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Five Year You

Five Year You

Von: Andrew Dewar and Catherine Collins
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Welcome to "Five Year You," the podcast that takes you on a transformative journey toward your future self. Join us as we explore the power of self-improvement, tackling challenges, setting goals, and unleashing the potential within you. Our conversations are raw, real, and relatable, offering practical tips and insights to empower you in your growth. Each episode offers useful tips to help you become the person you aspire to be. Tune in, invest in yourself, and let's embark on this adventure together! Get ready for a unique and personal exploration of the honest and relatable moments that will shape the next chapter of your story. In each episode, we dive into the day-to-day experiences that make up the mosaic of your life over the next five years. From the small victories to the inevitable challenges, "Five Year You" captures the essence of the ordinary and extraordinary moments that contribute to your personal growth. Our tagline, "Raw, Real, Relatable," perfectly encapsulates the authenticity of the stories we share. No glossy highlights, just the unfiltered reality of navigating the twists and turns of everyday life. Join us as we connect with individuals from various walks of life who openly share their aspirations, setbacks, and the unexpected surprises that come with each passing day. Whether you're facing career crossroads, building relationships, or discovering new passions, "Five Year You" is here to provide a real-time reflection on the shared human experience. Tune in for a daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and a reminder that you're not alone on this journey.©Five Year You Hygiene & gesundes Leben Persönliche Entwicklung Persönlicher Erfolg Seelische & Geistige Gesundheit
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  • Sympathy or Solutions - Re-Release

    Sympathy or Solutions - Re-Release
    Jun 24 2026
    Ready to go deeper? Work with me here:https://fiveyearyou.com/coaching/If you’ve been feeling stuck in the same conversations… like you keep venting but nothing is actually changing… like you want comfort, but also know you need movement—this episode is for you.Because here’s the truth:Sympathy can feel good in the moment.And more importantly… solutions are what help you actually move forward.💭 What This Episode CoversThe difference between sympathy and supportWhy being understood is important—but not always enoughHow venting can become a loop instead of a releaseWhy solutions require honesty, ownership, and actionHow to know when you need comfort and when you need a next stepPractical ways to shift from repeating the problem to changing the pattern🚨 Why We Sometimes Choose Sympathy Over SolutionsSympathy Feels SaferSympathy gives us comfort without requiring immediate change.It lets us feel seen, validated, and understood—which matters. But if we stay there too long, it can become a soft place to hide.👉 Result: You feel emotionally soothed, but your situation stays the same.Solutions Require OwnershipA solution often asks a harder question:What part of this can I influence?What choice is mine now?That can feel uncomfortable because it moves us from talking about the problem to participating in the change.👉 Result: You may resist advice because it asks you to step into your own power.Venting Can Become FamiliarSometimes we tell the same story so many times that it becomes part of who we are.We know the frustration.We know the complaint.We know the role we play in the story.👉 Result: The problem becomes familiar, even when it is painful.Being Validated Can Feel Like ProgressHearing “you’re right” or “that’s so unfair” can feel like movement.But validation is not the same as transformation.It may confirm your feelings, but it does not always change your reality.👉 Result: You feel temporarily better, but not truly freer.😞 The Emotional Cost of Staying in SympathyWhen you keep choosing sympathy without solutions, it creates:frustrationhelplessnessresentmentemotional exhaustiondiscouragementYou may feel supported, but still stuck.You may feel understood, but not empowered.You may feel comforted, but not changed.And the worst part?👉 You can start believing the problem is permanent simply because you have talked about it for so long.⚠️ The Hidden DangerWhen you only seek sympathy, you may unconsciously surround yourself with people who help you stay in the same place.Examples:Friends who validate every complaint but never challenge your patternsConversations that repeat the same problem without creating clarityAdvice you dismiss because it feels uncomfortableStaying in victim mode because action feels scaryMistaking emotional agreement for real support👉 Real support does not just comfort you in the struggle—it helps you rise out of it.🔑 The Truth You Need to HearYou deserve compassion.You deserve to be heard.You deserve people who understand your pain.But you also deserve progress.You deserve tools.You deserve clarity.You deserve solutions that help you build a better life.Sympathy says, “That must be hard.”Support says, “That is hard—and you are capable of taking the next step.”👉 The goal is not to dismiss your feelings. The goal is to honor them without letting them become your stopping point.🔄 What Wanting Sympathy Actually MeansWanting sympathy does not mean you are weak.It often means you are tired.It means you want someone to witness what you are carrying.It means you need softness before strategy.But once you feel seen, you can begin asking:What now?What next?What is one small thing I can do differently?👉 Sympathy can be the beginning—but it was never meant to be the whole path.🛠️ How to Shift Out of the “Sympathy Only” MindsetAsk Yourself What You Actually NeedBefore you start the conversation, pause and ask:Do I need comfort?Do I need advice?Do I need accountability?Do I need a plan?Knowing what you need helps you stop expecting one conversation to do everything.Put a Time Limit on VentingGive yourself space to feel it—but do not live there.Say what hurts.Name what is frustrating.Let yourself be honest.Then gently ask:What is this asking me to change?Look for Your Point of PowerEven if the whole situation is not in your control, something usually is.Your boundary.Your response.Your next choice.Your environment.Your willingness to ask for help.👉 Power returns when you stop focusing only on what others are doing and start noticing what is available to you.Choose People Who Can Hold BothFind people who can validate your feelings and lovingly challenge your patterns.You need people who can say:“That makes sense.”And also:“What are you going to do about it?”Turn the Conversation Into One Next StepBefore you leave the conversation, identify one action.One boundary.One decision.One honest ...
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    30 Min.
  • The Power of Contrast - Re-release

    The Power of Contrast - Re-release
    Jun 17 2026
    Ready to go deeper? Work with me here:https://fiveyearyou.com/coaching/If you’ve been feeling frustrated by what isn’t working… like the hard moments mean you’re on the wrong path… like life should feel clearer, easier, or more certain—this episode is for you.Because here’s the truth:Contrast is not proof that something has gone wrong.And more importantly… it can help you see exactly what you want next.💭 What This Episode CoversWhat contrast really means in your lifeWhy difficult experiences create clarityHow disappointment can reveal your deeper desiresThe difference between resisting discomfort and learning from itWhy you do not need to stay stuck in what you do not wantHow to use contrast as a guide toward a more aligned life🚨 Why Contrast Feels So UncomfortableYou Think Discomfort Means FailureWhen something feels hard, disappointing, or misaligned, it is easy to assume you made the wrong choice.But discomfort is not always a sign that you failed. Sometimes it is information.👉 Result: You judge the experience instead of listening to what it is teaching you.You Focus on What Is MissingContrast draws attention to the gap between where you are and where you want to be.Without awareness, that gap can feel like proof that you are behind.👉 Result: You become consumed by what is absent instead of noticing what is becoming clear.You Resist the LessonNo one wants to stay in pain longer than necessary.But when you rush to escape discomfort without understanding it, the same patterns can follow you into the next chapter.👉 Result: You change the circumstances without changing the deeper choice.You Expect Clarity Before ExperienceWe often want to know exactly what we want before we begin.But sometimes you only discover your preferences by living through what does not fit.👉 Result: You criticize yourself for not knowing sooner when the experience itself created the knowing.😞 The Emotional Cost of Resisting ContrastWhen you believe every difficult experience means something has gone wrong, it creates:shamefrustrationregretimpatienceself-doubtYou may replay the past, criticize your choices, or wonder why you did not see things more clearly.And the worst part?👉 You can become so focused on escaping the moment that you miss the clarity it is offering you.⚠️ The Hidden DangerWhen you do not understand the purpose of contrast, you may make reactive choices simply to get away from discomfort.Examples:Leaving one situation only to recreate the same dynamic somewhere elseChoosing the opposite of what hurt you without asking what you truly wantSettling for quick relief instead of lasting alignmentAssuming a painful experience means you cannot trust yourselfStaying stuck in resentment because the lesson feels unfair👉 Escaping what you do not want is not the same as intentionally choosing what you do want.🔑 The Truth You Need to HearContrast creates clarity.You learn what peace feels like after experiencing chaos.You recognize respect after being dismissed.You understand alignment after living out of alignment.You appreciate ease after carrying too much.None of this means you needed to suffer.It means your experience can still become useful.👉 What did not work can help you become more honest about what will.🔄 What Contrast Actually MeansContrast is not punishment.It is not evidence that you are behind.It is not proof that you cannot trust yourself.Contrast is information.It shows you what feels heavy.It reveals what no longer fits.It helps you define what matters.It invites you to choose again with greater awareness.👉 The contrast is not the end of your story. It is the beginning of clearer direction.🛠️ How to Use the Power of ContrastStop Judging → Start NoticingInstead of immediately labeling the experience as bad, ask:What is this showing me?What feels wrong here?What do I now know I need?Curiosity creates more clarity than criticism.Get Specific About What You WantIt is easy to say, “I do not want this anymore.”Go one step further.What do you want instead?How do you want to feel?What would alignment look like in your daily life?Separate the Lesson from the PainYou do not have to be grateful for every painful experience.But you can choose to take the wisdom without carrying the wound forever.👉 You can honor what you learned without remaining emotionally attached to what hurt you.Make One Aligned ChoiceClarity becomes powerful when it changes your behavior.Set the boundary.Speak the truth.Choose the healthier pattern.Take the next step.Small aligned choices create a very different life.Let Yourself Choose AgainYou are allowed to change your mind when you gain new information.A past decision does not have to become a permanent identity.👉 Growth often looks like choosing differently once you know differently.💡 Key TakeawayContrast helps you recognize what matters.It shows you what drains you.It reveals what you value.It makes your desires ...
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    28 Min.
  • Who is Holding You Back? - Re-release

