Ergebnis für "Lana" in Kommunikation & soziale Kompetenz

I see a lot of self-help videos and books telling people to "stand straight" or "look people in the eye" in order to look more confident. But you don't want to look more confident, do you? You actually want to be more confident, to feel it deep inside you. This is exactly how I felt when I was starting to research self-confidence. I thought to myself: "Ok, I'll look people in the eye when I talk but, what do I say?" Sure, I'll speak up more in meetings, but how? When the voice inside my head is going crazy about how I might sound weird or the question I'm asking might sound dumb.

One of the nicest ladies I ever met was a school teacher. I think we chatted for about 30 minutes and then I never saw her again. Thirty minutes. I seriously thought that I could trust this lady with all my deepest darkest secrets. After years of observation, I realized that all master small-talkers have a few things in common but the biggest things are the two keys that were shown to me so elegantly by that school teacher. Once I had mastered those, no small talk conversation was a nightmare anymore. In fact, I started to enjoy them.