You’re exercising. Eating “clean.” Sleeping more. Taking the supplements.

So why are you more tired than ever?

In this episode of Say Yes to Chocolate, Dr. Becky and Sara B unpack one of the most frustrating (and emotionally loaded) experiences women face in midlife: doing all the “right things” and still feeling exhausted, depleted, and off.

Here’s the truth most people never explain:

1. It’s not a willpower problem.
2. It’s not a discipline problem.
3. And there’s nothing “wrong” with you.

What’s actually happening is that your body has changed — and your wellness strategy hasn’t.

You’ll learn why effort does not equal effectiveness anymore, how even “good habits” can become stressors when your body is under-recovered, and why the issue isn’t what you’re doing — it’s the order you’re doing it in.

This episode introduces a powerful reframe that gives women permission to stop fighting their bodies and start supporting them — without quitting everything or starting over.

If you’ve been feeling frustrated, guilty, or quietly wondering, “Why isn’t this working for me?” — this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.

1. Why trying harder often makes fatigue worse, not better
2. How “healthy habits” can act like stress when recovery is missing
3. The difference between supporting your body vs. fixing it
4. Why energy is a signal, not a symptom
5. How to identify which system needs support before adding more
6. Why sequence matters more than discipline
7. The 4 essential “switches” women need to Age Strong — and why they don’t all turn on at once

1. Women who feel tired, flat, or depleted despite “doing everything right”
2. Anyone frustrated by workouts, diets, or routines that used to work — but don’t anymore
3. Women navigating midlife changes who want clarity instead of more rules
4. Anyone ready to stop blaming themselves and start working with their body

In the next episode, Dr. Becky and Sara B dive into another common frustration:

Why you can feel “off” even when your labs and test results look completely normal.

If you’ve ever been told “Everything looks fine” — but you know it doesn’t feel fine — make sure and subscribe so you won’t miss it.