Does your teenager constantly tell you "it's not fair"? Do you find yourself offering bigger and bigger rewards just to get them to take out the garbage?

In this episode, Dr. Mark Schillinger breaks down why bribes and rewards actually backfire with teens, and shares the mentoring approach that builds real responsibility and self-respect. You'll learn how to stop negotiating with your "house lawyer" and start raising a young person who takes ownership of their life.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

Why "it's not fair" is actually a learning opportunity, not a problem to solve

The difference between extrinsic rewards (bribes) and intrinsic motivation

How to use the "Both/And" principle when your teen does something right AND wrong

Why most of life is unfair or neutral, and how to prepare your teen for this reality

The 5 C's of calm, confident communication that won't get derailed

Resources Mentioned

Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn

Young Men's Ultimate Weekend https://ymuw.org

More Resources

On-demand and live, online workshops for teenagers and young men are available here: https://cts.drmarkmentor.com/workshops

Free Parents' Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/markstipsforparents

For a complimentary 20-minute consultation with Dr. Mark or for more information about his parent coaching and mentoring young men, go to https://cts.drmarkmentor.com

About Dr. Mark Schillinger

Dr. Mark Schillinger's work has been featured on the CNN show "This is Life with Lisa Ling." These videos are designed to help parents more effectively "challenge" or motivate their teenage sons to become more responsible and resilient. These videos offer straightforward advice so parents can minimize conflict and maximize cooperation with their sons – especially those young men who are distracted by their digital devices. For more information, visit https://www.challengingteenagesons.com

Connect with Dr. Mark

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/challenging.teenage.sons
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/challengingteenagesons/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-mark-schillinger-family-mentor-and-community-leader-735585a/