Episode: Welcome to Therapy with Dr. Z – Navigating Midlife Relationships, Marriage, and Sex

This week on Crazy Stupid Midlife, we sit down with Dr. Kristin Zeising, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, to talk about the complexities of navigating relationships in midlife—friendships, marriage, and intimacy.

We open the conversation by exploring the ways women can rekindle desire, from indulging in luxury lingerie (like Honey Birdette and Deja Vu Boutique in Vista) to immersing themselves in sensual storytelling through Dipsea’s romance novels. We even share some go-to sexy movies and books that have sparked desire for women in this season of life: Baby Girl, Sex Life, 365 Days, and of course, Fifty Shades of Grey—the book that ignited a wave of women wanting more pleasure and a different kind of intimacy in their midlife journeys.

One of the most powerful moments of this conversation comes when Dr. Z shares the phrase she hears most often in therapy: “I feel broken.” Hearing this was emotional for us because we want every woman listening to know—you are not broken. You are navigating a season that is complex, and you are not alone.

That’s why we highlight the incredible book You Are Not Broken by Kelly Caspersen, MD—a must-read for anyone who has ever felt this way. It’s enlightening, empowering, and truly shifts the conversation around women’s sexual health and midlife identity. Midlife is not the end of desire or connection—it’s a chance to redefine it.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

• Honey Birdette Lingerie
• Deja Vu Boutique
• Dipsea Stories
• Baby Girl (film)
• Sex Life (Netflix series)
• 365 Days (film)
• Fifty Shades of Grey series by E.L. James
• You Are Not Broken by Dr. Kelly Caspersen
• W for Her Personal Lubricant
• Connect with Dr. Kristin Zeising
  • Website: drzeising.com
  • Instagram: @drkristinzeising
  • Private Practice: Individual & Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy

Tune in to hear why you are not broken, how to reconnect with your desires, and how friendships, marriage, and sex can evolve beautifully in midlife.

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We’re back! After taking a little break, we couldn’t wait to sit down and catch up with you. This season was packed with trips to Paris, Greece, London, Dublin, Copenhagen and Budapest. From milestone birthdays to solo adventures, we had so many moments that were fun, hilarious, and even a little eye-opening.

Traveling wasn’t just about the places we went -- it gave us space to reflect on family, friendship, and what it feels like to unplug from daily responsibilities. There were boat rides in the Greek isles, delicious meals we’ll never forget, and even a chance encounter with a rock band musician (yes, really).

Join us for the laughs, the lessons, and maybe even a little travel inspo for your own next adventure.

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We’re not done yet.

In Part 2 of this important conversation, Dr. Sara McKinney dives deeper into the realities of hormone imbalance, perimenopause, and the emotional and physical toll it takes on women — especially when doctors dismiss your concerns.

Below you’ll find a link to Dr. McKinney's profile at UCSD Health and links to some of the memoirs and recommendations she mentioned during our conversation so you can explore further or follow up on anything that resonated with you.

Sara McKinney, MD - Obstetrics & Gynecology | UC San Diego Health

Brook Shield Is Not Allowed to Get Old by Brooke Shields
Paris, The Memoir by Paris Hilton
Tell Me Everything: A Memoir by Minka Kelly
Finding Me: A Memoir of Radical Honesty and Self-Discovery by Viola Davis

Gyn & Tonic Podcast on Apple Podcasts
Gyn & Tonic Podcast on Spotify

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