I thought having more time to work would make me feel less behind. Instead, I found myself feeling guilty when I worked and overwhelmed when I didn't. And when my son told me, “I never get to see you anymore,” it hit me hard. I'd made changes to my schedule so I could spend more time with him, yet somehow I still felt like I wasn't doing enough.

At a dinner with a group of women leaders, I asked everyone what was scaring them in their personal lives, careers, or businesses. I expected different answers, but one theme kept coming up: mom guilt. And as we talked, I realized how often we treat choosing our careers as if it means choosing our kids less.

The fear underneath that guilt can run much deeper than the decision in front of us. For me, it was the fear that if I didn't spend enough time with my son, he wouldn't remember me as the loving, present mom I wanted to be.

The way forward wasn't to tell myself I was a great mom and hope the guilt disappeared. It was to question the belief creating it in the first place.

I'll walk you through how to identify the thought making your day feel heavier, uncover the fear underneath it, and create what I call a bridge belief: a new perspective that feels believable enough to change how you approach your work and your time with your kids.

Because choosing to work doesn't automatically mean you're choosing your career over your kids. And making room for your own goals doesn't have to mean taking something away from them.

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Procrastination can feel like a superpower when you know you can pull it all together at the last minute. But what if the pressure you rely on to get things done is also part of the pattern?

I’ve definitely done this. I’ll put something off, tell myself I work better under pressure, and then somehow get it done when there’s no more room to avoid it. Vicki Smith and I got into what might actually be happening underneath that pattern.

Vicki is a therapist and coach who works with female solopreneurs around people pleasing, perfectionism, self doubt, emotional overwhelm, and the ways our nervous system can show up in business.

One of the things that really stuck with me was her explanation of procrastination as a form of flight. Sometimes we’re not simply being lazy or lacking discipline. We’re trying to get away from something that feels uncomfortable, whether that’s pressure, fear of getting it wrong, or the expectation we’ve put on ourselves.

We also talked about why some of us genuinely do work better when there’s a clear deadline. When the start and stop time is already decided, there’s less room to keep negotiating with ourselves about what we should be doing. The question becomes whether that way of working actually works for you without leaving you completely burned out afterward.

Vicki also introduced me to the idea of our different internal “parts” having their own opinions about what we’re doing. The perfectionist, the people pleaser, the procrastinator. They can all have something to say before we ever get started.

And maybe the goal isn’t to force those parts to disappear. Maybe it’s learning how to notice what’s happening, understand what we need, and give ourselves permission to work in a way that actually fits us.

That shift from “I should be doing this differently” to “What actually works for me?” felt especially important.

• Connect with Vicki Smith on: LinkedIn
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You know what you want. You know you’re exhausted. You know you need to stop doing everything yourself, set better boundaries, speak up, or finally change the way you’re working.

So why is it still so hard to actually do it?

Kelsea Koenrich and I talk about the beliefs underneath the patterns that keep us doing more, staying available, overworking, and trying to hold everything together. Because sometimes the very things that helped you become successful are the same things that are now keeping you stuck.

Kelsea shares how hyper independence, perfectionism, scarcity, and the belief that you have to be the one who handles everything can shape the way you show up in your business and your life. We also talk about why change can feel uncomfortable even when you know it’s the right thing to do, and why “just have more discipline” doesn’t really address what’s happening underneath.

We get into what it actually looks like to change the pattern. Creating a plan. Expecting it to feel uncomfortable. Having someone hold you accountable. Communicating what you need instead of assuming everyone else will be upset. And recognizing that your availability is a choice.

There’s also a bigger piece here around taking responsibility for the life you’re creating. Kelsea talks about the moment she realized she was the common denominator in her own patterns, and how that realization became the starting point for doing things differently.

Because knowing what you want is one thing. Letting yourself actually have it is another.

• Connect with Kelsea Koenrich on: Instagram
• City Girls dinner series: https://www.kelseakoenreich.com/city-girls

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2. The Leaders Table: https://www.samanthapenkoff.com/leaders-table
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4. Exhale Private Coaching: For women ready to do this work until it sticks and you can't revert back. 3 open spots: Work with me

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