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  • Ep. 19: There is No Time for Fear, with Sharon “Betty” Preszler

    Ep. 19: There is No Time for Fear, with Sharon “Betty” Preszler
    Feb 17 2026
    Lilo sits down with trailblazing fighter pilot Sharon “Betty” Preszler, one of the first women to fly the F-16 after the 1993 combat exclusion law change. From ejecting out of an F-16 in a five-second life-or-death emergency, to working inside Cheyenne Mountain on 9/11 while six months pregnant, to navigating her young son’s leukemia diagnosis, Preszler shares the “lie” her ego told her for decades: There’s no time for fear.

    In this episode:

    What is this episode of Lies My Ego Told Me about?

    This episode of Lies My Ego Told Me explores the dynamic between courage and fear. The discussion reveals that courage does not mean the absence of fear; it means acting despite fear. The episode explains that fear is natural and often unavoidable but it does not have to dictate decisions. True courage is acknowledging fear and moving forward anyway.

    Who is Sharon Preszler and why is her story important?

    Sharon “Betty” Preszler is a history-making fighter pilot, one of the first women to fly an F-16 after the law was changed in 1993. Besides her military credentials and experience, she overcame personal challenges including her young son’s cancer diagnosis. Having stepped away from aviation to become a keynote speaker and life coach, she now helps others conquer their fear and move forward.

    What does this episode say about suppressing fear?

    This episode reveals that fear doesn’t disappear, it takes root and grows. Preszler says that while compartmentalizing helped her function in high-stakes roles, unprocessed stress eventually manifested physically. Healing only began when she stopped flying, reflected deeply, and allowed herself to revisit buried experiences.

    What does this episode say about having a healthy relationship with fear?

    This episode reveals that fear is neither enemy nor weakness—it’s information. It’s a survival response. The key is to recognize it, accept it without shame, evaluate whether it’s rational and choose a response intentionally.

    Resources & Links

    Learn more about Betty and her causes
    • Check out her Substack https://substack.com/@thebettypreszler
    • For Coaching or Keynote Speaking https://sharonpreszler.com/
    • To support families navigating childhood cancer, please support Camp KEMO https://prismahealthchildrens.org/programs-and-services/camps/camp-kemo

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    58 Min.
  • Ep. 18: Perfectionism is Excellence, with Dr. Anne Harrington

    Ep. 18: Perfectionism is Excellence, with Dr. Anne Harrington
    Feb 3 2026
    Lilo sits down with Dr. Anne Harrington, a leading nuclear policy scholar and trailblazer, to unpack the lie that perfectionism equals excellence. From global security systems that fail despite flawless execution to the intensely personal grief of infertility and motherhood, Anne shares how doing everything “right” still doesn’t guarantee the outcome we want. This conversation explores control, vulnerability, and what it means to be good enough—in our work, our bodies, our relationships, and our lives.

    In this episode:

    What is this episode of Lies My Ego Told Me about?

    This episode of Lies My Ego Told Me explores how perfectionism can masquerade as excellence—and the emotional cost of believing that doing everything right guarantees the right outcome. Through personal storytelling and systems-level insight, the episode connects global nuclear policy failures with deeply human experiences of grief, control, and motherhood.

    Who is Anne Harrington and why is her story significant?

    Anne Harrington is a professor of international relations and an expert on nuclear weapons and nonproliferation. Her story is significant because she bridges high-stakes global systems—where small failures can lead to catastrophe—with personal experiences of infertility, loss, and becoming a mother, revealing how limits of control exist in both policy and life.

    What does this episode say about infertility and loss?

    The episode reframes infertility and miscarriage as experiences that are not caused by personal failure. Anne emphasizes that no amount of effort, discipline, or “doing everything right” can guarantee biological outcomes—and that self-blame only deepens grief.

    What does “good enough” mean in this episode?

    “Good enough” means showing up with honesty, humility, and emotional presence rather than striving for flawlessness. Anne explains that children—and adults—don’t need perfect caregivers or perfect systems; they need relationships that allow for mistakes, repair, and resilience.


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    1 Std. und 8 Min.
  • Ep. 17: I can Carry the Weight, with Theresa Claiborne

    Ep. 17: I can Carry the Weight, with Theresa Claiborne
    Jan 20 2026
    Season two of Lies My Ego Told Me takes off with aviation trailblazer Theresa “TC” Claiborne, the first Black woman to graduate from U.S. Air Force pilot training. She shares the lie that shaped her life: “I can carry the weight.” From being deliberately minimized at a historic milestone to proving herself again and again in the cockpit and beyond, Theresa opens up about invisibility, the quiet pressure of being “the first,” and why she now sees that weight as both burden and gift.

