Letting go of someone who hurt you can feel confusing, painful, and even frightening—especially when the attachment feels deep, spiritual, or impossible to break. Sometimes, leaving feels harder than staying, even when you know the relationship is unhealthy.

In this episode of What’s Ailing Ya?, board-certified Christian counselor Elva Chase explores trauma bonding—why the nervous system clings to familiar pain, how emotional survival can be mistaken for love, and why separation can feel like danger instead of relief. With a trauma-informed, biblical perspective, this conversation gently untangles faith from fear and replaces shame with understanding.

You’ll learn how trauma bonds form, why cycles of pain and relief keep you stuck, and how faith is sometimes misused to justify emotional harm or self-abandonment. This episode offers compassionate clarity for anyone who has thought, “I know this isn’t good for me, but I can’t seem to let go.”

Healing doesn’t require rushing, self-blame, or spiritual pressure. It begins with awareness, safety, and truth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What a trauma bond is—and why it’s not the same as love
• Why letting go can feel harder than staying
• How the pain → relief cycle trains the nervous system
• The difference between love, attachment, and survival
• How faith can become entangled with emotional harm or control
• The role of narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, and spiritual pressure
• How childhood patterns can shape attachment without parent-blaming
• Gentle, safe steps toward breaking trauma bonds
• Why grief and discomfort often come before peace
• Biblical clarity: God’s voice never requires self-abandonment

Breaking a trauma bond is one of the hardest steps in healing—because your body can confuse relief after pain with love. If you’re stuck in an emotionally harmful relationship, wrestling with guilt, fear, or spiritual confusion, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a gentle path forward.

Awareness is not failure.
It’s the beginning of freedom.

Elva Chase, BCCC | www.ElvaChase.com | Podcast: What's Ailing Ya?

Confused about whether to stay or leave a relationship?
In this episode of What’s Ailing Ya?, Christian counselor Elva Chase breaks down the critical difference between trauma bonding and spiritual discernment. Learn how to recognize emotional attachment rooted in harm versus God-led wisdom rooted in peace. This trauma-informed, faith-based episode helps believers identify unhealthy soul ties, release confusion, and make relationship decisions aligned with biblical wisdom, emotional safety, and spiritual clarity.

Many Christians struggle to discern whether emotional attachment is love, trauma bonding, or God’s leading. This episode offers biblical clarity, psychological insight, and peace-centered wisdom for relationship decisions.

Elva Chase, BCCC | www.ElvaChase.com | Podcast: What's Ailing Ya?

Does forgiveness mean reconciliation?
In this episode of What's Ailing Ya?, Christian counselor Elva Chase explores the biblical difference between forgiveness and reconciliation and explains why forgiveness does not require restored access. Learn how Scripture supports godly boundaries, emotional safety, and wisdom without compromising faith. This trauma-informed, faith-based teaching helps believers forgive without returning to unhealthy relationships, release guilt, and walk in peace while honoring God.

Elva Chase, BCCC | www.ElvaChase.com | Podcast: What's Ailing Ya?