Episode Summary:
In this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Mike and Melissa dive into a thoughtful and timely exploration of how we engage with history—and what it really means to “learn” from it. What begins as a light, post-Thanksgiving conversation quickly evolves into a deeper discussion about the way history is often reduced to simplified narratives of “good guys” and “bad guys.”
Rather than focusing solely on historical outcomes, Mike and Melissa challenge listeners to examine the conditions, incentives, and contexts that lead people and societies to make the choices they do. Using examples such as the Civil War, World War II, and global conflicts, they unpack how history is curated, flattened, and sometimes weaponized—often preventing us from recognizing repeating patterns.
Drawing from education, leadership, and human behavior, the conversation emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, embracing complexity, and resisting the urge to seek quick moral conclusions. This episode invites listeners to rethink how history is taught, discussed at the dinner table, and applied to modern life—encouraging curiosity over certainty and inquiry over judgment.
Keys:
History is curated, not neutral
- What we remember—and what we omit—shapes how we see ourselves and others.
“Good vs. bad” narratives flatten complexity
- Simplifying history into heroes and villains prevents deeper understanding of how events unfold.
Conditions matter as much as character
- Geography, economics, fear, incentives, and social pressure often shape decisions more than individual morality alone.
Learning history isn’t the same as memorizing facts
- Passing a test does not equal understanding the forces and patterns behind historical events.
Questions should invite exploration, not just assessment
- Real learning happens when questions are open-ended and encourage dialogue rather than predetermined answers.
Unlearning requires discomfort
- Growth comes from resisting easy conclusions and sitting with nuance, ambiguity, and disagreement.
These lessons apply beyond history
- The same thinking patterns show up in leadership, organizations, families, and everyday decision-making.
Closing Summary:
Mike and Melissa close the episode by reminding listeners that the purpose of studying history isn’t simply to label events as right or wrong—it’s to understand how societies arrive where they do, and how similar conditions may still be shaping our world today. By unlearning our reliance on simplified narratives and embracing thoughtful questioning, we become better equipped to recognize patterns, challenge assumptions, and engage more meaningfully with one another.
As always, Unlearning Out Loud isn’t about providing final answers—it’s about creating space for better conversations. The episode ends with reflections on leadership, curiosity, and the value of examining the systems and incentives behind human behavior, leaving listeners with plenty to think about long after the episode ends.

Episode Summary:
In this second installment of our opening series, we continue digging into a tough but universal question: Why does it often feel like everyone around us is difficult, unreasonable, or “the problem”?
Melissa and Mike unpack the layers behind our snap judgments, the stories we tell ourselves, and the habits we’ve unknowingly built over years of conditioning. This episode explores how our personal narratives, leadership experiences, and emotional triggers shape the way we interpret—and misinterpret—others’ behavior.
Through honest reflection, personal stories, and plenty of laughter, Episode 2 challenges listeners to move from blame to curiosity. It's an invitation to unlearn the knee-jerk labeling and step into a more reflective, compassionate mindset.
Key Takeaways:
1. The stories we default to aren’t always the truth.
- We often assume intent based on how something makes us feel, not on what actually happened.

2. Leadership magnifies perception.
- In positions of responsibility, small misunderstandings can feel bigger—and more personal—than they actually are.
3. Patterns come from our past.
- Our upbringing, work culture, and lived experiences shape our reactions before we even notice them.
4. Curiosity softens conflict.
- A simple shift from “What’s wrong with them?” to “I wonder what’s happening for them?” changes everything.
5. Unlearning happens in small, deliberate moments.
- Awareness doesn’t erase old habits—but it gives us the chance to choose differently each time.
Closing Summary:
Episode 2 continues our journey into unlearning the assumptions, stories, and emotional shortcuts that shape how we see others. When we pause long enough to reflect on our reactions, we create space for empathy and better communication.
As Melissa and Mike remind us, the work of unlearning isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress, intention, and understanding that there’s always more beneath the surface than we initially assume.
Stay tuned for Episode 3, where we push the conversation even further and explore how unlearning can transform not just our relationships, but our leadership as well.

𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲:
Welcome to the very first episode of UnLearning: Out Loud! where hosts Mike and Melissa dive headfirst into a question we’ve all asked ourselves: Is everyone else the problem—or could it be us?
Through humor, honesty, and a bit of social psychology, they unpack the concept of Attribution Bias—how we explain our own mistakes as situational, but see others’ mistakes as personal flaws. From traffic mishaps and missed deadlines to locker room oversharing, the duo explores why our brains make these snap judgments and how to pause before assuming the worst.
They also dig into how this bias shapes relationships, leadership, and workplace culture—and how to reframe our thinking to become more self-aware and empathetic humans.
To lighten things up, Mike shares his annual horror movie coping ritual for Halloween, Melissa reflects on being on “baby duty,” and together they kick off their ongoing segment, “Stuck in Our Craw,” where they hilariously rant about life’s small absurdities.
🧠 𝐊𝐞𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞:
- Attribution Bias: Why we give ourselves grace but judge others harshly.
- The Fundamental Attribution Error: The human habit of linking other people’s behavior to their personality instead of their situation.
- Self-Serving Bias: How we take credit for success but deflect blame for failure.
- Hostile Attribution Bias: When we interpret neutral behavior as a personal attack.
- Energy & Emotion in Decision-Making: How our brains conserve energy by choosing quick (and often wrong) judgments.
- Unlearning Tip: Treat your first explanation for someone’s behavior as a draft, not a verdict.
💡 𝐂𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲:
In this debut episode, Mike and Melissa remind us that we’re all human—and that our knee-jerk judgments about others say more about us than them. By slowing down, asking what else could be true, and giving others the same grace we give ourselves, we can begin to unlearn some of the faulty thinking that fuels division and frustration.
𝑹𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓: 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒂𝒍 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒙 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒆—𝒊𝒕’𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒆 𝒊𝒕.
📱 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐌𝐢𝐤𝐞:
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Episode Summary:
In this kickoff “Episode Zero,” Mike Lee and Melissa Sadorf introduce Unlearning Out Loud, a podcast for curious humans who are willing to rethink what they think they know. With humor, humility, and a whole lot of curiosity, Mike and Melissa explore why humans cling to misinformation, how childhood myths shaped our understanding of the world, and why unlearning is often harder than learning something new.
From quicksand panic and gum-growing-in-your-stomach myths to the questionable life lessons of Curious George, they shine a light on how confidently—and often incorrectly—we carry beliefs into adulthood. They also reflect on their shared background as lifelong educators, their friendship, and the conversations that inspired this podcast.
In this episode, listeners are introduced to the show’s mission: to create space for curiosity, challenge long-held assumptions, and laugh through the process of being delightfully wrong. Unlearning Out Loud isn’t about proving or disproving truths—it's about making room for updated understanding, asking better questions, and embracing the weirdly wonderful ways our minds work.
Keys (Key Takeaways):
1. Unlearning Is Part of Being Human
- We all carry beliefs formed from half-truths, old stories, pop culture, childhood warnings, and the many things we thought adults were right about. Recognizing this is the first step toward growth.
2. Curiosity Beats Certainty
- True curiosity means being willing to reexamine what we “know.” Mike and Melissa emphasize that curiosity—not being right—is the actual goal.
3. Our Beliefs Become Our Identity
- Often, we protect our opinions because they feel like part of who we are. Unlearning requires humility, humor, and the courage to update our internal operating system.
4. Learning Adds, Unlearning Clears Space
- If learning is downloading new information, unlearning is deleting glitchy old code. You can’t upgrade if you don’t clear out what no longer serves you.
5. We’re All In It Together
- This podcast is an invitation to sit at the table, laugh at ourselves, rethink things we’ve carried for years, and explore the complexity of being human—without judgment.
Closing Summary:
Unlearning Out Loud begins with a reminder that even our most confidently held beliefs may need revisiting. In this playful and thoughtful introductory episode, Mike and Melissa set the tone for what’s to come: conversations rooted in curiosity, humor, and a shared willingness to admit that we don’t know everything—and we’re not supposed to.
Listeners walk away encouraged to question old assumptions, explore new perspectives, and embrace the joy of discovering that there might be more—or less—to know. This episode lays the foundation for a podcast that helps us rethink, relearn, and laugh our way toward better understanding.