    In this episode:

    Who is Theresa “TC” Claiborne?
    Theresa “TC” Claiborne is an aviation pioneer who became the first Black woman to graduate from U.S. Air Force pilot training. She later flew for United Airlines for more than 34 years, retiring in May 2024 as a Boeing 787 Captain.

    What is Theresa Claiborne known for?
    She is known for breaking barriers in military aviation, serving as a KC-135 pilot in the Air Force and Reserves, and becoming a long-tenured United Airlines captain while advocating for representation, mentorship, and equity in aviation.

    Why wasn’t Theresa Claiborne’s graduation widely celebrated?
    Theresa describes how media interest was high, but decisions were made to limit coverage—minimizing her achievement despite its historic significance and impact.

    What advice does Theresa give to people carrying heavy responsibility?
    Theresa encourages people to keep moving forward, lean on community, and remember they don’t have to carry everything alone—while still honoring the reality that the burden is often placed unfairly.


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  • Ep. 16: Never Leave Your Wingman Behind, with Nicole Malachowski

    Ep. 16: Never Leave Your Wingman Behind, with Nicole Malachowski
    Dec 2 2025
    In the season finale of the now award-winning Lies My Ego Told Me, Lilo sits down with her longtime hero, Colonel (Ret.) Nicole “FiFi” Malachowski — the first woman to fly with the U.S. Air Force Thunderbirds. What begins as a story of breaking barriers in the F-15E Strike Eagle becomes a raw account of institutional betrayal, medical gaslighting, and the years Nicole spent fighting for an accurate diagnosis after tick-borne illness left her bedridden. This conversation explores how she turned that devastation into advocacy, becoming a powerful wingman for patients with chronic Lyme.

    More about this episode:

    Who is Nicole “FiFi” Malachowski?
    Nicole Malachowski is a retired U.S. Air Force Colonel, the first woman to fly with the Thunderbirds, a combat-proven F-15E Strike Eagle pilot, a former White House fellow, and a national advocate for tick-borne illness patients.

    What happened to Nicole after her tick bites?
    Nicole developed over 60 symptoms, experienced cognitive decline, paralysis, and periods resembling locked-in syndrome. Despite clear signs of Lyme disease, she was repeatedly dismissed by doctors and endured 24+ specialist visits before receiving a correct diagnosis.

    Why did Nicole feel abandoned by the Air Force and the medical system?
    Nicole was told her symptoms were psychosomatic, advised to “retire,” and left without support during two years bedridden. Her final years in uniform were marked by institutional gaslighting, a lack of follow-up, and a retirement handled without ceremony or acknowledgment.

    How did she turn her experience into advocacy?
    Nicole helped shape Air Force policy on complex medical conditions, became a keynote speaker, and co-authored a National Academies of Sciences report that officially recognizes Lyme infection–associated chronic illness.

    What can friends or colleagues do to support someone with chronic illness?
    Nicole emphasizes simple acts: consistent check-ins, listening without judgment, learning about the illness, helping the caregiver, and showing up without waiting to be asked.

    Resources & Links
    • NicoleMalachowski.com – Advocacy, speaking, and resources
    • LivLymeFoundation.org – Tick-borne illness support
    • LymeDisease.org – Research, education, and patient tools
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  • Ep. 15: Fragility is Weakness, with Charlie Cannon

    Ep. 15: Fragility is Weakness, with Charlie Cannon
    Nov 18 2025
    Lilo sits down with performance coach and resiliency strategist Charlie Cannon to unpack the lie that shaped his life: that fragility and sensitivity are weakness. From a traumatic car accident that nearly killed his sister to the hidden wounds of elite boarding school and abuse, Charlie shares how survivor guilt, partying, and a “survival mask” kept him running from his pain—until he chose to turn toward it. He explains his crumple zone approach to resilience, the healing power of movement and somatic work, and what it really means to live with authentic strength, vulnerability, and wholeness.

    More about this episode:

    Who is Charlie Cannon?
    Charlie Cannon is a performance coach, educator, and resiliency strategist who works with elite teams, executives, and high-performing individuals. He is known for his crumple zone philosophy, which teaches that resilience comes from flexibility, not rigid toughness. His story appears in the documentary Boarding on Insanity and in Joe Foster’s bestselling book How to Survive and Thrive.

    What happened during Charlie’s 1997 accident?
    On July 7, 1997 at 7:17 a.m., Charlie fell asleep at the wheel, causing a catastrophic car accident that left his sister in a coma. He walked away with minor injuries, which triggered deep survivor guilt, trauma, and emotional collapse. The accident eventually became the catalyst for his healing and purpose.

