The Strength in Saying “I Can’t Do This By Myself”

Frazier opens the week with a Monday Growth Note and reflects on a newsletter from Cody Sanchez about her difficult journey trying to get pregnant, which reminds him of his and his wife’s experience with their first child. He highlights her point that one of the hardest things to say is “I can’t do this by myself,” and argues there is a real cost to not asking for help. Frazier shares how his Thursday “Still Standing” coaching calls are built for people at rock bottom who admit they need support, and he notes they are often the most engaged—showing up live, on camera, present, and taking notes. He encourages listeners to see asking for help as strength, whether in business or personal struggles, and to reach out when needed.

When Is Enough Enough? The Mirror Moment That Forces Change

In this Sunday Growth Note (August 2), Frazier encourages listeners to have an honest conversation with themselves about “when enough is going to be enough” and to stop relying on excuses. He shares his own catalyst: after years of failed diets and letting work and habits slide, he was over 320 pounds and realized things had to change when 3XL clothes became too tight, which pushed him to commit to 75 Hard and not go back. He applies the same idea to lenders and originators, noting the market previously propped up bad habits, but conditions are now more challenging. Frazier asks whether missing time blocks, inconsistency, and lack of follow-up are worth the stress, and urges making change if they aren’t happy.

Frazier reflects on moving into August with five months left in the year and urges listeners to push hard even if things typically slow down later in the year. He shares a question from LinkedIn Loaded about what people chase that ultimately doesn’t matter, and answers that it’s influence when it’s pursued as recognition or validation for its own sake—likes, vanity metrics, and “celebrity” status. He distinguishes this from influence as a byproduct of chasing purpose and impact, noting that leadership still requires influence, but it should be rooted in meaningful outcomes. Frazier argues self-validation matters most, encourages intentionality in changing lives, and shares from experience that chasing likes feels empty, while focusing on helping at least one person daily aligns with purpose.

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