In Episode 3 of Unbecoming Me, host Toi explores the concept of "Shedding Season" — a transformative period of personal growth where letting go becomes essential. She discusses how life's shifting phases often lead to changes in friendships, forcing deep self-reflection and spiritual awakening. Like a snake shedding its skin, this process involves releasing old identities, habits, and relationships that no longer serve you. While the journey can feel lonely and challenging, Toi encourages listeners to trust the process, embrace new aligned connections, and step confidently into abundance — ultimately becoming their most authentic selves.

Timestamps

Episode Introduction & Shedding Season Overview (00:00:46) Toi introduces episode three, explains "Shedding Season," and discusses life phases and shifting friendships.

Lonely Season & Self-Reflection (00:01:18) Explores the loneliness after losing friendships, self-reflection, and awakening during personal transitions.

Clarity and Doing the Work (00:02:24) Discusses gaining clarity, honesty with oneself, and the challenges and tests of the shedding season.

Meeting New People & Thriving (00:03:42) Describes meeting new, aligned people, embracing thriving, and leaving behind struggle and old identities.

Letting Go of Struggle & Facing Change (00:05:04) Talks about letting go of struggle, adapting to thriving, and reactions from others to personal growth.

Misunderstandings & Doing the Work (00:06:36) Addresses misunderstandings from others, the importance of self-inventory, and recognizing personal progress.

Circle of Influence & Inventory (00:07:41) Emphasizes the need for evaluating relationships and being honest about who can join the next life stage.

Final Thoughts & Encouragement (00:08:52) Encourages listeners to shed what no longer fits, learn lessons, and offers help with self-inventory.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"Now it's time to be honest with yourself, and it's time to do the actual work."

"You're not keeping up with the Joneses. You're not pretending. You're not faking it till you make it. You've actually done the work."

"It's time to let go of who you're not. And that's fine. And so it's time to shed what no longer fits you. It's time to learn the lessons. It's time to heal. It's time to feel. It's time to grow. And it's time to know."

"Remember, the most powerful thing you can be is you."

RESOURCES:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toiwaddles?mibextid=wwXIfr

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbecomingmewithtoi/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unbecomingmewithtoi

FOLLOW THE PODCAST: Unbecoming Me with Toi on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

"Shedding isn't loss—it's making space for the life that truly aligns with who you're becoming."

Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com

Contact us for expert podcast production and support.

In this episode of Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi shares personal do's and don'ts she's learned through her journey of self-discovery. She reflects on lessons around relationships and boundaries, including never chasing people, not placing others above yourself, and recognizing the difference between wanting and needing someone. Toi emphasizes knowing your worth, embracing low-maintenance friendships, and cherishing quality time. She also highlights the importance of being a true partner rather than a fan in relationships. The episode encourages listeners to live authentically and shed old patterns to embrace who they're truly meant to be.

Timestamps

Episode Context & Do's and Don'ts Introduction (00:00:46) Toi explains the episode's connection to the previous one and introduces the topic of life's do's and don'ts.

Setting Expectations & Boundaries (00:01:28) Discusses not demanding what you can't deliver, not insulting intelligence, and the importance of recognizing consequences.

Low Maintenance Friendships & Quality Time (00:02:52) Explains being a low maintenance friend, valuing quality time, and understanding life's obligations.

Experiences & Identity Beyond Roles (00:04:12) Talks about enjoying experiences with friends and exploring identity beyond societal roles like mother or career woman.

Letting Go & Self-Discovery Journey (00:06:18) Reflects on personal growth, letting go of over-giving, and embracing self-worth and alignment.

Six Major Lessons from Unbecoming (00:08:24) Shares key lessons: not chasing people, not putting others above self, and understanding healthy relationship dynamics.

Being a Partner, Not a Fan (00:09:38) Emphasizes the importance of being a partner in relationships, not a fan, and maintaining mutual respect.

Closing Thoughts & Encouragement (00:11:43) Toi offers encouragement, gratitude, and invites feedback from listeners.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"Once ladies become mothers or career-driven women, that's who they say they are, but when you take off those hats, who are you?'

"When I first started this journey of discovering who I was, I overgave, and now I don't do that."

"Now that I truly know myself and I understand my worth, everything's in alignment, and I'm going to continue to walk in this alignment."

"You don't want to give someone so much power that they feel you can't live without them, because you can."

RESOURCES:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toiwaddles?mibextid=wwXIfr

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbecomingmewithtoi/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unbecomingmewithtoi

FOLLOW THE PODCAST: Unbecoming Me with Toi on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

"It's okay to not be okay—sometimes the pause is exactly what prepares you for your next season."

Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com

Contact us for expert podcast production and support.

In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi returns after a brief hiatus, candidly sharing her recent struggles with grief, illness, and life's busyness. She emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to pause, heal, and unlearn societal pressures to always be "okay." Toi encourages listeners to embrace their unique journeys, highlighting her own story of patience and growth through career changes. The episode offers understanding, motivation, and reassurance that everyone's "due season" will come, reminding listeners not to give up and to trust their personal process of healing and transformation.

Timestamps

Personal Update & Absence Explained (00:00:46)
Toi explains her recent absence due to grief, illness, and life challenges, and acknowledges listeners facing similar struggles.

Societal Pressures & Permission to Pause (00:01:25)
Discussion on societal expectations to always be okay, and the importance of allowing oneself to take breaks and process emotions.

Unlearning Guilt & Embracing Experiences (00:02:48)
Toi shares her journey of unlearning guilt for missing events, celebrating personal wins, and valuing meaningful experiences.

Parenting & Value of Experiences Over Things (00:04:13)
Toi contrasts material possessions with the value of experiences for her son, emphasizing growth and exploration.

Encouragement & Motivation to Persevere (00:05:35)
Encourages listeners to breathe, persevere through tough times, and believe in positive outcomes and personal growth.

Due Season & Career Journey Story (00:06:54)
Toi shares a personal story about waiting for the right timing in her career, illustrating the concept of "due season."

Celebrating Success & Embracing the Season (00:08:06)
She celebrates her new job, reflects on growth, and encourages listeners to recognize and embrace their own seasons.

Final Encouragement & Episode Wrap-Up (00:09:25)
Toi motivates listeners to keep going, trust their journey, and not give up, closing the episode with encouragement.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"I've been hit by grief. I've been sick. My son has been sick. Life has just been life-ing."

"Something in my gut told me and reminded me, this isn't your season. You still have lessons to learn."

"This was my season. I got the job, and I'm the happiest I've been because I recognize that this is actually my season for this chapter."

"When I tell you I am a believer in that, and I am on the other end of that, I can tell you it's true."

RESOURCES:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toiwaddles?mibextid=wwXIfr

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbecomingmewithtoi/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@unbecomingmewithtoi

FOLLOW THE PODCAST: Unbecoming Me with Toi on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

"It's okay to not be okay—sometimes the pause is exactly what prepares you for your next season."

Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com

Contact us for expert podcast production and support.