Do we learn more from our successes or our failures? Almost every man in the room said failures. So why are so many Christian men still afraid to fail?
In this episode of Deeper in the Red, James and Gene welcome back Pastor Sal Sberna, who brought this month's message on how to fail forward. Sal points out that nearly every major figure in Scripture had a major failure - without David's fall there is no Psalm 51 - and that failure is not proof God stopped loving you. It is pruning: a pruned vineyard looks like a field of stumps months before it hangs heavy with grapes.
Gene admits he never raises his hand asking God for the valley, and Sal agrees: embrace the suck, but don't pray for it. James turns to James 1 - consider it pure joy - because joy is not the same as happiness: every trial chisels away something in us that does not look like Christ. Sal adds that the right prayer is not "why poor pitiful me" but "Lord, what do you want out of this?"
Then Sal gets personal: as a young pastor he wanted a megachurch, got it, and found he did not want it. His conclusion is the heart of the episode: the key to any success is obedience. Jesus never said if you love me, build a great church. He said if you love me, obey my commandments. And Sal points to Peter, who went where Jesus said he could not follow and years later wrote, clothe yourselves with humility.
From there, James asks the question every leader wrestles with: where does holy patience end and delayed disobedience begin? Sal answers with a sweet tea story and Mark 1, where Jesus prays early in the morning and, when the disciples hunt Him down, moves on to the next town. Later, Sal asks what changes when you talk openly about Christ at work. For James, the answer came the day his daughter looked up at him in church and said, "Daddy, that's what you do."
In this episode:
00:00 - Welcome back: Pastor Sal Sberna joins us
00:57 - Why we call it Operating in the Red
02:38 - Do we learn more from success or failure?
03:19 - Why Christians are afraid to fail
04:38 - Pruning: stumps before the grapes
06:01 - How do you fail forward?
06:37 - Embrace the suck, but don't pray for the valley
07:57 - James 1: consider it pure joy
09:33 - Sal on James 1: testing produces endurance
11:59 - Failures are the setups for our successes
14:26 - Sal: I wanted to build a megachurch
15:26 - The key to any success is obedience
16:51 - When God gives you exactly what you asked for
18:57 - Peter: where I am going, you cannot follow
20:37 - Clothe yourselves with humility
21:24 - James 4: what if today is your last tomorrow?
23:45 - Holy patience or delayed disobedience?
26:04 - The sweet tea story: learning God's nudge
27:26 - Mark 1: Jesus prays, then leaves the crowd
30:55 - Sal rates his own prayer life a 4 out of 10
32:43 - The unforced rhythms of grace
34:39 - Early mornings: awake at 2 a.m.? Pray
37:19 - Discipline is a group exercise
41:07 - What changes when you talk about Christ at work?
46:12 - Gene: dual accountability, iron sharpens iron
51:39 - "Daddy, that's what you do"
55:08 - Mat carriers and an answered prayer
58:16 - From megachurch pastor to front-line shepherding
1:00:07 - The Human Spirit Project
1:02:19 - Closing prayer: the throne of grace
Scripture in this episode: Psalm 51, Psalm 32:1-2, James 1:2-5, 1 Corinthians 10:12, John 14:15, Matthew 11:28-30, John 13:36-38, Matthew 26:51-52, 69-75, 1 Peter 5:5-6, James 4:13-15, Mark 1:29-38, Ephesians 5:18, Genesis 2:18, Hebrews 10:24-25, Proverbs 27:17, Hebrews 4:16
Deeper in the Red is the podcast side of Operating in the Red, a men's Bible study held the first Wednesday of every month.