In this conversation we discuss strategies on how to deal with the feelings of anger and revenge felt towards the affair partner. We talk about whether confrontation is a good idea and how to let go of the perceived injustice of betrayal. We also talk about the inevitable negative effects that anger has on ones health and hopefully manage to motivate ourselves to begin releasing the people that have hurt us, however difficult that might be. You will hear me tear up a bit in this conversation which is just evidence that it takes time to heal from such deep wounds of betrayal. We hope you enjoy this content and if you do please support us by subscribing at www.phoenixinfidelity.com

References:

Study 1 – Immune System Health: Kiecolt-Glaser et al. (2002): This review article discusses the relationship between emotions, particularly stress-induced negative emotions like anger, and their impact on health. It explores the field of psychoneuroimmunology and highlights how emotions can influence immune function, morbidity, and mortality. -https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11752...

Study 2 – Heart Disease: JE Williams et al (2000): This study, conducted as part of the Atherosclerosis Risk in Communities (ARIC) study, examined the association between anger proneness and the risk of coronary heart disease. The findings showed that individuals with higher levels of anger proneness had an increased risk of developing coronary heart disease over time. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10790...

Study 3 – Taking revenge Escalation of conflict: Studies consistently show that seeking revenge tends to escalate the conflict and perpetuate a cycle of retaliation. Research by McCullough, Bellah, Kilpatrick, and Johnson (2001) found that retaliatory aggression often leads to increased hostility and further negative consequences.

Here are a few more references to studies that explore the negative effects of anger on the body

1. Smith, T. W., Glazer, K., Ruiz, J. M., & Gallo, L. C. (2004). Hostility, anger, aggressiveness, and coronary heart disease: An interpersonal perspective on personality, emotion, and health. Journal of Personality, 72(6), 1217-1270. This study reviews the literature on ang