In this episode we are joined by Layla who is Single, Never Married. Layla is a paediatric doctor, who shares her journey from nursing to medicine, influenced by her brother's serious injury and the care he received. She discusses the challenges of balancing her demanding career with societal expectations regarding marriage, emphasising the importance of finding a partner who supports her professional aspirations. Layla also reflects on her marriage search experiences. At the end, Laya completes a talking marriage profile, given that she is searching for a spouse.

00:00 Introduction

01:21 Why did Layla become a doctor?

02:25 Journey to becoming a doctor

03:41 Being a doctor and not being married: Is there a connection?

05:00 Has being a doctor stopped you from getting married?

07:14 Experiences in the Marriage Search

18:52 How important is financial stability in a man?

23:43 Mahr Requirement

25:57 Would Layla consider a Divorcee?

26:07 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

28:28 Apps

34:17 Delaying Disclosure of the fact that one is divorced

35:24 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

36:05 Green Flags v Red Flags

37:21 Solutions to the difficulty of finding a spouse?

39:26 Game: Red Light / Green Light

40:19 Rapid Fire Round

42:54 Marriage Profile

45:44 Farewell

In this compelling episode, we are joined by Zara, a social media influencer. Zara has an Instagram and TikTok page with the handle: @zarascookierjar. Both these social media pages aim to raise awareness in relation to Domestic Abuse.

In this episode Zara shares her personal experience with a manipulative marriage, the journey through abuse from a narcissist, and her path to recovery. Her story highlights the importance of faith, community, and self-awareness in overcoming life's challenges. Zara also provides her views on general subjects relating to the marriage search.

00:00 Introduction

01:26 Zara's Divorce Story

16:11 How did Zara Bounce back from Divorce?

19:19 Zara's Marriage Search as a Divorcee

26:43 Impact of Divorce on Zara's Marriage Search

27:51 Why are British Muslims finding the marriage search difficult?

30:51 Standards v Unrealistic Expectations

33:06 Marriage Apps

34:25 Do British Muslims actually want marriage?

37:30 Is the Marriage Crisis Self-Inflcited?

40:08 Family Involvement: Advice v Control

41:33 Delaying telling a potential that one is Divorced

43:27 Fear Based Marriages

45:35 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

46:59 Green Flags v Red Flags

47:36 Solutions to the difficulty of finding a Spouse

49:06 Game: Red Light / Green Light

50:36 Rapid Fire Round

52:57 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode we are joined by Brother Mizan, a Marriage Coach. Mizan has his own TikTok page – @advice.with.mizan and Instagram page – @advicewithmizan. You can also contact Mizan directly via email: info@themarriageclinic.co.uk

Mizan discusses the complexities of marriage counselling, the causes of divorce, and the challenges faced by individuals in the marriage search. He emphasises the importance of communication, compatibility, and the need for healing from past traumas. Mizan also addresses the role of faith in counselling, the impact of societal views on divorce, and offers practical advice for those preparing for marriage. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding oneself and setting realistic expectations in the search for a spouse.

00:00 Introduction

01:58 Marriage Counselling

04:12 When do people need marriage coaching?

05:02 What are the main causes of divorce today?

06:49 Why are British Muslims finding it difficult to get married?

09:23 Key Elements of a Healthy Marriage

11:18 Conflict Resolution in a marriage

13:10 Incorporating faith into Counselling without judgment

17:10 Red Flags in a Marriage

18:23 Overcoming Trauma from a Divorce/previous marriage

21:31 Unhealed Trauma from unlawful relationships

23:22 Can Abusers Change?

28:04 How to prepare for marriage

29:13 Standards vs. Unrealistic Expectations

32:07 The Role of Apps in the Marriage Search

33:41 Family Involvement: Advice or Control?

35:43 Delaying telling a potential that they are divorced

37:46 Fear-Based Marriages

39:44 Society Perception: Divorced Man v Divorced Woman

40:41 Is Marriage seen as Growth or Social Validation?

42:16 Green Flags vs. Red Flags

42:26 Are British Muslims Emotionally unavailable but Spiritually articulate?

44:30 Solutions to Finding a Spouse

45:35 Game: Red Light / Green Light

47:15 Rapid Fire Round

48:48 How to contact Mizan

49:18 Farewell