From foster care and narcissistic abuse to stage-four cancer survivor and trauma-informed life coach, Trish Osborne shows how unlearning perfectionism and people-pleasing becomes real healing.

What if the "good girl" rules are making you sick and small. In this raw, compassionate conversation, Trish Osborne shares her path through foster care, sexual abuse, two narcissistic marriages, and stage-four ovarian cancer, and how she rebuilt self-trust, boundaries, and a life of purpose. We talk nervous system healing, spiritual support, and the truth about generational patterns so you can stop carrying what is not yours.

Key Takeaways

• Perfectionism is a survival strategy, not a personality trait, and it is teachable to release.

• People-pleasing is boundary failure. Your body will keep the score until you change the pattern.

• Healing is daily. Treat it as a gift. Choose one doable practice and repeat.

• Jealousy signals unmet needs. Address the need and the charge dissolves.

• Spiritual support can coexist with grief. You can honor the past and choose a new future.

• Stopping generational trauma begins with honest repair and clear boundaries.

Memorable Quotes

• "Healing is a gift, not a chore." — Trish

• "I was taught to keep everyone else comfortable and it nearly cost me my life." — Kathy

• "Perfection kept me safe as a child. It kept me stuck as an adult." — Trish

• "At any point you can declare your sovereignty and live your own life." — Kathy

• "My people will find me because I am willing to be authentic." — Trish

Guest
Trish Osborne is a trauma-informed life coach who helps women release perfectionism and people-pleasing, rebuild boundaries, and end generational patterns. First session is free to check energetic fit.
Find Trish on Facebook: Your Healing Journey with Trish Osborne.

Resources Mentioned

• Kathy's books: Unlearn the Crap and Level UP: Your Soul Is Calling and How I Unlearned My Crap (Amazon and bookstores).

• Kathy's site: https://kathybaldwin.me

What actually changes results—strategy or self-belief? In this soul-level, practical episode, Kathy Baldwin and Patricia Stepler dismantle the myth that success starts outside of you. We dive into the Law of Polarity, Law of Relativity, and Law of Gestation—and why the Law of Attraction is an effect, not the cause. You'll hear how Patricia stopped outsourcing her future to systems and "shoulds," and how a powerful identity shift helped her family defy the odds. If you've read every mindset book yet your outcomes still look the same, this one's for you.

➤ Connect with Patricia / Free Gift: https://CreatingTopProducers.com

Explore Kathy's world: https://kathybaldwin.me

Books: Unlearn the Crap & Level UP: Your Soul is Calling and How I Unlearned MY Crap and The Unlearned Life (Amazon & bookstores).

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🎙️ Key Highlights

• Guest's "Crap to Unlearn": Stop outsourcing your future to employers, systems, and "shoulds." Your outside results won't change until your inner beliefs do.

• Kathy's tie-in: We talk about how beliefs drive hormones, stress, and the nervous system—and how that biochemistry writes your outer reality.

• Notable context: Patricia's pivot began when her son (a type 1 diabetic) earned a full athletic scholarship—proof that belief + aligned action can beat the odds.

• Relatable signs: Stuck on a pay scale, waiting for permission, feeling like "I've done self-help for years but my results haven't changed."

• Myths challenged: "Law of Attraction is the cause." (Patricia reframes it as an effect.) "Timing is in my control." (Law of Gestation says otherwise.) "My way is the only way." (Law of Relativity shifts perspective.)

• Action step: Audit three areas where you've been obeying "shoulds." Apply: Polarity (find the opposite), Relativity (choose an empowering lens), Gestation (release the timeline).

• Guest freebie/CTA: Add Patricia's link here → [Insert website/quiz/gift link] and I'll weave it through all assets.

💡 Memorable Quotes

• Patricia: "Results change when beliefs change—never the other way around."

• Patricia: "Law of Attraction is an effect. The cause is what you believe and embody daily."

• Patricia: "Get rid of the 'shoulds.' The Law of Gestation says timing isn't your business."

• Kathy: "Your biochemistry is writing your outer reality—beliefs show up as hormones, stress, and decisions."

• Kathy: "Perspective is power. Change the lens; change your life."