In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 types of emotionally immature behaviour that high-functioning women often tolerate, excuse or overcompensate for.

We cover:

• What emotional immaturity actually looks like in adult relationships
• The defensive partner who turns every conversation into an attack
• Gaslighting and why it slowly erodes your self-trust
• The minimiser who makes your feelings feel “too much”
• The avoidant who disappears when things get real
• The victim performer who collapses when you ask for accountability
• Why capable, high-achieving women are especially vulnerable to these dynamics
• The nervous system cost of staying in emotionally immature relationships

If this episode resonates and you’re ready to stop carrying the emotional weight in your relationships, I work with high-functioning women in 1:1 therapy to:

• Strengthen boundaries without guilt
• Rebuild trust in your own perception
• Break attachment patterns rooted in childhood
• Stop confusing emotional chaos with chemistry

Lizandra is a registered psychotherapist who works 1:1 with relational trauma in the UK. Book an intro call here.

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Previous Relevant Episodes

4 Attachment Styles in Relationships [Ep 2]

How to Heal from Anxious Attachment [Ep 4]

Is it Narcissism or Avoidant Attachment? [Ep 28]

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In this episode, I talk about the subtle, everyday ways attachment patterns show up in high functioning women.

We explore:

• Why replying quickly can be about regulation, not politeness
• Why resting can feel uncomfortable, even when you’re exhausted
• Why asking for help feels harder than just doing it yourself

Attachment isn’t only romantic love. It shows up in how you move through your day, how safe you feel slowing down, and how much you carry on your own.

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In this episode, we dive into high-functioning anxiety—what it really looks like, why it’s so common among high-achieving women, and how childhood experiences can secretly shape the way your nervous system responds to stress.

We talk about:
. How high-functioning anxiety shows up in day-to-day life
. The hidden costs of always “being fine”
. Why your nervous system can keep you in overdrive even when life seems calm
. Small, practical steps to start calming your mind without giving up ambition

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by your own brain, struggled to ask for help, or worried that slowing down means failing, this episode is for you.

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