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We all need friends! Even the most introverted people need at least one or two friends. Ya gotta! The phrase "Live together Die alone" comes to mind. It means survival, success, and meaning depend on unity and community. Studies show that people with close friends and relationships lead healthier and live happier lives. I know I'm more happy when I am with good friends.

When you are young, especially in school, making friends is easy and effortless. But as an adult, it is harder to meet people, much less spend enough time to develop these types of close relationships. Adult friendships require WAY more effort. Listen in as I describe different types of friendships and try to break down ways to build new relationships or strengthen the ones you have.

And remember, you got a friend in me. (It's also a song) <3

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Welcome back my fellow hot messes! This episode I am joined by one of my closest friends who also identifies as a hot mess. But Maria has unique systems to help her thrive, despite being not super together at all times, and she is willing to share them with us! If you were ever stranded somewhere, Maria is the person you will hope you are with as she has all the supplies needed to survive almost any situation!

As always, thanks for listening and enjoy the show!

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Norm is back and telling the story of how, after getting rejected by the cashier at the bagel place, he met his beautiful wife Marie, starting with a blind date at a U2 concert. Using U2 tickets could be used as a good way to get dates! We also delve into his past where he falsely claimed to be a professional bikini stylist and his petty criminal past as a strainer thief at bars. Your secret is safe with us Norm! (and a few thousand listeners. Shhhh) He also shares an alarming tale of how he alarmed hotel staff with his personal alarm. So many red flags Norm! But this is why you are a repeat guest and fit in perfectly with this here Hot Mess Happy Hour. Cheers!

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My car-less friend Norm meets up with me on a Vespa, to tell us about his time at Improv Summer camp and explains their Kitty Cat Careers game. He was slightly traumatized by 'Onesie Karaoke,' which I have not personally ever participated in, but no judgement. I discuss tipping over canoes and bailing out with a Solo cup. We also briefly meet former NBA basketball referee Woody, who is also a Canes fan. In closing, we want folks, especially musicians, to know that it is both normal and healthy to sweat! This is a safe space where all are welcome! Please join us!

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Welcome to part 2 of my happy hour with my friend the famous true crime podcaster Javier Leiva! I knew him before Pretend was just a twinkle in his eye. In this episode, Javier tries to talk me into being a cult leader, discusses his near shark attack, funeral etiquette, name drops his high school buddy Pitbull and a few other celebrities, and explains Brazilian butt lifts to me. He also offers his hot take on dental plans and Cuban doctors. Apparently no topic is off the table in this exciting part 2 episode! Please join us!

And, listen to Pretend, a more pulled together podcast than ours, but my hot mess friends will still love it! Javier is good people!

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My long-awaited Emmy-award winning guest Javier Leiva from the popular Pretend Podcast joins me on Hot Mess Happy Hour with breaking news! He has been officially diagnosed with ADHD and can join our tribe of hot messes! He discusses how Pretend got its start and how his true-crime series ended up being featured in the New York Times, BBC, and New York Magazine. He also discusses several airline antics and offers a PSA warning not to travel with me... like ever. Things happen. A lot. You'll also learn why not to consume a large amount of beets before flying cross country from Seattle to Raleigh. This is the first part of a two part series with our special guest.

Our next episode will drop next week where we continue the fun with Javier and discuss cult leaders, BBLs, close encounters with sharks, meeting Michael Jackson, and attending a stranger's funeral. Stay tuned!

And listen to the Pretend Podcast, going almost for 10 years now! It is awesome and on my list of favorites. <3

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ADHD people are more likely to be people-pleasers as a survival mechanism to avoid rejection and cope with emotional regulation. I am guilty of it too, but we need to find a way to break this cycle of pleasing. It is okay to be kind and do things for others but don't make it cost your personal values. Recognize what you want to do versus what you feel obligated to do to keep the peace. Gradually set small boundaries to get back to having confidence without the fear of negative reactions. If your friends don't care what you value, or criticize you often, it might be time to move on to better people who respect your boundaries and feelings. You got this! I am here for you!

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The fun continues with our insightful and hilarious guest Nate, as we discuss what not to say to people with depression or ADHD. Best practices if you will, and you should. We also do a deep dive into LEGO minifigs, vegetarian foods, and feature the song "Game Boy" by Zack Cokas, with a sample of this rockin' tune. Don't miss the Yard Sale stories, as those are too funny! You can see that no topic is off limits. Thanks for listening!! We love you. Check out Spotify for more Zack Cokas and Cam Cokas hits! They are talented musical twins with completely different styles. Enjoy!

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