Have too much self-control? Society says self-control is a virtue. Yet, successfully managing emotions, getting the job done, and getting accolades for being detail-oriented, planful, driven, etc., haven't led to relationship and bedroom success!

Others told you that being naughty leads to trouble and that you should live by the rules to be successful. So, you developed your self-control. Society rewards the virtues of self-control. Yet. too much self-control wreaks havoc in areas where vulnerability is essential: intimate relationships and sex life.

Can you have too much self-control? You bet!

The overcontrolled temperament!

Too much self-control, also known as the overcontrolled temperament, is characterized by the following:

• Not being open to new, strange, and unexpected experiences; tendency to avoid uncertainty; being risk-averse; threat sensitivity and hypervigilance.
• Compulsive need for structure and order; perfectionism; rigid rule-governed behavior; high moral certitude; the strong belief in what "should be, must be, has to be".
• Flat or neutral face; not easily excited; avoiding vulnerability; saying "fine" when things aren't fine; pride in having a "stable mood".
• Feeling alone and that nobody quite gets you; comparing yourself to others; feeling envious/bitter.

Discover how these core traits ruin your sex life and find powerful solutions!

Commons sexual problems of overcontrolled people: Are you experiencing low sexual desire, emotional distance from your partner, sexual performance anxiety, sexual perfectionism, anorgasmia, sexual dysfunction, or sexual pain disorders?

Then you owe it to yourself to listen to Making Nice with Naughty: An Intimacy Guide for the Rule-Following, Organized, Perfectionist, Practical, and Color-Within-the-Line Types.

You're not alone. Like you, millions struggle with relaxing and being playful during sex. For them, naughty has gotten a bad rap and represents so much of what you’ve come to avoid: mystery, unpredictability, the unfamiliar, and uncertainty. Yet, these features are essential to a meaningful and fulfilling sex life.

Get sage advice from a leading sexologist. It’s time to make nice with naughty! Utilizing several innovative psychotherapies, including radically open dialectical behavior therapy, rational emotive behavior therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy, Dr. Thomas L. Murray, Jr. takes you on an eye-opening journey, using humor and directness to help you get what you want: a more fulfilling sex life.

Here’s why you’ll love this guide:

• Discover how (too much) self-control underlies many sexual and relationship problems.
• Reconnect with your partner using vulnerability's power.
• Break free from old patterns of thinking.
• Change your relationship with anxiety and embrace uncertainty.
• Reduce negative self-talk.
• Enjoy greater psychological flexibility.
• Apply new and powerful mindfulness techniques.