    Who is Holding You Back? - Re-release
    Jun 10 2026
    Ready to go deeper? Work with me here:https://fiveyearyou.com/coaching/If you’ve been feeling stuck… like something—or someone—is keeping you from becoming who you want to be… like you’re waiting for permission to move forward—this episode is for you.Because here’s the truth:Not everyone will understand the life you are trying to build.And more importantly… you do not need their approval to begin.💭 What This Episode CoversHow to recognize who—or what—is holding you backWhy other people’s fears can quietly become your limitsThe difference between support, concern, and controlHow people-pleasing keeps you disconnected from yourselfWhy you may be waiting for permission that will never comePractical ways to reclaim your choices and move forward🚨 Why You Feel Held BackYou’re Carrying Other People’s FearSometimes the people around you discourage change because your growth feels unfamiliar or threatening to them.Their hesitation may sound like concern, but it can slowly become a voice inside your own head.👉 Result: You begin doubting dreams that once felt clear.You’re Afraid of Disappointing PeopleYou may know what you want, but choosing it could upset someone you love.So you stay small, stay quiet, or keep postponing the decision.👉 Result: You protect other people’s comfort at the expense of your own peace.You’ve Learned to Seek PermissionWhen you are used to looking outside yourself for validation, trusting your own decisions can feel uncomfortable.You wait for someone to agree, approve, or reassure you before taking the next step.👉 Result: Your life remains paused while you wait for permission that may never come.The Person Holding You Back May Be YouSometimes the loudest resistance is internal.Fear, self-doubt, perfectionism, and old beliefs can stop you before anyone else gets the chance.👉 Result: You mistake familiar limitations for reality.😞 The Emotional Cost of Feeling Held BackWhen you believe you cannot move forward without someone else’s approval, it creates:resentmentfrustrationhelplessnessself-doubtdisconnection from your own desiresYou may start blaming the people around you while quietly abandoning yourself.And the worst part?👉 The longer you ignore your truth, the harder it becomes to hear it.⚠️ The Hidden DangerWhen you allow fear, guilt, or outside opinions to lead your life, you can make choices that look safe but feel deeply misaligned.Examples:Staying in a relationship because leaving might disappoint someoneRemaining in a job because others think it is “secure”Hiding a dream because people may not understand itSaying yes when your whole body is asking you to say noWaiting until everyone is comfortable before you change👉 A life built around avoiding disappointment will eventually disappoint you.🔑 The Truth You Need to HearYou are allowed to change.You are allowed to want something different.You are allowed to outgrow old roles, expectations, and relationships.You are not responsible for making everyone comfortable with your choices.And you do not need unanimous support to trust yourself.👉 The people who love you may need time to understand your growth—but you do not have to stop growing while they catch up.🔄 What Resistance Actually MeansFeeling resistance does not always mean you are making the wrong choice.Sometimes it means you are leaving a familiar version of yourself behind.Sometimes it means you are finally questioning rules you never consciously chose.Sometimes it means you are standing at the edge of a life that requires more courage, honesty, and self-trust.👉 Resistance may not be a stop sign. It may be proof that you are moving.🛠️ How to Shift Out of the “Held Back” MindsetName the VoiceWhen doubt appears, ask yourself:Is this fear actually mine?Or am I repeating something someone else taught me to believe?Separating your voice from everyone else’s is the first step toward clarity.Stop Asking for Permission → Start Asking for TruthInstead of asking, “Will everyone approve?” ask:What do I genuinely want?What choice feels honest?What would I do if I trusted myself?Notice Where You Are Giving Away Your PowerPay attention to the places where you regularly say:“I can’t because they…”“They won’t let me…”“They’ll be upset if…”You may not control their reaction, but you can choose your response.Set a Small BoundaryYou do not have to transform your entire life overnight.Start with one honest conversation.One clear no.One decision made without overexplaining.👉 Every boundary strengthens your relationship with yourself.Take the Next Brave StepYou do not need the whole plan.You only need the next decision that moves you closer to the person you want to become.Courage grows through action—not endless preparation.💡 Key TakeawayThe person holding you back may be someone you love.It may be an old belief.It may be fear.It may even be you.But recognizing what is ...
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    26 Min.
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