You'd swear you sent that email. You can picture yourself writing it. And then you find it, unsent, still marked unread.

This week, Pete and Nikki borrow the literary idea of the unreliable narrator to explore why ADHD makes us shaky witnesses to our own lives. They look at how working memory, time blindness, and mood bend the story we tell ourselves, and at research showing how far self-assessment can drift from the record. Then they turn to practical ways to get a clearer picture: asking the people around you what they see (RSD and all), capturing moments while they're fresh, and letting the data you already generate tell you what you actually accomplished. Along the way, Nikki shares how coaching helps clients notice their own patterns, and why a log should help you see instead of grading you.

Links & Notes

• Accuracy of Self-Evaluation in Adults with ADHD: Evidence from a Driving Study, the 2005 Knouse, Bagwell, Barkley, and Murphy study Pete discusses
• The Fragile Dance of Memory and ADHD with Dr. Daniella Karidi, one of the three episodes referenced
• ADHDtime, Daniella Karidi's coaching practice
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• (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast
• (01:43) - Patreon!
• (03:14) - The Unreliable Narrator
• (11:21) - Moods
• (21:33) - "Just Notice"
• (27:11) - Feedback and RSD
• (36:23) - Feedback and Grading