A year as an honorary member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority has reminded me of a lesson worth sharing: people we have never met are being shaped by what we do and how we do it. In this solo episode, we talk about why mentoring reaches further than we realize, the mantra that guides how I live and lead (never compromise who you are personally to become who you wish to be professionally), and why the opportunity to find a mentor, and to be one, has never been wider. At the end of the day, the whole world is watching.

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A handshake still settles what a contract never can. This solo episode walks through the space between what's legally binding and what's actually trustworthy, why being heard is not the same as being trusted, and why confidentiality belongs in every relationship, not only the written ones. Have people trust you by being trustworthy.

Dr. Marisa G. Franco is a psychologist, professor, and New York Times bestselling author of Platonic. Her new book, Worth, makes a claim that cuts against most confidence advice: telling yourself "I am loved" can leave you feeling worse, not better. Her research traces this to self-verification theory, the idea that we look for proof of what we already believe about ourselves, so praise that doesn't match our own sense of self reads as a threat rather than a gift. In this conversation, she and JBH work through what that means for parenting, friendship, and the pressure to project confidence you don't actually feel, and what it looks like to build worth from the inside instead.