a fact-finding mission.

And I've been seeing this nurse for weeks.

First appointment: "What's that?" (pointing at tattoo)Next visit: "What's that?" (pointing at freckles)By week four: We know she's half Chilean, moved from Canada at 11, has two teenage kids.

Not because I asked. Because my daughter hasn't learned to mind her business yet - and she forces me to pay attention alongside her.

I used to think being polite meant keeping professional distance. But those social rules - don't stare, don't ask, mind your business - they make us polite and incredibly lonely.

In this episode, I'm discussing what we lose when we learn to be professional everywhere. Why the rules that make us polite also make us strangers. And what happens when we give ourselves permission to be curious again.

My daughter won't stay this way forever. Eventually she'll learn the rules too.

But for now? She's teaching me to see people again.

What happens when motherhood doesn't just change you - it completely redirects your life's work?

Pamela Aculey is the creative-tech founder behind MIXD Reality - the UK's first inclusive augmented reality picture book.

But first, she was a mother being dismissed in appointments, watching her autistic son Walter disappear in a world that wasn't built for him.

In this conversation:

→ How her mother's refusal to accept the status quo gave her the blueprint for advocacy

→ The moment she stopped trusting professionals and started trusting herself

→ Her own autism diagnosis and how it reframed everything

→ The invisible labor of fighting to be believed about your own child

This isn't inspiration porn. This is what happens when frustration, love, and refusal to accept invisibility collide.

If you've ever felt dismissed or like you're juggling too much while trying to change something broken - this will remind you why your mission matters.

My 2-year-old daughter was crying, desperately needing a toilet. The restaurant staff in Pisa looked at her and said no.

I exploded. Zero regrets.

Months later, when her grandparents crossed a boundary, I stood firm and silent. No scene. No explanation needed.

Both moments were protection. Just different tools.

I used to think consistency meant always responding the same way. But I've learned it means consistently protecting - with whatever tool the moment requires.

Sometimes love is loud. Sometimes it's quiet. Both are power.

In this episode, I'm working through how to know which battles need volume and which need stillness. Why some moments require rage and others require silent boundaries. And what our children actually learn when they see us use different tools for different threats.

The Pisa rage? Right tool. The grandparent boundary? Also right tool.

Battles, boundaries, and the wisdom to choose. That's what I'm building.

Alyssa Smith spent 17 years teaching other people's kids across America and Korea.

Then she had her own. And everything she thought she knew about parenting? She had to unlearn it.

Now she's a coach helping parents in life transitions raise resilient kids with voice & choice.

Here's what's powerful about Alyssa's story: she stopped performing the "expert parent" and started showing up as the "learner beside."

She models inquiry, not authority. She says "I don't know" when she doesn't know. She apologises when she messes up.

In this episode:

Why "learner beside" beats expert parent every time.

How gentle parenting without boundaries creates resentful

mothers and entitled kids.

Teaching voice and choice through everyday moments (blue hair, curly hair comments, task ownership).

Cultivating joy when you're running on fumes—it's intentional work, not something that just happens.

Why modelling growth matters more than performing perfection.

We've been told good parents have all the answers. What if that pressure is actually making us worse at this?

Your kids don't need you to be perfect. They need to watch you figure it out.

Works in progress raising other works in progress.

I was watching my 4-year-old son write his alphabet when he got the 'j' backwards.

I opened my mouth to correct him. "That should be on the other side—"

And I stopped.

Because in that moment, I saw myself as a child. My dad correcting me over and over until I got it perfect. African parenting. Strict. High standards.

It made me who I am today - disciplined, resilient, capable. But it also made me anxious, self-critical, perfectionist. I felt loved for being intelligent, not just for being me.

My son is sensitive. And I don't want to repeat the pattern.

But here's the challenge: How do you keep high expectations while also giving unconditional love?

In this episode, I'm working through how to break generational patterns while keeping what was good. How our children watch us more than we realize. And why building emotional security isn't about protecting them from the world - it's about preparing them for it.

High expectations AND a soft landing. That's what I'm building.

Orli Cotel walked away from her creative self for 20 years. Career. Kids. Life got in the way.

Then at 42, she started painting again. Sold her first piece at 44.

She also spent two decades in the climate movement before pivoting to fight for paid leave when she became a parent and realised how broken the system is.

Here's what's powerful about Orli's story: she didn't choose between personal reclamation and systemic change. The two feed each other.

Her painting fills her cup so she CAN fight for parents. Her advocacy gives her purpose beyond herself.

In this episode: Why "unicorn space" (something solely yours) makes you a better parent. How becoming a parent shifted her work from climate to paid leave advocacy.

Why you can't spreadsheet your way out of broken systems. Redefining ambition from "who will I crush" to "what will I create."

And why motherhood is the grounding place, not the summit.

We've been told good mothers sacrifice everything. What if that narrative is what's breaking us?

Personal reclamation and systemic impact aren't competing. They make each other possible.

My daughter played with cornflour and ice for 2 hours at nursery. My kids' favourite Christmas activity? Running to the Polar Express soundtrack.

And I realised: they're giving me the permission to keep it simple.

Before I became a mum, I volunteered with Shelter at Christmas. The people there had nowhere to go. They'd ask why I was "giving up" my Christmas. But it taught me: if you have people who love you, family to be with - you've already won Christmas.

So why are we overcomplicating it?

The toys we panic-buy. The elaborate experiences. The pressure to make it "magical." We're so stressed we can't enjoy it.

At the start of December, I went to a spa weekend. Started the month by putting myself first. And I think that's why this Christmas feels different.

In this episode: What children actually remember. What mothers can let go of. And why simplifying Christmas isn't about doing less - it's about being present enough to actually enjoy it.

Simple IS magic. That was always the magic.