Handling Toddler Meltdowns: What Pancakes Taught Me About Emotions

Heather Schalk shares insights and strategies on managing toddler meltdowns using a relatable pancake breakfast scenario that was a true story! She discusses the importance of modeling calm behavior, recognizing frustration tolerance, and teaching toddlers self-regulation techniques. Heather invites listeners to a free guide and class recording: The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast

-Introduction and Overview
-Free Guide
-The Pancake Incident
-Modeling Frustration Management
-Conclusion and Free Guide

"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!

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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.

• Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
• Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast
• Join the Toddler Mom Community
• Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
• Watch the YouTube channel
• Check out the blog

There may just be a method to the madness after all!

Our toddlers are constantly learning about the world around them. And the main way in which they learn is through play and play schemas.

From throwing things and ripping pages out of books to tossing all their toys out of the bin and lining their cars up in a certain way, our toddlers are naturally moving through phases that help them better understand how the world works.

Though it can be frustrating for us as parents, our children aren't just trying to annoy us but are, in fact, simply learning.

Join Heather and Ruth in this mind-blowing episode where the method behind the madness is finally revealed and play schemas are explained!

If your toddler has a knack for throwing, tearing, ripping, dropping, or climbing, then this is one episode you won't want to miss!

About Ruth: Ruth Vercoe is a teacher-turned-mum on a mission to demystify child’s play through understanding play schemas. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is my child doing that?”—whether it’s throwing soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up crayons—you’re certainly not alone.

It wasn’t until Ruth was in the thick of parenting that she realized she had entered this journey with an unfair advantage. Her unique edge was a deep understanding of play schemas—how they show up in young children and how to work with them, rather than against them. Now, she’s passionate about helping other parents gain that same insight.

Ruth comes to this first and foremost as a wife and mum to two amazing young boys.

She brings over 15 years of experience working with children, with the majority of her teaching career focused on junior-aged students. A lifelong learner, Ruth holds a Bachelor of Education, a postgraduate diploma in Special Education, a Certificate in Digital and Online Learning, and a Master’s in Education—not to mention a deep love of the outdoors.

Connect with Ruth on Instagram @Play_Schemas; on her website, playschemas.com; or on her podcast "Demystifying Child's Play"!

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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?

Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.

• Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
• Grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
• Join the Toddler Mom Community
• Follow me on Instagram @twinmom_roadmap
• Watch the YouTube channel
• Check out the blog

Two Secrets to Enjoying the Toddler Years

In this episode, we reveal the two key factors that can help parents actually enjoy the toddler years:
1. addressing shame and
2. letting go of perfectionism.

We discuss how these issues often go unnoticed but heavily impact our parenting experience.

There's also an exciting announcement about the upcoming Free Class and Guide: 'Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Workshop' on May 8th, which offers practical solutions for 7 common toddler struggles. You can get it here.

Learn about the Happy Toddler Confident Parent cohort starting in mid-May and how it aims to provide a supportive community and expert advice across various parenting challenges. Join us to understand how to shift towards a growth mindset and find joy in the beautiful imperfections of parenting, here.

00:00 Introduction: Enjoying the Toddler Years
00:29 Upcoming Workshop Announcement
01:11 Common Toddler Struggles
02:16 Understanding Shame in Parenting
03:28 The Myth of Perfect Parenting
08:32 Perfectionism vs. Shame
09:41 Impact on Parenting Joy
21:43 Breaking Free from Shame and Perfectionism
23:31 Expert Support and Resources
27:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!

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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.

• Sing up for 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges" Book Launch Special for $1.99 here!
• Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
• Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast
• Join the Toddler Mom Community
• Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
• Watch the YouTube channel
• Check out the blog