In this episode, Xander lays down with Anusuya in her living room bed for a conversation about conflict, energy, altered states, and what it means to stay present inside a body that has limits.

What began as a reflection on being “the bridge” in conflict opens into a deeper inquiry about capacity, chronic illness, and the cost of holding others.

Together, they explore:

• conflict as intimacy
• the nervous system cost of being the bridge
• chronic illness and limited energy
• stories vs raw emotion
• empathy without fixing
• altered states and other ways of perceiving
• the sacredness inside pain

This is a conversation about choosing where your energy goes, and what it means to care without losing yourself.What connects us can also exhaust us. Together we talk about learning when to stay and when to step back.

Stay tender. Stay tangled. Stay held together.

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⁠⁠On Instagram @xanderpeerkeller and linked here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠On Facebook linked here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠And on TikTok @queercripmagic and linked here.⁠⁠

Read their writing on Substack at ⁠⁠xanderpeerkeller.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ linked here.⁠⁠

Visit their website at ⁠⁠disabilitycreativity.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ linked here.⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠

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Email us at ⁠helptogetherpod@gmail.com

In this episode, Xander sits down with their acupuncturist, Tom Kirby, for a conversation about unlikely healing, addiction, and what it means to truly be met.

What began as resistance to another white man in medicine became an unexpected relationship rooted in listening, presence, and shared humanity.

Together, they explore

• chronic pain

• cannabis as both lifeline and challenge

• sobriety

• vulnerability

• the living loop of care and reciprocity

This is a conversation about survival, trust, and the messy beauty of staying alive.

What helps us survive can sometimes begin to take more than it gives.

Stay tender. Stay tangled. Stay held together.

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Find Xander Peer Keller:

⁠On Instagram @xanderpeerkeller and linked here. ⁠⁠

On Facebook linked here. ⁠⁠

And on TikTok @queercripmagic and linked here.⁠

Read their writing on Substack at ⁠xanderpeerkeller.substack.com/⁠⁠ linked here.⁠

Visit their website at ⁠disabilitycreativity.com⁠⁠ linked here.⁠ ⁠

Check out Sirona Isle's music on Spotify!⁠

Email us at ⁠helptogetherpod@gmail.com

In this conversation, I sit down with my friend Raven Hinojosa to trace the threads of our connection—how ritual, magic, and care weave through our friendship. We talk about:

• How our relationship shifted when Raven joined me in disability and illness

• Following ease and pleasure, even in pain

• Evolving and unfurling without needing to “fix” ourselves

• The role of ritual and creativity in deepening love and interdependence

This episode is an invitation into the ways friendship, disability, and magic hold us together.

Stay tender. Stay tangled. Stay held together.

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Find Xander Peer Keller:
On Instagram @xanderpeerkeller and linked here.
On Facebook linked here.
And on TikTok @queercripmagic and linked here.
Read their writing on Substack at xanderpeerkeller.substack.com/ linked here.
Visit their website at disabilitycreativity.com linked here.
Check out Sirona Isle's music on Spotify!
Email us at helptogetherpod@gmail.com