Is This Intuition or Anxiety?

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After betrayal, it can feel impossible to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety

A late text

A shift in energy

A feeling in your chest you can’t explain

In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, we slow everything down and come back to the body — because clarity doesn’t come from spiraling. It comes from safety

We talk about the difference between anxiety and intuition:

Anxiety feels loud, urgent, and demanding

Intuition feels calm, quiet, and steady

If it needs an answer right now, it’s usually anxiety

If it allows space to pause, it’s usually intuition

This episode is about learning how to ground yourself first, so you can hear the difference

🌿 Grounding Breath (Do This With Me)

When anxiety starts to take over:

• Inhale through your nose for 4

• Hold for 2

• Exhale slowly through your mouth for 6

Repeat 5 times

Deep breathing signals safety to your nervous system. When the body feels calm, intuition becomes clearer

This type of deep breathing tells your nervous system that you are safe right now

When the body calms, the mind becomes clearer

You don’t need answers in this moment — you need regulation

✨ Affirmations From This Episode

Repeat these slowly, or come back to them when you feel yourself spiraling:

• I am safe in this moment

• I am allowed to pause before reacting

• My feelings are information, not commands

• Anxiety does not get to lead my decisions

• I trust myself to respond from a calm place

• Clarity comes when I slow down

Take what resonates. Leave the rest

💭 A Gentle Reminder

You don’t need to figure everything out today

You don’t need immediate answers

You can slow down and still trust yourself

If something needs to be figured out, it can wait until you are calm

You are not ignoring your intuition by grounding yourself

you are creating the space to actually hear it

Why Do People Cheat? — Betrayal Trauma, Psychology & the Brain

In this episode of Becoming Her, Unfiltered, I share my personal experience with infidelity and betrayal, and break down why cheating happens through psychology and neuroscience. We explore how betrayal affects the brain, why self-blame shows up.

This episode is not about excusing cheating.

It’s about understanding betrayal so you can stop internalizing it and begin healing

If you’ve ever asked “Why wasn’t I enough?” or “How did I not know?” — this episode is for you.

🌿 Affirmations for Healing After Cheating

• ​Their cheating is not a reflection of my worth.
• ​I am not responsible for someone else’s lack of integrity.
• ​My intuition was not wrong — it was clouded by manipulation.
• ​My nervous system is healing, not failing.
• ​I release the need to replay what I cannot change.
• ​I choose emotional safety and self-respect.
• ​This experience will not define me — my healing will.

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Episode #4 — Why I Wasn’t Enough?

Anxious Attachment & Rewriting the Brain

In this episode, I explore one of the most painful questions many of us ask in love:

“Why wasn’t I enough?”

This episode unfolds in three parts:

My Story

I share what it felt like inside a relationship where safety slowly disappeared — noticing the shift, trying harder and over giving.

Psychology & Neuroscience

We gently unpack what was happening inside the brain and nervous system during anxious attachment, including:

• The amygdala — the brain’s threat detector that reads emotional distance as danger

• Dopamine — the chemical of reward and relief that strengthens attachment to inconsistent love

• Cortisol — the stress hormone that drives panic, waiting, and overthinking

• And why the nervous system often chooses connection over self-protection

Healing & Affirmations

We close with grounding tools, a short self-reflection exercise, and affirmations to begin rewriting the belief that you are “not enough.”

🧠 Affirmations from today’s episode:

I am not hard to love

I do not need to earn safety

I can feel anxious without acting from it

Someone else’s inconsistency is not proof of my inadequacy

I choose calm over chaos

Core reminder of this episode:

You were never not enough.

You were just asking the wrong person to meet you where you already stood.

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