The Quality of the Question

Ever feel like you’re shouting into the void and the void just responds with a shrug and a "New phone, who’s dis?" We’ve all been there. We spend our lives hunting for the right answers, but we rarely stop to realize that our answers are only as good as the questions we have the guts to ask. If you keep asking, "Why does this always happen to me?" your brain—bless its literal heart—will gladly provide a list of every flaw you’ve had since the third grade. But what happens when we flip the script?

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the art of the inquiry. We explore how shifting from "Why?" to the powerful "What?" can transform a stagnant life into a vivid internal masterpiece. Instead of getting lost in the "Why," we look at "What is this teaching me?" or "What is actually happening in this moment?" It’s about moving past surface-level small talk with ourselves and getting to the gritty, beautiful, and sometimes hilariously uncomfortable truth. After all, if you ask a boring question, you’re going to get a boring life—and let’s be honest, #noonegetsoutalive, so we might as well make it interesting.

Tune in as we learn to interrogate our intentions and find the beauty in the curiosity. It’s time to stop settling for easy answers and start mastering the quality of the question.

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What is your excuse for not being a good human? We all have less than stellar days but what excuse do you use and reason with on why its ok to not be a good human? We have 2 cycles we can perpetuate, we can be mean, use our excuse, beat ourselves up and then apologize or we can take 2 seconds ask ourselves If I Die Tomorrow, recognize the issue (our excuse), not take it out on others, watch our tone and put a smile on our face. Then not have to apologize to others and to ourselves. Follow: www.heycoleypress.netwww.tiktok.com/@heycoleypresshttps://www.instagram.com/heycoleypress

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When was the last time you were actually surprised? In a world where we can Google any fact in three seconds and "know" someone’s entire life by scrolling their Instagram grid, we’ve traded our sense of wonder for the illusion of efficiency. We’ve become experts at labeling—seeing a "tree," a "coworker," or a "political rival" and thinking we’ve seen the whole picture. But as we move through life on autopilot, we aren't actually living; we’re just narrating a documentary we think we’ve already watched.

In this episode, we explore The Curiosity Cure. We’re breaking the "Expert Delusion" and bringing back the question mark to a world that desperately needs it. We discuss how "boring" is simply a lack of data and how moving from Judgment to Discovery can transform your mundane surroundings into a miracle.

Whether it's using the "Rabbit Hole Rule" to see the global history in your morning coffee or employing the "Say More" catalyst to unlock the hidden treasures in the people around you, this episode provides the practical tools to "excavate" rather than "manage" your life.

Why does a one-letter text feel like a death sentence? We’ve all been there: you send a heartfelt message, see the typing bubbles vanish, and hours later receive a solitary “K.” In that silence, your brain starts writing a horror movie where you’re the villain and your relationships are crumbling. In this episode of If I Die Tomorrow, Nicole dives into The Digital Void—the high-stress, "low-signal" space where 90% of our communication (tone, body language, and "soft eyes") goes to die.

• The Data Deficit: Why our brains default to fear and insecurity when we only have 10% of the communication "materials" to build a bridge.

• The Assumption Audit: A three-step toolkit to stop "digital warfare" before it starts. Learn how to identify your "Scary Movie" and replace it with the "Grace of the 70%."

• The High-Signal Pivot: Why a two-minute phone call is the ultimate secret weapon against two days of digital spiraling.

• Digital Translation: How to tailor your texts to the four communication styles—from bullet points for Drivers to adding the "pulse" of an emoji for Personals.

The Nicole-ism of the week: "The screen is a window, not a wall." If today were your last day, don't leave behind a trail of misunderstood emails or texts. Learn how to turn on the light and fill the void with truth instead of ghosts.

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Ever had a conversation feel like you were trying to fold a fitted sheet—frustrating, messy, and ending with you wanting to hide in the closet? We’ve all been there. Whether it's a "passionate" debate over the dishwasher or a boardroom meeting that feels more like a standoff, friction is usually the uninvited guest that ruins the vibe. But what if you could take that heat and use it to weld a stronger bond instead of burning the bridge down?

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the art of the "social lubricant" (no, not that kind—get your mind out of the gutter!). We are exploring how to pivot from defensive posturing to genuine curiosity. We’ll talk about why your brain goes into "fight mode" when someone critiques your Spotify playlist and how to flip the script to create actual connection. It turns out, the secret to better relationships isn't avoiding the friction; it's learning how to steer through it without losing your cool—or your dignity.

So, grab a coffee (or something stronger, we don’t judge) and join us as we transform those awkward "ugh" moments into "aha!" breakthroughs. Let's stop bumping heads and start building bridges.

Be kind, be grateful, stay humble.

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Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the "vibe" before a single word was spoken? Or perhaps you’ve left a conversation wondering why it felt slightly off, despite the polite small talk? The truth is, we are constantly communicating through a silent language of gestures, posture, and micro-expressions.

In this episode, we dive deep into the art and science of body language specifically tailored for social meetings, networking events, and parties. We move beyond the clichés of "don't cross your arms" to explore the nuanced signals that build genuine rapport and project quiet confidence.

What we cover in this episode:

• The Power of Proximity: Understanding personal space and how "leaning in" can signal interest without being intrusive.

• The "Eye Contact" Sweet Spot: How to maintain engagement without making things awkward.

• Mirroring and Matching: Using subtle behavioral mimicry to create an instant sense of belonging and trust.

• Reading the Room: Identifying "closed" vs. "open" clusters in a crowd and how to join a conversation gracefully.

• Hand Gestures: Why showing your palms can make you appear more honest and approachable.

Whether you are an introvert looking to navigate social anxiety or a professional aiming to sharpen your charismatic edge, this episode provides actionable tools to help you speak volumes without saying a word. Tune in to transform your social presence and start connecting on a deeper, more intuitive level.

Why They Aren't Listening (And It’s Not Your Accent) 🎙️✨

Happy New Year! We’re kicking off 2026 with a life-saving superpower. Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you were speaking Klingon while they were speaking Elvish? You’re both using English, but the signal is totally lost. If today was your last day on Earth, you wouldn't want to spend it frustrated because your spouse, your boss, or your best friend "just doesn't get it."

In this episode on If I Die Tomorrow, we’re cracking the "Secret Code" of communication. We’re moving past the guesswork and giving you a "Mirror" to see yourself and a "Detective Lens" to see others.

• The 4 Home Bases: Are you a data-crunching Analytical, a bottom-line Driver, a step-by-step Functional, or a heart-centered Personal communicator?

• The 2-Question Mirror: We simplify self-discovery—do you prioritize tasks or people? Do you move fast or slow?

• The "Wrapper" Strategy: Learn how to gift-wrap your message so it actually gets opened. (Hint: Stop giving a Driver a 10-page backstory if they just want the result!)

Communication doesn't have to be a chore; it’s just about noticing. Life is too short for "lost in translation" moments. Join us as we learn to build better bridges, one conversation at a time.

Be Kind, Be Grateful, Stay Humble.

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Welcome to "If I Die Tomorrow," I'm Nicole. As the calendar turns, we launch into the most important episode of the year: The Annual Life Audit. We're not making resolutions; we're using your potential regret to set a spiritual trajectory. This is a non-judgmental review of your last 12 months, based on the question: "If I had died last New Year's Day, would I be proud of the choices I made this year?" We'll guide you through an audit of your Time, Money, and Spiritual Energy to identify the biggest "regret gaps." Tune in to learn how to turn those hard-won lessons into a clear, concise, and meaningful "One-Word Intention" for the coming year, ensuring your next 365 days actively contribute to your purpose and your relationship with the divine or the great unknown.