I want to talk about something that comes up every January, and honestly, something I’ve stopped buying into over the years. New Year’s resolutions.

Not because growth doesn’t matter. It does. But because tying real change to a calendar date quietly gives us permission to wait. And waiting is usually where momentum dies.

In this episode of The Mindful Agent, I share why I don’t set goals the way most people do, and what’s actually helped me create lasting change in my health, my business, and my mindset. This isn’t about motivation. It’s about identity, decision, and standards you live by every day.

• Why waiting until you feel ready keeps you stuck
• The difference between goals and standards, and why standards last
• How fear disguises itself as procrastination
• Why clarity comes from decision, not overplanning
• How to move forward even when discomfort is guaranteed

The shift for me happened when I stopped asking, “What do I want to achieve?” and started asking, “Who do I refuse not to be anymore?” That one question changes everything.

This conversation applies whether you are building a real estate career, growing a business, or simply trying to become healthier and more aligned in your life. The moment you decide is the moment things actually begin to move.

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Links Mentioned:

Be Here Now by Ram Dass

A foundational book on mindfulness, presence, and awareness that explores how stepping out of ego and into observation creates clarity and freedom.

https://www.amazon.com/Be-Here-Now-Ram-Dass/dp/0517543052

Timestamps:

0:01 – Why I Don’t Believe in New Year’s Resolutions

0:40 – How Real Change Actually Happens

1:31 – You’ll Never Feel Ready (And That’s Okay)

2:16 – Fear Isn’t the Problem, Avoiding It Is

2:27 – Letting Love Lead Instead of Fear

2:54 – Why Fixating on Goals Makes Life Brittle

3:35 – Living in Neutrality and Self-Awareness

4:03 – Don’t Set Goals, Set Standards

4:30 – Identity Over Motivation

4:40 – The Moment You Decide, Everything Changes

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