"I failed" is an event. "I am a failure" is a lie.

In this transformative episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth and Coach Mia tackle the "Toxic Rumination Loop"—the dangerous habit of replaying our mistakes until they become our identity. Using the "Railroad Track Theory," they explain why joy and adversity are parallel constants in our lives, and why your brain is biologically wired to "Battery Optimize" by keeping you stuck in survival mode.

Coach Seth shares his personal journey of overcoming his own "adversity" with running, illustrating how to teach your brain what thriving actually looks like. They dive deep into the science of Learned Helplessness and provide a practical "Success Sequence" to help you reclaim your power. You'll learn why we must Normalize Failure (not accept it) and how "Micro-Wins" can rebuild the confidence shattered by a hard season.

Whether you’re a parent trying to help your child navigate a setback or an adult feeling like you’re stuck in an emotional "middle school," this episode is your blueprint to ensure a bad season doesn't turn into a bad life.

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Is your parenting response building resilience or reinforcing failure?

In this episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth and Coach Mia dive into the "Railroad Tracks" of life—the reality that something amazingly good and something incredibly adverse are always happening at the same time. Using a real-time story of a teenage driving mistake, they explore why the way we respond to our children’s failures predicts how they will handle adversity as adults.

They pull back the curtain on the "Toxic Rumination Loop," explaining the dangerous difference between learning from a mistake and simply re-playing the misery of it without any new insight. You'll learn why "soft" parenting can actually be a form of crippling a child and how to shift your perspective from "Failure is Final" to "Adversity is a Tool". Whether you are navigating a setback in your career or helping your student own their actions, this conversation provides the blueprint for moving through pain and stepping into victory.

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Our mission at Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

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Is your parenting style building a champion or a crutch?

In this episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth and Coach Mia dive into why modern "soft culture" is robbing the next generation of the grit they need to succeed. While most people view adversity as a sign to stop, elite performers know it is the essential "springboard" for greatness.

We break down the Toxic Pain Cycle—the dangerous psychological loop of re-living failures rather than learning from them—and why normalizing defeat is the only way to build a healthy relationship with success. Whether you are a parent, educator, or student, this conversation is a masterclass in shifting from a place of fear to a place of love and victory.

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Our mission at Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

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Are you stuck in a "survival mindset" that no longer serves you? In this episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth and Cherri Kulp of Unearth Coaching explore why so many of us are still using the mental tools we developed just to get through childhood. While a "scrappy" survival instinct might have protected you then, it could be the very thing blowing up your relationships and blocking your peace today.

In this episode, Coach Seth and Cherri break down why the holiday season often acts as a mirror for our deepest family wounds and how to navigate those triggers with empathy. They explore the vital importance of creating a clear family identity, discussing why modern "cancel culture" within families is robbing the next generation of their legacy. Cherri shares why "growing through it" is a choice to see adversity as a fine-tuning process for a greater purpose. Whether you are struggling to reconnect with your kids or looking to build a generational foundation of character and grace, this conversation provides the tools to stop reacting to your past and start leading your family toward a 150-year vision.

About Our Guest: Cherri Kulp is the founder of Unearth Coaching, dedicated to helping individuals dig deep to find emotional intelligence and lasting freedom.

Instagram: @UnearthedCC

Location: 2043 S. Bend Avenue #203, South Bend, Indiana 46637

Phone #: 574-213-2143

Email: info@unearthedcc.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherrikulp/

Our mission at The Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

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Will your adversity build you or bury you? In this powerful episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth and Coach Mia dive deep into the one thing no human gets a pass on: hard times. Whether it’s chaos at home, pressure on the field, or hidden trauma, adversity is a guaranteed part of the human experience—but it doesn't have to define your identity.

In this conversation, Seth and Mia break down the three states of the human nervous system and why "shutting down" is a biological response that traps us in hopelessness. They discuss the "Creative Genius" study by NASA, revealing how life’s failures and negative words often beat down the innate brilliance we are all born with. Coach Seth shares a personal story of a devastating game-winning shot he missed in high school and the specific mental process he used to "draw a circle" around the event so it didn't paralyze his future.

