“I just expected that because I knew what was wrong with my childhood, that I would be able to solve what was wrong with their childhoods. But I couldn’t. Everything I was trying to give my kids was aspirational…I didn’t understand it…this would have worked for me, why isn’t it working for you?”

“It became so much less about needing to remember everything that my mother had done to hurt me, and it became so much more about developing the medicine that would heal the relationship with my mother so that I could pass the recipe on…I can save him this work…by doing an imperfect job.”

Key topics include parenting at a young age, estrangement, multigenerational trauma, and learning how to parent without healthy examples.

CONTENT WARNINGS:

- Blood or bodily injury

- Child abuse or neglect

- Emotional abuse

- Explicit language

- Intimate partner violence

- Mental illness

- Religious trauma

CREDITS:

Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske

All music composed and performed by: Hexteria

Main theme: “The Star” by Hexteria

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