    How did boarding school trauma affect him?
    Charlie was sent to boarding school at age eight, where he experienced emotional abandonment, dissociation, and later revealed abuse, which led to the eventual imprisonment of two teachers. This environment taught him to hide vulnerability, disconnect from emotions, and build a “survival mask” based on self-reliance, approval-seeking, and emotional detachment.

    What is “privileged abandonment”?
    “Privileged abandonment” refers to children raised in elite institutions where material privilege exists but emotional safety, attunement, and consistent parental presence do not. Charlie explains how this dynamic affects attachment, emotional regulation, intimacy, and leadership.

    What is the “crumple zone” philosophy of resilience?
    Charlie teaches that resilience requires strength + flexibility. Just as a car’s crumple zone absorbs impact, humans need emotional softness, adaptability, psychological flexibility, and centeredness to withstand life’s disruptions. Rigid toughness breaks; flexible strength bends and rebuilds.

    What message does Charlie have for survivors still living in silence?
    You are not alone. Your story matters. There are people who will believe you and support you. Reclaiming your voice—one small step at a time—is an act of strength.

    Resources & Links
    • Charlie Cannon Coaching: charliecannon.com
    • Documentary: Boarding on Insanity (on privileged abandonment and boarding school trauma)
    • Book: How to Survive and Thrive by Joe Foster, featuring Charlie’s story
    • ChildHelp National Child Abuse Hotline
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    1 Std. und 1 Min.
  • Ep. 14: Quitting is Failing, with Kelly Poquiz-Burke

    Ep. 14: Quitting is Failing, with Kelly Poquiz-Burke
    Nov 4 2025
    Host Lilo talks with Kelly Poquiz-Burke—executive coach, CEO of Career Slay, and former brand marketing executive for Doritos, Chick-fil-A, and Avocados From Mexico—about the lie her ego clung to for decades: “Quitting is failing.” From a breast cancer diagnosis while pregnant to stress hives, brain scans, and a three-year-old’s pleas—“Don’t leave us”—Kelly shares how she walked away from the corner office, redefined success, and learned that sometimes quitting is actually choosing yourself.

    About this episode:

    Who is Kelly Poquiz-Burke?
    Kelly Poquiz-Burke is an executive coach and CEO of Career Slay, and a former brand marketing executive who led multi-billion dollar portfolios at major brands. She’s also a breast cancer survivor, keynote speaker, and mom who helps high achievers become fearless leaders without burning out.

    Why did quitting her corporate job feel scarier than a cancer diagnosis?
    Cancer “happened” to her, but quitting was a choice. Leaving her high-status roles felt like letting go of her identity, income, and traditional markers of success. She feared it meant she “couldn’t cut it.” Over time, she realized quitting wasn’t failure—it was reclaiming her power and choosing an environment aligned with her values

    What is Career Slay and what does Kelly do now?
    Career Slay began as a podcast and evolved into a coaching and speaking business. Kelly now coaches high-achieving professionals and leaders to:
    • Redefine success beyond titles and salary
    • Navigate big career pivots with courage
    • Build sustainable careers that honor their health, values, and families
    She uses her corporate background and cancer journey to help others create careers that don’t require self-destruction.

    How does Kelly define success?
    Success is no longer about titles, awards, or massive brand budgets. For Kelly, success means:
    • Freedom and flexibility in her work
    • Being a present parent and partner
    • Doing meaningful, purpose-driven work (coaching, speaking, podcasting)
    • Living in alignment with her values instead of chasing external validation
    What’s the difference between quitting and giving up?
    Kelly draws a clear line:
    • Giving up is resigning yourself to failure and hopelessness.
    • Quitting is a conscious pivot away from harm—leaving environments, roles, or expectations that no longer align with your health, values, or purpose. Quitting can be an act of power, not of defeat.
    How can high achievers realign ambition, success, and well-being?
    Kelly uses a “compass” framework:
    • North – North Star: Your long-term vision for life and work
    • East – Energy: What genuinely energizes and excites you
    • South – Sense of Self: Your core values and priorities (health, family, freedom, creativity, etc.)
    • West – Why: Your deeper purpose and impact on others
    When your job, goals, and daily actions align with this compass, ambition becomes sustainable instead of destructive.