Learn how to regulate your nervous system through breathing and intentionality, and discover why the gap between where you are and where you want to be can only be closed once you stop letting your circumstances define who you are.

The Five Star Life App: Download "Five Star Life" on the Apple Store or Google Play Store.

Go to fivestarlife.org to learn more about how we’re changing students' lives.

Our mission at Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

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How do you find your voice when you feel like you’ve lost everything? At fifteen, Kinley Shoemaker’s world was shattered by a violent act. Instead of hiding, she chose a path of radical resilience, stepping into the arena of pageantry and eventually becoming Miss Indiana.

In this episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth sits down with Kinley Shoemaker to discuss the "messenger mindset." They explore why you shouldn't wait until you’re "healed up" to chase your dreams and how the simple act of saying "yes" to new opportunities can lead you out of your darkest places. Kinley shares her philosophy of "triumph over trauma," explaining how she found her own healing through 500+ hours of community service and why empathy is the missing factor in today’s social media-driven world.

They also dive into the realities of modern pageantry, the impact of social media on self-image, and why the best way to heal your own heart is to walk out your front door and serve someone else. Whether you are a young person facing a setback or a parent helping a child navigate a difficult season, this conversation is a roadmap for turning a victim mentality into a victorious one.

@kinleyshoemaker & @missamerica.in

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@kinley.shoemaker & @missamericain

Our mission at The Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

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What is your unforgiveness costing you? In this episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth and Cherry Kulp of Unearthed Coaching unfold the heavy price of holding onto the past. Forgiveness isn't just a spiritual concept—it is a physical and psychological necessity that can determine the state of your health and the quality of your future.

In this powerful conversation, we break down the "Delorean Effect" and how retelling old stories of hurt keeps your body trapped in a toxic cycle of stress and pressure. Cherry shares her personal journey of how unresolved resentment physically manifested in her body and why the hardest work involves showing compassion to the one person we often judge most: ourselves. We discuss the vital difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, the trap of ego, and how "unplugging" from the pain allows you to reclaim your power and walk in true dominion.

About Our Guest: Cherry Kulp is the founder of Unearth Coaching, dedicated to helping individuals dig deep to find emotional intelligence and lasting freedom.

• Instagram: @UnearthedCC
• Location: 2043 S. Bend Avenue #203, South Bend, Indiana 46637
• Phone #: 574-213-2143
• Email: info@unearthedcc.com
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherrikulp/

Our mission at The Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

Subscribe for weekly conversations on mindset, personal leadership, and the power of rising above your circumstances. Connect with us on Instagram, TikTok, and all platforms @TheFiveStarLife

What separates the average from the elite? It isn't just talent—it’s the obsession with the details that everyone else ignores.

In this episode of Five Star Life, Coach Seth sits down with Bobbo Torres to pull back the curtain on what it takes to build elite-level greatness. From the high school gym to training the pros, Bobbo and Seth explore why most people miss the "gold" in others and how a single 15-second window of genuine belief can change a student's entire trajectory.

They dive into the "Pro Blueprint," discussing why elite athletes like Demetrius Jackson and LeBron James prioritize the tedious details of recovery and rehab over the glamorous workouts. Whether you are coaching a high schooler or training a professional, the secret remains the same: it’s about observation, deep focus, and having a belief system that demands more.

About Our Guest: Bobbo Torres is a performance coach dedicated to developing the next generation of elite athletes through discipline and specialized training.

• Instagram: @BOBBO574
• T2 Sports Performance: @T2SPORTSPERFORMANCE (IG & FB)
• Location: 3300 W Sample St #500, South Bend, IN

Our mission at The Five Star Life is simple:

TO CHANGE THE FACE OF CULTURE BY CHANGING THE MINDSET OF KIDS.

Subscribe for weekly conversations on mindset, personal leadership, and the power of rising above your circumstances. Connect with us on Instagram, TikTok, and all platforms @TheFiveStarLife