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What if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes?

In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink: attunement.

We explore:

🔹 What attunement is
🔹 How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others
🔹 Why attunement is crucial for both Doms and subs
🔹 What gets in the way of staying present during play
🔹 How attunement makes scenes hotter, deeper, and more emotionally fulfilling

🎁 This episode includes TWO free guided exercises you can use to start practising attunement today—either solo or with a partner. These are powerful tools to help you tune in, connect, and get more out of your kink scenes right away.

Whether you’re brand new to kink or have been in the scene for years, this episode is a powerful reminder that technique means nothing without genuine connection.

Mentioned in this Episode

• Episode #89 Kink in a Small Town and Finding My Brave

1) Self Attunement Exercise

1. Set a timer for 5 minutes.
2. Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes.
3. Gently scan your body from head to toe.
   • What sensations do you notice?
   • Are there any areas of tension, warmth, pressure, openness, tingling?
4. Pick one sensation that stands out. Stay with it for a minute.
   • Does it shift? Intensify? Fade?
   • What emotion might be connected to it?
5. Ask: What does this part of me need?
   • A breath? Movement? A hand placed there?
   • Respond with a small, compassionate action.

2) Attuning to a Partner Exercise

1. Sit facing each other. Set a timer for 5–10 minutes.
2. Choose one person to be the "noticer" and one to be the "receiver."
3. The noticer silently observes the receiver’s body—posture, breath, expression, energy.
4. Ask internally: What do I notice?
5. Offer your observations gently (e.g., “I noticed your shoulders softened when I smiled.”)
6. Swap roles. At the end, reflect:
   • What was it like to be seen that way?
   • What did you learn about your partner?

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xx Harley 🐰

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I’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded… a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible!

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash. Desmond is a passionate pony player who generously opens up about his journey, the beauty of pony play, and what it means to fully embody an alter ego with power, grace, and heart.

We explore:

🔹 What pony play is (and what it isn’t)
🔹 The difference between cosplay and full pony embodiment
🔹 Asexual kink and why eroticism isn’t always the goal
🔹 The psychological state known as “pony headspace”
🔹 What it feels like to transform into Rapidash
🔹 Tack, hooves, and creating a beautiful visual aesthetic
🔹 Types of scenes – from carting and dressage to solo play and bondage
🔹 Finding community and navigating rare kinks in Australia

Desmond’s description of pony play as a living work of art—and Rapidash as a grander, more majestic version of himself—will stay with me for a long time. Whether you’re totally new to this kink or simply intrigued, this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation is a beautiful window into an often-misunderstood world.

🐴 Follow Rapidash:

• FetLife: -Rapidash-
• Intagram: @-rapidash_1

📚 Book recommendation:
The Human Pony by Rebecca Wilcox

🔗 Mentions & Resources:

• Cpony.com – A detailed educational site about pony play
• Etsy – For custom hooves and pony gear
• Wild Gas Masks, Bob Basset, Fury Fantasy – Gear creators mentioned
• HorseLand (AU) – Mainstream horse supplies that double as tack
• FetLife Pony Play groups – Great for community, education, and connection

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xx Harley 🐰

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In this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next.

You’ll hear about:

• The beautiful and frustrating reality of being a regional kinkster
• How my dynamic with Slade is evolving after four years together
• Why craving more doesn’t mean something’s wrong
• What we’ve been experimenting with using bamboo poles
• Reclaiming independence as a submissive—and why it’s complicated

This is a soft, honest look at what happens when your kink journey keeps growing—and you're not quite sure where it's going to take you.

Mentioned in this Episode

• Body Words Exhibition

Want to discover your Core Desires? Book a free Connection Call with Harley at harleyrabbit.com.

xx Harley 🐰

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