    Resources & Links
    • Guest: Kelly Poquiz-Burke – Executive Coach & CEO, Career Slay
      • Website & Coaching: careerslay.com
      • Podcast: Career Slay (search in your favorite podcast app)
    • Show: Lies My Ego Told Me
      • Episode page, resources, and links: liesmyego.com
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    55 Min.
  • Ep. 13: Success Should Speak for Itself, with Ellen Di Resta

    Ep. 13: Success Should Speak for Itself, with Ellen Di Resta
    Oct 21 2025
    Innovation strategist Ellen Di Resta exposes a common career myth: “If I do good work, it will be recognized.” In this episode, host Cathyrine “Lilo” Armandie explores how metrics, measurement, and management culture often overlook the invisible value that drives real innovation.

    In this episode:

    Who is Ellen Di Resta?
    Ellen Di Resta is an innovation and entrepreneurship strategist with a background in engineering and design. She’s a partner at Pearl Partners and founder of The Idea Builders Guild on Substack. Her clients include Procter & Gamble, Clorox, MIT, Boston University, and AstraZeneca.

    What key insight does she share about value and measurement?
    Ellen explains that intangible assets—ideas, empathy, design thinking, and collaboration—drive most business value. For example, about 91% of Apple’s $1 trillion valuation comes from intangible assets, not hardware. Companies that only reward measurable metrics risk overlooking their biggest sources of innovation.

    What framework does Ellen use to make intangible value measurable?
    She introduces the Four Pillars Framework:
    1. Perception – What the customer believes and feels.
    2. Interaction – How people experience the product or idea.
    3. Access – How easily they can engage with it.
    4. Function – How well it performs the intended job.
      This helps teams translate human motivations into measurable design and innovation criteria.
    Why do 70–90% of new ventures and R&D projects fail?
    Most teams rely too early on reliability metrics—the ones used for scaling—before proving validity, or whether they’re building the right thing. Ellen argues that innovators must create new metrics that track confidence and context fit before launch.

    What does Ellen teach innovators and entrepreneurs?
    • Measure progress through understanding, not just output.
    • Use small “stimulus tests” to validate motivation before prototypes.
    • Build organizational confidence step by step.
    • Recognize that success comes from making invisible value visible.
    Visit pearl-partners.com to explore Ellen’s innovation programs or liesmyego.com for more resources.

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    55 Min.
  • Ep. 12: I Don’t Deserve to Dream This Big, with Shaesta Waiz

    Ep. 12: I Don’t Deserve to Dream This Big, with Shaesta Waiz
    Oct 7 2025
    From an Afghan refugee camp to the skies above every continent, Shaesta Waiz shattered barriers as the youngest woman to fly solo around the world in a single-engine aircraft. But before she could take flight, she had to confront the lie that she didn’t deserve to dream big. In this powerful conversation, Lilo interviews Shaesta about breaking free from cultural constraints, the courage to redefine identity, and finding purpose in advocacy for women and girls left behind in Afghanistan.

    In this episode:

    Who is Shaesta Waiz?
    An Afghan-American pilot who, in 2017, became the youngest woman to circumnavigate the globe solo in a single-engine plane. She founded Dreams Soar to inspire and resource the next generation in aviation and STEM.

    What “ego lie” did she believe?
    “I don’t deserve to dream this big.” Growing up between Afghan traditions at home and American culture at school, she internalized limits about what a girl “should” do.

    What shaped that belief?
    A strict, traditional household, limited role models, language barriers, and community pressure not to “draw attention.” Her mother encouraged possibility; her father valued practicality—creating both support and constraint.

    How did she discover aviation?
    On a first solo commercial trip as a young adult, the takeoff moment “unlocked” possibility. The cockpit became a place free of judgment where only skill and focus mattered.

    What is Dreams Soar?
    A nonprofit she launched to pair her global flight with on-the-ground outreach for students—turning a record attempt into a purpose-driven mission.

    What was the Athens orphanage moment?
    Many kids—refugees—weren’t moved by aviation talk. She sat in a circle, listened, and met Sara, a Farsi-speaking Afghan girl newly separated from her mother. Speaking in Farsi, Shaesta explained what was happening and stayed until Sara felt safe—realizing her mission was about people first, inspiration second.

    Did she make it to Afghanistan?
    Yes—via commercial flight (insurance wouldn’t cover GA), coordinated with the UN. Hundreds of Afghan girls welcomed her. She also reunited with her father, who—proudly—helped translate and celebrate her journey.

    Resources & Ways To Support
    • Book: Fly Girl Fly: Shaesta Waiz Soars Around the World — proceeds support Dreams Soar scholarships.
    • Dreams Soar: Learn, give, or partner to expand aviation access and STEM outreach. www.shaestawaiz.com
    • Episode action: Share this episode with someone who needs permission to dream big; leave a review to amplify these stories.
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    1 Std. und 17 Min.