I almost quit.

After a long season of health challenges, burnout, and disillusionment, I came close to walking away from writing, podcasting, and this work altogether. In this episode, I share what brought me to that edge—and what pulled me back.

This episode marks a reset for Unfeigned Christianity as we begin 2026.

We talk about why the church desperately needs to be theologically anchored, why emotional health is essential for discipleship, and how we are often being formed more by media and politics than by the way of Jesus.

This isn’t a polished manifesto.
It’s an honest conversation.

If you’re longing for a faith that is grounded, emotionally healthy, and capable of loving others well—this journey is for you.

*You can read the written version of this episode here.

00:00 Welcome Back and Personal Updates
01:18 Introducing Zara Aurielle
02:47 Reflecting on the Past Year
04:40 Upcoming Interviews and Themes
09:06 The Importance of Theological Anchoring
17:54 The Need for Emotional Health
27:10 Loving and Discipling Others Well

If you’re tired of shallow faith, reactive Christianity, or pretending everything is fine—this space is for you.

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Grace and peace.

After Rewiring Desire, one question remains: Can I really change—and can I do it alone?
In this episode, Asher shares an important announcement: enrollment is now open for the Live Free Mentorship Community—a 5-month guided journey toward sexual and spiritual wholeness.

This isn’t another accountability group. It’s a safe, grace-filled space to process your story, rewire old patterns, and experience the connection your heart was made for.

You’ll learn:

• Why isolation keeps you stuck

• What makes Live Free different

• What’s included inside the mentorship

• A special Black Friday offer for early members

You don’t need to be perfect to begin—just willing.
Join the community: https://www.asherwitmer.com/the-live-free-mentorship-community/

Freedom isn’t about a flawless record. It’s about connection in the moment of pain. In Part 3, we get practical: unblending from Exile/Manager/Firefighter, using simple daily practices to calm your nervous system, and building secure attachment with God and safe people. Learn why willpower fails, how neuroplasticity helps, and how to turn relapse into relationship—so your automatic response becomes “I’m hurting → I connect.”

00:00 Introduction to Healing and Rewiring Desire
00:48 Understanding Internal Parts and Their Roles
02:20 Identifying the Root Causes of Pain
03:37 Neuroscience of Healing and Rewiring the Brain
05:18 Setbacks and the Journey to Wholeness
06:10 Community and Support in the Healing Process

Resources & updates:

• Join the email list for the next Live Free Mentorship Community cohort: asherwitmer.com/subscribe

• The “F” Word

What if porn is an emergency strategy—a frantic part of you chasing relief? In Part 2, Asher unpacks Internal Family Systems (Exile, Manager, Firefighter) alongside Romans 7 and Galatians 5 to name the war you feel inside—and to show how Jesus meets every part with safety, truth, and love. You’ll learn a simple prayer for the moment the urge hits, hear a real-life trigger story (the peach tree), and get a free 7-day Porn Recovery Journal to practice this work all week.

00:00 Understanding the Roots of Pornography Use
01:52 The Internal Family Systems Model
05:01 The Divided Self and Spiritual Conflict
09:05 Integrating the Inner Parts with Christ
12:30 Healing Through Connection and Presence

• Free Porn Recovery Journal: www.asherwitmer.com/porn-recovery-journal
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Most men think their problem is lust. But what if it’s pain?

In this opening episode of Unfeigned Christianity, Asher talks about the hidden shame beneath pornography—the exhaustion, the self-protection, and the ache for connection we rarely admit.

You’ll hear:

• Why porn is more about pain than pleasure

• How our attachment wounds drive unwanted behavior

• Why Jesus doesn’t shame us—He meets us

• A simple practice called The “Where Are You?” Pause to begin healing

If you’re ready to move from willpower to wholeness, this episode is for you.

00:00 Confronting the Shame of Pornography
01:23 Understanding the Emotional Roots of Porn Use
03:37 The Path to Healing and Wholeness

Join me as we talk about the pain beneath the porn—and how the gospel meets us there.

Join the conversation & go deeper: http://asherwitmer.com/what-if-your-porn-struggle-isnt-about-lust

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We’re not called to win an empire. We’re called to make disciples. In this episode, I respond to an email about Charlie Kirk, “common sense” politics, and whether America was founded on Christian values. We unpack Jeremiah 29:7 in context, ask what actually reduces harm (from abortion to gender transitions), and confront a hard truth: politics is downstream of culture. If laws can’t change hearts, then discipleship—slow, messy, neighbor-level discipleship—must lead the way. I also talk frankly about Trump, calling out evil on both sides, and why I don’t vote so I’m free to pastor people rather than defend a party. Agree or not, I’d love your feedback and stories from your community.

Chapters

00:00 Context to an Email I Received
08:56 Exploring American Culture and Christian Values
17:13 The Role of Political Ideologies in Christian Values
28:11 Evaluating Leadership and Moral Integrity in Politics
29:55 Engaging with Compassion and Conviction
35:54 Politics and Culture: The Interconnectedness
40:40 The Role of Christians in Cultural Impact
47:31 Discipleship Over Political Activism
52:35 The Call to Make Disciples

• (00:00:00) - Andy Byron and Kristin Cabot Caught in Affair
• (00:02:34) - Public Reaction and Social Commentary
• (00:05:20) - The Impact of Infidelity on Relationships
• (00:08:10) - The Battlefield of Love and Intimacy
• (00:10:37) - The Importance of Emotional Health
• (00:13:09) - Understanding Sin and Its Consequences
• (00:16:06) - The Role of Shame in Sin
• (00:18:21) - Pursuing Intimacy and Connection
• (00:21:03) - Reflection on How to Go Deeper

Many people wonder why I speak out about immigration. Some ask, “Why didn’t you speak up about abortion or LGBTQ+ issues?”

Chapters:

01:12 Personal Context and Cross-Cultural Experiences
04:02 Navigating the Abortion Debate and Christian Responses
08:49 Discipleship and Political Engagement
10:34 Legal vs. Illegal Immigration: A Personal Perspective
16:47 Understanding the Complexity of Immigration Issues
20:36 The Human Side of Immigration: Empathy and Understanding