There’s a word that gets thrown around casually… but when it lands on someone with a mental illness, it can be devastating: “attention-seeking.”

In this episode, I share my own story — struggling with my mental health since I was 13 and hiding it for 16 years — and explore why calling someone attention-seeking can turn an already isolating, lonely experience into something even more painful.

We unpack why seeking attention isn’t negative: it’s often a cry for connection, a sign that someone cannot carry their pain alone. And when we label it as a flaw, it stops people from opening up, breaks trust, and can even prevent lives from being saved.

This episode is a reminder of why empathy, compassion, and listening matter more than judgment — and why we must never make someone regret reaching out.

So many of us learn to be loved by giving — our time, our energy, our care, our strength — until there’s nothing left for ourselves.

In this episode, I talk about what happens when you reach the point of emotional exhaustion and can no longer be everything for everyone. We explore the fear, guilt, and grief that come with stepping back, and the painful clarity that shows you who stayed because they cared — and who stayed because you carried them.

This is an episode about burnout, boundaries, conditional relationships, and learning that your worth is not measured by how much you give, but by who you are when you finally choose yourself.

Sometimes we spend so much of our lives performing — for attention, for approval, for validation — that we forget how to be okay without it.

In this episode, I explore what it means to let go of the need to be liked, chosen, or praised. We talk about:

• The difference between being liked and being truly known

• Letting go of the version of yourself built to please others

• Finding peace and self-worth without external validation

• Learning to sit with silence, stillness, and your own presence

This episode is for anyone learning that your value isn’t measured by applause — it’s measured by how safely and fully you can stand in your own truth.

This episode is about conditional relationships — the people who loved me when I was easy, and the people who left when I stopped being.

I talk about:

• The people I met when I had nothing left to give

• The people I lost when I had nothing left to give

• The ones who came back, then disappeared again

• The ones who left when I started taking responsibility

• And the ones who loved me through every version

This episode is also a reminder that relationships of any kind should not come with conditions.

And if someone only shows up for certain versions of you,

they do not deserve a seat at your table.

This is a reflection on how love changes when we change — and what it means to finally choose yourself when others no longer choose you.

When the People You Thought Were Forever, Leave

There’s a quiet kind of grief that comes when people are still alive, but no longer part of your life.

In this episode, I talk about what it feels like to be left behind by people you thought would be in your life forever — how a year later, the smallest moments can still bring them back, and how watching them move on can make you feel deeply alone.

I share how my life has changed, how the version of me others loved no longer exists, and how healing can cost you people — even when you’re becoming someone better.

This episode is for anyone who has outgrown old lives, lost friendships, or realised that not everyone is meant to walk with you forever.

Healing can be lonely - not because you’re doing it wrong, but because you’re doing it honestly.

Healing is often talked about as something that brings clarity, peace, and connection — but there’s a part of it that rarely gets named.

Loneliness.

In this episode of What About Now? – Holding On and Moving Forward, we explore how healing can quietly distance us from familiar people, places, and patterns. From outgrowing old environments to being honest about what we can and can’t do anymore, this episode looks at the kind of loneliness that isn’t about being unwanted — but about changing.

We talk about boundaries, safety, and the grief that can come with choosing yourself, even when no one has done anything wrong. This episode is for anyone who feels like they don’t quite belong where they used to, and who is learning that healing doesn’t always feel comforting — sometimes it just feels quiet.

If you’re in that in-between space, you’re not alone.

“Not every struggle has a story. Not every pain has a cause. Sometimes there is no reason - and you’re still allowed to need care”

We’re often told that there must be a reason behind our struggles.

A reason we feel low.

A reason we can’t get out of bed.

A reason something inside us feels broken.

But what if there isn’t one?

In this episode, we talk about the pressure to explain pain — to justify depression, anxiety, exhaustion, and emotional heaviness with a clear cause or past event. We explore what it feels like to struggle without an obvious reason, the shame that can come with that, and why pain doesn’t need an origin story to be real or valid.

This is a reminder that not every experience can be traced back to a single moment. Sometimes the brain changes. Sometimes life wears us down. And sometimes things just happen.

You don’t need a reason to struggle.

You don’t need proof to deserve support.

You don’t need to understand everything in order to be gentle with yourself.

Sometimes there is no reason — and that’s okay.

“Growth isn’t always joyful. Sometimes it carries grief, loss, and the weight of who we once were.”

In this episode, we explore the often unspoken grief that accompanies personal growth. Even as we heal and change, we may find ourselves mourning the versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown, the familiarity of old patterns, and the moments that shaped us.

Through gentle guidance and storytelling we unpack:

• ​How to carry the past without living there
• ​Validate growth even when others may only see the worst in us
• ​Make space for grief without romanticising it

​This episode is a safe place to honour your journey, your resilience, and the quiet losses that come with becoming who you are meant to be.