Listen in as Jay shares a deeply personal update about a recent health diagnosis and how it is requiring she shift everything in her life. If you are an overfunctioning woman exhausted by people-pleasing, hear why confusing a capacity problem with a discipline problem is costing you everything, and how to finally begin listening to your body.

Jay Moon Fields is a Somatic coaching expert and the host of Hey, Wait, bringing deep insight into authentic living, embodiment, and aligning your insides with your outsides.

In this episode, you'll hear:
• How a surprising genetic diagnosis of dysautonomia and hEDS shifted everything and why body awareness is no longer optional.
• Healing from people pleasing and why extreme physical feedback finally stopped the fawning response.
• The crucial difference between a capacity problem and a discipline problem.
• Using the "wave and ocean" metaphor to reconnect to your vaster self.
• How awe can help you quiet your mind and regulate your nervous system.

Resources Jay mentions in the show:
Dr. Zac Spiritos: https://www.instagram.com/drzacspiritos/

Bendy Bodies Podcast: https://www.bendybodiespodcast.com/

Disjointed Book: https://bookscouter.com/book/9781734794908-disjointed-navigating-the-diagnosis-and-management-of-hyperm

For full resources, links, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com

Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant

Have you ever felt like you go missing in your own life to keep others comfortable? Fawning is an unconscious survival mechanism rooted in the nervous system that prioritizes someone else's happiness and demands over your own experience and boundaries. This episode features two fawners in recovery exploring how to break that trance, stop performing helpfulness, and start trusting your own internal compass.

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a therapist with a PhD in private practice and the author of the deeply personal book Fawning. She works with survivors of complex childhood trauma and brings deep insight into relational trauma, healing, and the messy, slow work of learning to unfawn.

In this episode, Jay and Dr. Ingrid discuss:
► The crucial difference between genuine kindness or empathy and a fawning response driven by self-abandonment.
► Why chronic fawners often see other people's relational red flags as on-ramps to their own helpfulness.
► How clients, therapists, and coaches often unknowingly fawn with each other during professional sessions.
► How to tell the difference between staying in an asymmetrical relationship to do genuine healing work versus repeating a cycle of re-traumatization.
► The complexities of the "Let Them" theory and how it can sometimes embolden a trauma response instead of setting healthy boundaries.

Learn more about Dr. Ingrid Clayton
► Substack: https://ingridclaytonphd.substack.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
►DIY Online Course to Support Unfawning: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly
► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Book: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

Credits
This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure.

Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom.

She has worked with clients navigating midlife, chronic pain, and trauma and brings deep insight into sexual medicine, pelvic health, and nervous system regulation.

In this episode, Jay and Lisa discuss:

► The shift from constant upward, productive energy to honoring the downward-flowing energy (apana vayu) of the body.

► Why arousal requires a baseline parasympathetic (relaxed) state and how to find the sweet spot of flow between relaxation and stimulation.

► The misconception that pain during sex or pelvic exams is normal, and how pelvic floor physical therapy can help.

► The truth about women's arousal, including the fact that only about 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone.

► Simple, fluid movements and grounding practices—like softening the jaw to access the pelvis—that help you stay present and connected to yourself.

Learn more about Lisa West

► Website: https://lisawestwellness.com

► Instagram: @LisaYogini

► Other links: Follow the Feeling on Amazon and courses on Teachable

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.

For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant